I have been feeling Very Mortal  

rm_lovelyLady 64F
552 posts
8/5/2005 3:37 am
I have been feeling Very Mortal

Ever get that feeling??

Usually I have no sense of time or age, (unless it is my birthday)

But this is a very intense feeling, I have right now - also it makes me feel extremely fortunate……… indeed!

At work last night, I sat with someone that works in the building and listened to a very frustrating story....
About 18 months ago her husband started to feel ill. Tired and just not good. All of the many symptoms were all minor, but still ‒ something was not right. The first diagnosis was depression, so they tried medicine for that ‒ and it didn’t seem to make any difference. In the last 18 months they had seen numerous Dr’s and most of them basically said they agreed with the original diagnosis of depression. Well over time he just felt a little worse and a little worse, until it was clearly obvious there was something seriously wrong, but still the Dr’s said depression….. Because of that original diagnosis...........

Finally it took a drastic turn and 3 weeks ago he was near death, and nearly comatose, and they were finally able to get the Dr’s to take them seriously and take him to the emergency room and have him admitted for some elaborate tests Now the diagnosis is
Dementia........... and something called
“Shy Dragger”.

Now he has to have round the clock care, because, among other things - he looses his balance and can fall anytime - anywhere ‒ easily. They don’t know yet if some or all of this could have been slowed or stopped if the Dr’s had found the cause earlier….. and started treatment for the “correct problem”

She had done online searches for combinations of his symptoms and never once came up with depression as a diagnosis…
But the Dr’s would not listen to her questions about the possibility that the problem was neurological.
All because of that initial miss-diagnosis.

So, I guess the point I am trying to make here is,
if you have to go to the Dr for something serious.
Do as much home work as you can,
make lists,
and ask detailed questions.
Maybe even find a male friend to ask the questions…………..

Oh, by the way she talked to the original Dr that had said it was depression ‒ and told her the latest problems and the latest, incredibly serious diagnosis….
And all that Dr said was that “she was really tired and burned out”

I’m thinking that Dr needs to take a break from the medical profession…

Take care "All" ‒ really ‒ you have to get involved with your own medical care…


rm_unlistedone 65M
2718 posts
8/6/2005 9:02 am

Thanks for the post, ll. Something we all need to do, I'm sure.

rm_lovelyLady 64F
434 posts
11/25/2005 5:54 pm

update - sadly her husband passed away last month.....

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