Greener Grass  

rm_lustygirl71 45F
68 posts
7/6/2006 3:10 am

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Greener Grass

Here I go again, on a roll now. My last post just got me wondering whether they ignore us in the hope that they will meet someone better, but just incase they don't they want to leave all options opened. I think men are the biggest culprits in the 'Grass is always greener' syndrome. I hate to say it guys, but it very rarely is. Maybe I'm being sexist and women do this too, I have no experience of women so can't say, but in my experience of men, this is sadly very often the case. I myself got dumped recently for a blonde, all I can say is, it really is his loss.

rm_hornyscot247 40M
29 posts
7/6/2006 5:38 am

Dam you figured us out lustygirl
I hope you don't tar all us men with the same brush
some of us guys are almost half decent

rm_lustygirl71 45F

7/6/2006 7:35 am

I may just still be very bitter! What do you think? I have given it a great deal of thought though, but I guess there are exceptions to every rule.

rm_Pickme20042 49M
18 posts
7/6/2006 2:50 pm

There are exceptions to the rule. It just gets quite tough
for some who won't treat a woman like that, they have already been
characterized. I do understand it happens alot but since
those of us who cannot control the others feel the effects,
it makes for a terrible cycle.

rm_lustygirl71 45F

7/7/2006 12:40 am

It's not really fair is it, but it's also very difficult to allow yourself to open up an get close to someone because of the fear that after a wee while they will get bored and ditch you for someone that they perceive to be better.

rm_Pickme20042 49M
18 posts
7/7/2006 3:42 am

I guess there is no fair way to go about it. You
will either chance your own feelings or the others.
The only thing that may be answer is time. We have all
heard the saying "just don't let yourself get attached
until you know", but when is that? I have been where you
are now, in fact more than once. One thing that is
certain, I am becoming educated on what to look for when
trying to determine these type of things, yet it is still
a chance to take.

rm_lustygirl71 45F

7/7/2006 8:29 am

I agree, took many a chance and lost, but does that mean I should stop taking chances? I feel right now that it does, but, then who loses out? I reckon that would be me, again, confusing. Writing in these blogs helps, I never realised before the advantage of them. I appreciate everyone's comments on them too, thanks guys. x

rm_Pickme20042 49M
18 posts
7/7/2006 2:31 pm

I definitely don't claim to be an expert on this but maybe an
option would be to wait until you have a better outlook on the
situation. It is like anything else, the shock of it right after
it occurs can prevent an open mind. It only leaves the
expectation of the worst. I just don't want to characterize others
by a few I have encountered. By the way, your welcome for the
comments, I just wish I had the answer you need. Talking about
these things helps me as well, your thoughts are interesting, it
can be tough for a guy to get a females point of view sometimes.

elysianpleasure 47M

7/8/2006 10:41 am

You are being sexist.. what I have seen in women of similar nature is impatience. If something doesn't happen on some preconceived time scale they start to put up defense mechanisms and looking for better options. It has happened to me a few times in my life... and without being and ego maniac... I have always been worth the waste. I take my time with things.. and I consider that to be a strength because when I commit I commit honestly and with perspective. Good post.

rm_lustygirl71 45F

7/8/2006 1:04 pm

sorry for being sexist, but my experience is only with guys. I don't think anyone should behave in such a shallow way, if people want to explore all options, tell the person involved that this is the case, then they can make an informed choice if they want to be in that situation. I don't suppose anyone said relationships were easy :'(

LustyTaurus 48M  
21253 posts
7/8/2006 3:00 pm

Just be patient...your love is out there..

rm_hornyscot247 40M
29 posts
7/8/2006 3:44 pm

lets just hope you find your one true love soon and don't get hurt in the mean time>

rm_lustygirl71 45F

7/9/2006 12:09 am

I sound like such a cynic, but I gave up on love a long time ago, hence AdultFriendFinder! I thought I could get all the good stuff on here, ie sex and miss out on the grief, didn't work like that, I got both. It's cool, I'm happy enough where i'm at at the minute, just going with the flow

1586 posts
7/12/2006 8:33 am

My motto is "expect nothing and never be disappointed". It has worked very well for me on this site. LOL

Seriously, there are some decent people sprinkled throughout the site but they are always overshadowed by jerks.

I'd say that you should hang out on the website, enjoy the blogs and get to know some of your fellow bloggers. You tend to stumble across someone when you're not really looking.

Being here is supposed to be fun, right?

Have yourself a lovely day!

rm_lustygirl71 45F

7/12/2006 11:49 am

I think you are right, I have learned the hard way to expect nothing. I must say though that I have met and chatted with some great guys and made some really good friends, so it is all worthwhile. I also believe in fate, what is for you wont pass you by, we can't change that, so we just have to go with the flow sometimes. Makes life a whole lot easier.

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