I was naughty on my birthday--23--WOOT!  

rm_loneremily 33F
380 posts
9/4/2006 10:34 am

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I was naughty on my birthday--23--WOOT!

My celecrations started on the first. Fooled around a little bit with FWB. Meat and potatoes kind of sex.

The 2nd--FWB snd I celebrated my b-day one day earlier at the State Fair. He bought me a bunch of goodies while we walked around... But once we had some cheese curds we both couldn't eat anything else feeling sickly-full.

After walking around and looking at a bunch of stuff--doing some people watching--we went on over to Victoria's Secret for my birthday gift of lingerie with garters and stockings. I erronously didn't try it on in the store and, of course, hated how it looked on once I got it home--RETURN!

Then, we were playing around and trying to decide on different things we'd never experienced but wanted to... I confessed of my longing to be a Dom.

When he breathlessly called me Mistress--goodness--I got chlls. I slapped him for being suck a poor cathelic... Not going to confession for his many sexual escapades.

I'm sure it was quite a sight for anyone that would've wanted to watch: Miss 5'3" commanding Mr. 6'2" around. But it was very sexy to me. He liked it, too. Cool. Noted. Appreciated.

Yesterday was my ACTUAL birthday. Most of the day was spent cleaning. Then I went to my mom's for a special birthday dinner with some really cool birthday presents. It was a double birthday because my little girl's birthday is a few day's before mine. I actually spent my 21st birthday recovering from c-section with her in the hospital.

After the "party" made special by the Hello Kitty cake from my bro (I love Hello Kitty--if you couldn't tell from my tattoo)... My brother watched the kids after I put them to bed (he wouldn't have it wasn't my birthday) so I could go to karaoke with FWB. He was pleased because Everyone else at the bar was buying me drinks in stead of him. He only ended up buying me number five before it was time to go.

Then we went by to my domicile and talked to my bro a tad before he went home. Then we dabbled in a fantasy he wasn't able to placate with his ex--sex while standing. I got a decent pounding up against my bedroom wall before his knees buckled--thereby leaving me to do my little bunny hop on his lap.

It's weird. The nature of this relationship should probably be destructive. Things said and done thus far have been very saddening. But I like it, anyway. I like not having to answer to someone. I like not having to ask before making any major decisions. I also like having time to myself to read and write.

Even though I think a lot of the things he says are lies--I like to hear them and they make me feel good about myself. I try to reciprocate his compliments... But I don't think I do nearly as good a job at saying nice things as he does.

I guess I thought it was going to end a few weeks ago, though. He doesn't sound like he wants this arrangement to end anytime soon. I guess I would like a timeline. Is that an odd request?

Gossip_Anyone 40F

9/4/2006 11:06 am

happy birthday...did u forget my number?

twirly_girl 47F

9/4/2006 3:33 pm


And many more...........


elysianpleasure 47M

9/4/2006 6:01 pm

Happy Birthday!!!!

As far as the relationship goes... it sounds like maybe this is what you need at this time... every relationship doesn't have to perfect or forever. All the best for your special day...

Choozmi 50M

9/4/2006 6:42 pm

I don't think you should put a timeline or a time limit on your FWB relationship. Enjoy!

Frankly, such a relationship could prove to be quite healthy for you. For example, if you aren't in love with this man, then you won't be blinded by love if he mistreats you. Also, if changes need to be made in the relationship, maybe you both will be able to adjust however much is needed without getting hurt or taking it personally.

Just don't forget that FWB contains the word "friend" and don't ever settle for being treated as less than a good friend.

rm_aranayd 46M
2014 posts
9/4/2006 7:45 pm

Sounds like you had a fun birthday. I think I even heard giggles in the tone of your words.

IsThisBetter4u 105M

9/4/2006 8:13 pm

!Happy Birthday!

It's a little odd. What it amounts to is a Termination Contract. If either you gets bored with it and the date rolls around, consideration for the other's feelings might take a backseat to the back door if you know what I mean.

Why do you want a time line? Is the "FWB" part of the relationship turning into more than that for you or for him? ...or is it the "not knowing what to expect" that drives you?

Part of the excitement of a FWB is the element of surprise. When the excitement gets compromised by expectations (either positive or negative) you might end up losing the energy you 2 have. What if he says he doesn't it to end...ever? What are you gonna do then? What about FWB #1?

rm_loneremily 33F
328 posts
9/4/2006 9:29 pm

You make a few good points. I think for a mere second my mind was attempting love-blinders... It was killed by one little comment and the focus was given back to me.

I think the part that is driving me is more the feelings issue. I wonder when I will tire of this and long for actual companionship. If I stay in good moods by myself... This sort of relationship could go on for quite a long time.

But if my moods go and stay sour (and I've had plenty, lately) I know I'll want to seek a mate with more substance emotionally. I wonder how that would feel to my lover if I were actively looking for another while I was with him. I don't think that would feel very good.

If he says he never wants it to end--I would take that as a compliment... But I would also feel wretched because I KNOW I don't want this forever. I know my feelings are temporary. I also know when I feel stronger I will probably go hubby shopping. I don't expect that will happen anytime soon--I just KNOW that that is truly the kind of person I am. I KNOW that I'm a person best suited to a "traditional" relationship.

Not to toot my own horn too loudly--but if you go strictly by my attributes alone; I think that most men would love to have a wife like me. At this point the idea of "finding" a man that will "tolerate" my situation: one that doesn't mind children and being stable enough to handle my depressive episodes--seems too jarring to contemplate. It also sounds like a lot to ask of someone. It also sounds like a situation doomed to failure.

Because I don't like feeling lonely, and I REALLY don't like being sexless... The friends with benefits thing is pretty cool. Especially when it seems so many want to stand in ine to take the role! When this one ends a new one I know will begin shortly thereafter. That ALSO sounds fairly cool.

They were never beating each other to tear down my door, before! Awesome!

LunarIncubus 36M/34F

9/5/2006 10:19 pm

Heh, happy birthday, sorry I am late on the sending. Get in touch with me, we needa chat *hugs*

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