Men and Male menopause? Help!  

rm_lilypond3 58F
24 posts
5/5/2006 12:25 am

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Men and Male menopause? Help!

I dont get involved with that many men but I need help with this issue!
I have a male freind, not from AdultFriendFinder, I'm seeing that seems healthy in every way(in his late 40's)......we've slept together quite a few times with no action at all...just being close.
Although thats nice..I couldnt help but wonder whats up with that? OR rather Whats NOT!

We've had sex only a few times, and even though I'm ok with it now.. not sure I will be!
Does this sound a bit like male menopause?
Does a mans emotional mood really effect his ability to even be aroused?
I always thought most men couldn't help getting hard even if they tried not to be aroused!
He says he has alot going on in his life and too many issues he's dealing with.
It's been over a year since he was intimate with a woman before me..seems he'd be anxious!
He's NOT gay. NOT even remotely.

I began wondering ...is he just not attracted to me or what? He often says.. "your a beautiful woman" and/or he tells me I'm "a wonderful person"

Yet I'd like to know if this a common affect that happens to men in mid life, or is it more just him?

How is it that he doesn't feel any responce to me?
Why would he want to be around me and with me if he had no interest...he wouldnt.. not that kind of man to waist the time.

I dont really think its ED.
I'd like some input from men that have some experience with the issue.
Can some of you (when not in a committed relationship)really sleep with a woman several times without wanting sex? Just cuddle and kiss some? Whats the reason for it? Its nice but I cant help but wonder if other men have felt this way much. In my experience so far its rare!! I was married when that happened.

Can any of you men or ladies in the know tell me whats going on here?
What's up, or rather whats not!!!! LOL



volcanoinu23 53M

5/5/2006 3:24 am

I can tell you Lily that if all is not well in his life, not everything will work right. He has to concentrate fully to be able to become excited enough for a full fledged erection. He may not be able to do that at all times. As you become older, it is a little more difficult even without the stresses that life can throw your direction.

My advice to you is not to allow him just to sleep with you. If you want hime sexually, put on a show, create and event as I know you can!


iluvjbsinaz 55M

5/5/2006 8:00 am

What volcanoinu23 said.

Stress can really affect a guy, to the point where all he wants is to feel safe, find a place where nothing is demanded of him, with sex the furthest thing from his mind. Maybe he feels that way with you?

But generalizing is also not right. When I'm stressed and I'm with a sweetie, I like the cuddling and touching, but I also like sex because it really reduces the stress level, reminds me that whatever is causing the stress is either something I can't control or something that really isn't worth worrying about.


rm_lilypond3 58F
83 posts
5/7/2006 10:29 pm

Thanks Fellas..
I hope a few more men will fill me in on their experience.

VOLCANO
It difficult for me not to want to be close and sleep together when I do see him...of course..if I do put on a show I guess I'm a bit worried I'll be rejected when it comes right down to it.
He seems to be so tired in the evening and the AM he has to rush off to work if I'm there in the middle of the week.

iluv...
I think he does feel safe with me,one reason I'm in his life at all. I dont ask for much, except some time with him... that even seems to be a demand on him at this point.


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