Am I alone out here???  

rm_niceguy1_69 43M
3 posts
8/6/2006 12:41 am

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Am I alone out here???

Well, this is my first blog entry. Not just on AdultFriendFinder, but anywhere. To some extent, I hardly see the point. But reading other blogs has put me in the mood to vent, so here we go.

First, I'll tell you about me. If you haven't read the Blog description, I'm a sexually frustrated nice guy in Montreal, Quebec, Canada. And here's a bonus: I'm in a heavily French-speaking province, but don't really speak it myself! It just seems really hard to meet fun women, and services like this one, which cater to all of North America (truly, it's the whole world, but largely North America), Montreal women are a VERY select group.

Just about every girl I find interesting are VERY far away, and after all: ideally, it would be nice if a virtual meeting would turn into a face-to-face meeting. A girl who's far away, I'm probably not going to meet. I mean, I own a car, but in the grand scheme of things, that doesn't increase my range too much.

THEN there's the fact that so many women, especially hot women, complain about wanting to find a nice guy, that they're sick of all the jerks. But they still keep going for the jerks. I have 2 female friends who have gotten fairly serious about guys in jail, and one has never known the guy OUT of jail! Now, I believe in giving people, even convicts, a chance to prove they've improved, but they SERIOUSLY can't find a law-abiding guy???!?!

And there's another thing: Friend. I don't know what it is about me, but with frightening ease, I land in what Joey from Friends called "The Friend Zone" (first season), where women will consider me a friend and nothing more. My most heard phrase is "Oh, I could never do anything with you, you're like a brother to me!". I once heard this about 2 weeks after I started hanging with a girl! Has T.V. lied to me, where it always seems that the best, strongest relationships developed out of friendship?

Speaking of Friends, 2 couples came out of a group of 6 friends. Granted, one (Ross and Rachel) was on and off, but they still ended up incredibly special to one another and even produced a child together. And That 70's Show had a similar thing... Throughout the length of the show, Jackie ended up in relationships with 3 of the guys, 2 of which we know were friends of hers during the show (Kelso was dating her already at the start, so who knows if they were friends first). Donna ended up in relationships with two friends (Eric through most of the show, and the new guy, Randy, for part of the last season). Is it so unrealistic to think of a friend as more? I have several female friends, any of which I could happily sleep with, kiss, anything, and not only do they declare no interest in me due to friendship, they do so even at times when they gripe about being alone, even when they lament about being horny and needing sex!

So, that's my rant. I know I go on. I tend to do that, which is another reason why I've avoided doing a Blog... I figure most people don't have the patience to read everything I've written.

rm_elena0528 37F
12 posts
8/7/2006 9:00 pm

Hey, I hear you about not being able to find a nice person to hang out with. I have the same problem. If nice guys always finish last, what about us nice girls?
I hear you about the distance thing. Many people I find interesting - and who I think probably fit into the "nice guy" category all live way too far away to be anything more than the occasional, "hi how are you" chat buddies.
I'm also always getting the "you're a nice friend, I just don't want to date you" thing from guys.
So yeah, there's sympathy out here for you!
Good luck in your search for whatever you're looking for!

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