Have you ever felt compelled to have sex?  

rm_lagano 51M
395 posts
4/24/2006 6:52 pm

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Have you ever felt compelled to have sex?

This was inspired by something I read in virtualgirl81008's post [post 319188] about feeling compelled to have sex with a guy even though she didn't really want to.

I must admit I have a hard time understanding the concept that a woman should ever feel compelled to have sex with a guy. Its just so far from what I can imagine I can hardly believe its true (not doubting her though).

I will admit there has been the odd occasion where I have had sex with a woman even though I didn't really want to. Where she clearly wanted to have sex and I didn't but felt saying no would have been like a slap in the face, like saying "sorry I don't find you the least bit attractive". So I would think "ok sex is not that big a deal" (it's not for a guy,at least not in that way), just get it over with and then you at least haven't insulted her to her face. I think that's quite different from feeling I was compelled to do it, I choose to do it but it might be argued I felt backed in to a corner and had sex to get out of it, but surely its accepted that women can say no for any reason without it meaning your insulting the guy.

I think guys are programmed from birth to expect women to say no more often than not. We're over the moon if it turns out different but its not the end of the world if she says no.

So I would like to know, do ever feel compelled to have sex and why?

Were you really feeling compelled or was it that actually you were more feeling indifferent, another glass of wine would be nice but so would some sex, oh ok I suppose he'll do?

absolutelynormal 56F
6563 posts
4/24/2006 7:54 pm

I did, when I was married.

rm_lagano replies on 4/24/2006 8:00 pm:
Good one, very true.

1ande4u 39F

4/24/2006 8:13 pm

When I was in my late teens early twenties there were a few times I felt compelled to have sex. I was young and ignorant and thought that if a guy treated me nice I should treat him nice in return. Now don't go and phsycho-analyze me, I have a councelor for that. But, it's true. I think young girls who are insecure can be easily compelled. Regrets. A few. But life has made me the wonderful, sexual, confident woman that I am today.

rm_lagano replies on 4/24/2006 9:17 pm:
Yes well I would imagine that a younger woman could more easily feel influenced. Though I wonder though if the average "internet" enabled 20 year old today is more worldly aware and less likely to be influenced.

dankos2069 55M

4/25/2006 11:43 pm

Ive felt compelled to have sex, though I could not go through with it for that very reason. The two brain cells I own become disturbed, the mind starts churning and you just gotta come square, then maybe she can offer something that makes you want to, rather than feeling compelled.

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