Compliments...  

rm_loneremily 33F
380 posts
8/30/2006 9:16 pm

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9/4/2006 10:40 am

Compliments...


I've never taken compliments well. I think that's because I used to rarely get them.

I get them all of the time, now. They all seem fake to me. No matter who they're from.

I think that some people are sincere--but they don't want to make to extra connection. Guys and girls alike.

It's hard for me to let my guard down. Even though I want to--EVERY time I have in the past I've been burned. Seriously, every time.

I would like to let my guard down and trust someone completely. When I do this I get used. I hate feeling this way.

I really feel like it isn't a good idea to trust people. I feel like the only person that I can really trust is me. Whenever I've accomplished something--it's because I've had determination. However, most of the time when I attempt something I fail.

I think I'm do for someone uplifting. However--I doubt Mr. Reliable will come along anytime soon.

Gossip_Anyone 40F

8/30/2006 10:34 pm

i so know how u feel. i used to be humiliated, now i dont know if theyre making fun of me or actually saying something nice...


IsThisBetter4u 105M

8/31/2006 1:30 am

Unfortunately for us all it will always be every time until the last time. I guess it depends on your definition of "burned"...not all failed relationships are burns, even when they hurt us.

We learn a lot from each of them. Some good and some bad. It's where we find our balance that counts. Keep opening yourself. I shut down for a long while. It still hurts to think of the doors I closed. What could be now.

Sometimes there really is only one set of footprints. You don't want to overlook the guy because you forgot to look a little deeper. He might be a great guy.


rm_devildog4761 34M

8/31/2006 7:59 am

you fall in love by chance, not by choice; you fall out of love by choice not by chance


Choozmi 50M

8/31/2006 12:12 pm

You have given me some very nice compliments on my blog recently. I truly appreciate them.

I started to read your most recent comments when I was on the telephone with a friend and I had to stop reading them because you said such nice things and I wanted to save them for a little later when I could enjoy them without distraction. Later I reread them a couple of times and grinned from ear to ear. Thank you.

I never questioned whether you meant what you said. I couldn't imagine why you would bother saying something that wasn't genuine.

Here's the thing: I see any random compliment as a little gift with no strings attached. When I receive one I rarely wonder what's behind it. I take it in, I allow it to make me feel good for a little while, I thank the giver if I can, and from then on I'm just a tiny bit stronger.

I don't see a compliment as a doorway through which I can step into trusting someone completely. Complete trust comes with time and building a relationship and having shared experiences. A compliment is a little boat on its own little journey, and even if that journey is one-way, it's okay. Heck, I've received compliments from adversaries. I didn't trust the adversary but I trusted the compliment.

I think the best and the nicest thing one can say upon receiving a compliment is not "Oh -- you, too!" but "Thank you!" What more (or less) can one expect upon bestowing a compliment but a simple thanks?


twirly_girl 47F

8/31/2006 7:00 pm

I've got my guards up about trusting people.
But I do love compliments. I so rarely get them
that when I do, I appreciate them... even if they
are not genuine.


-Nikki


Damn_Dilemma 49F

8/31/2006 10:00 pm

I know what you mean but don't give up. I haven't and I know who I will and be happy ever after if he feels the same way too. Just because we have one failure or more, doesn't mean you can't cucceed if you don't keep trying. Just remember, you are worth it and if anyone can't see that then they not worth knowing.
Keep your chin up girl, you seem and sound a good person and deserve better than most. Don't let bitterness get in the way of happiness, I should know because I too have been burnt many a time but I'm still here and everywhere no matter what!!!!
Take care sweets


Serenely_Yours 116
9198 posts
9/3/2006 2:59 am

Im still learning to accept compliments gracefully. Whether its sincere or just surface, I would appreciate. Its not hard as you go along.


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