Just Friends?  

rm_nick_kirlos 41M
22 posts
7/3/2005 7:06 am

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Just Friends?

“What I'm saying is -- and this is not a come-on in any way, shape or form -- is that men and women can't be friends because the sex part always gets in the way.”
--When Harry Met Sally

Can Men and Women Be 'Just Good Friends'?

I believe yes, men and women can be platonic friends. Friends as in two people that care about one another, perhaps love one another, but that have no sexual or romantic relationship with one another.

I believe men and women can be platonic friends. Important note though, I don't believe every man and woman has the capacity to have this type of friendship. They have to be open to it and they have to be around others that are open. Like any other friendship they sometimes just have to have a bunch of luck to meet a fabulous person that loves them and yet goes "ewwww don't be gross" when thinking of kissing their mug.

What about you? Do you have friends of the opposite sex? Do you think those of us that say we do are missing a stop on the clue bus?

rm_FreeLove999 46F
16127 posts
7/3/2005 10:00 am

of course you can have friends of the opposite sex, without sex interfering ... otherwise, how the hell could i do it?

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rm_babe_4u_2eat 34F

7/3/2005 10:22 am

I have a guy friend... He lived with me for a year and then moved to North Carolina with me also but we ended up coming back to missouri.. Yes I have thought about havein sex with him but I would never do it.. I even had his "wife" who was a total bitch call and yell at him while we was driving to N.C.. When she heard my voice in the background she was like "I bet you are fucking her too!" After we both stopped laughing I was like" I don't think so." I know that there are not many people that have good guy/girl friends like that.. atleast that I know of... It is weird for some people to just walk up to a member of the opposite sex and guve them a hug and just talk.. Even though we don't see each other often we still give each other a hug and talk.. I don't think that the thoughts of having sex with him get in the way of our friendship.. but that's just me.

playfulwithyou33 56F
961 posts
7/3/2005 10:34 am

Yes, I do believe that men and women can be great friends--for most of my life, my male friends out number my female friends by at least two to one.

papyrina 51F
21133 posts
7/3/2005 12:52 pm

i prefer my male friends to my female ones

I'm a

i'm here to stay

rm_nick_kirlos 41M
5 posts
7/4/2005 11:05 am

I believe that if a male is not especially attracted to a female friend, he will have no trouble being a "platonic" buddy to her. However, if the physical/sexual attraction is there, it is hard (no pun intended) for any given man to want to keep it at just that level. Therefore, no offense, but I believe there is a lot of room for people (especially males) to be disingenuous about saying they have no problem keeping things purely platonic with an especially attractive female friend. Let me ask the women... Don't your "platonic" male friends have a recurring habit of finding reasons to touch you in some way, even if it's just a "friendly" hug? Don't you think they could be trying to create sparks? Please consider the possibility. Truthfully a man and woman can be friends. The relationship can exist without sex. But it is also possible to have a friend and be sexually attacted to them and just not care to act on it. I have a friend, she is what I would call a hottie. I'm not going to ever try and act on it, She is happy in my relationship. I am content to be her friend and that is all.

But could one have a normal friendship with ex-boyfriends?


7/5/2005 9:54 am

Could have ...with ex's but that also is so risky.... while feelings and memories are always present.
depends on what exactly...you have decided to feel for an ex

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