What happens when your fuck friend tells you they love you?  

rm_longsilky1 50M
13 posts
11/9/2005 11:25 pm

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What happens when your fuck friend tells you they love you?


I have a old girlfriend that I broke up with on bad terms. Years have passed since our break up a few months ago we saw each other out at a bar. We chatted had a nice time later got together for sex. Now it is about three times a week. Last time she whispered I love you while we were having sex. I honestly did not know what to say. I have feelings for her but she cheated and left me for another man. I just do not trust her and I cannot bring myself to say I love you to her, I am just not feeling it. Does anyone have good advice?

HOTNBOTHERED0414 46F

11/10/2005 12:34 am

DON'T SAY IT IF YOU DON'T MEAN IT OR FEEL IT. AND TELL HER, IF SHE FEELS IT FINE SAY IT , BUT TELL HER YOUR NOT FEELING IT IF YOUR NOT. SHE CAN EITHER TAKE WHAT YOUR SAYING, OR YOUR GONNA LOSE A FUCK BUDDY. BUT DO NOT LIE TO HER TO SPARE HER FEELINGS. IN THE LONG RUN SHE WILL THANK YOU. OR MAYBE WITH A LITTLE MORE TIME YOU TOO WILL FEEL IT AND BE ABLE TO SAY IT. ASK HER TO GIVE YOU TIME TO BUILD UP THE TRUST AND FEELINGS YOU LOST. GOOD LUCK.


rm_zondi1 59M
15 posts
11/10/2005 12:35 am

Just follow your gut feeling big boy. I you love, just tell her and accept that someone better than you will always fuck her. you are grade 3 to her, thats what she takes you for and thats how far she can love you. My honest advice, she is just as starvig as you are, just fuck each other and forgetabout commitments that you cannever be honest and faithful in.


Loosetooth 41M
1146 posts
11/10/2005 3:46 am

You are fucking three times a week.

Now it is possible for you to meet someone and fuck them many times and form no emotional attachment, but that is something special. It is with a person that you have no emotional history with. You meet them and you have a conversation in which both of you clearly states 'we are just fuck buddies'. Even then, more often than not, an emotional bond is formed by one and not the other so destroying the relationship.

BUT THIS IS NOT YOUR SITUATION. You are fucking someone three times a week! How did you not think that an emotional attachment would not be formed? (this is not meant insultingly but you probably did not think) Even if she said 'we are just fuck buddies' you cannot trust it. People say this stuff, believe it even and then it turns out not to be true. Their minds lied to them so they could get what they want.

A close relative once said to me that when people ask for advice they already know the answer and just need to hear it from someone else. The fact that you are not just continuing the relationship and remaining silent when confronted with 'I love you' (or indeed saying it and not meaning it!) means that you are not a bastard. I know this because if you were going to that you would not be here asking people for advice, you would just do it. How often do you see the villain of the piece questioning themselves and asking for advice? ('So Mr. Bond,
Now I am going to make you......wait there, listen guys do you think I should be feeding him to the sharks? Perhaps there is another way, what d'ya reckon?')

The answer is in your entry. You do not love her and you do not trust her, yet she is developing feelings for you. Time to let her go. If you do not the whole thing will just pile up to a messy end. She will probably be quite hurt by this, so you can imagine it six months down the line after she has told you she loves you 63 times. And everytime you hear those words there will be that nasty silence ('..do I say it back?') which will be followed by her disappointment that you never say it back (or say it late, or casually, or never mean it). Then once you finally end it there will be the whole bunny boiling saga to live through.

Your fuck buddy has turned sour. Let her down nice and gentle and move on, else watch the whole thing turn into a nightmare.


FryerProneQuoth 57F

7/13/2009 9:34 am

How can you have sex with someone three times a week and not have deep feelings for her. Without the emotional attachment it is just sex and nothing special so why bother???


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