Can women be trusted?  

rm_lagano 51M
395 posts
4/6/2006 11:03 pm

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5/7/2006 4:38 am

Can women be trusted?

So your here looking for fun, no strings attached, no comittment, just a FB.

You eventually find one that matches exactly what you want, with the same limited relationships goals.

Things start of wonderfully well.

But can things stay like that?

Despite whatever they say can women really just want only a NSA/FB relationship or are they just built in a way that inevitably they will want more, going to the movies, sleeping over so they can have a cuddle in the morning and then that point you have been fearing from the very start, the moment when you know its going to have to end, your invited to go shopping with them!

Well what do you guys/gals think, will seeing a guy more than once inevitably lead to her wanting more from the relationship?

See also Can men be trusted?

GoddessOfTheDawn 105F
11240 posts
4/7/2006 8:39 am

Nope, not necessarily. Being CLEAR is an issue very often....

rm_lagano replies on 4/7/2006 9:18 am:
I agree communication is important so both are aware of the goals of the relationship and of course nothing is an absolutley certainty but I am not sure that the longer it goes on whether a woman will bond and want more from the relationship despite the initial goals.

See also Can men be trusted? where I am asking about the other side of the coin can a guy be trusted to commit to a relationship when it started here.

Shelly_Marie 44F

4/7/2006 9:56 am

Its not impossible, but it seems that most FWB relations always end for some reason or another anyway, even if its just from loss of contact or someone moved etc.

Shelly_Marie 44F

4/7/2006 9:59 am

or also if it does stay that way, the person will eventually decide to run off with another fwb and you lose contact that way too, but it is possible for women to not want more.

rm_lagano replies on 4/7/2006 6:03 pm:
Yes agreed with what your are saying they will tend to end anyway and maybe they end before and bond can form but I am thinking that when they do end and for a moment assuming it wasn't the woman who ended it whether she will more likely still feel hurt maybe a bit bitter becuase for her some bond had formed.

I mean that in some way men don't need to form a bond with someone to have sex with them, whilst women most often require that bond even if it is a one sided emotion and that it is this bond that continues to grow as long as they are seeing each other.

douxetlent 65M

4/7/2006 10:19 am

A lot of life can be missed out of skepticism and fear.

I agree with Goddess, being clear is essential. If you are honest in the first place, when things change direction it should be no problem to say "This isn't what I signed up for."

So take the opportunity. If she suddenly wants to go shopping, or if he wants her to meet mom, at least both of you will have enjoyed a good movie and some cuddling in the morning.

Honestly allows a relationship to end without losing a friend.

rm_lagano replies on 4/7/2006 5:57 pm:
Ideally yes I agree with you, being able to part friends would be good.

I think though the reality is a lot more complicated, much less black and white, both sides tend to get drawn into this step by step and can then find themselves in far deeper than they really expected or wanted and then extracating themselves can be very awkward and difficult to achieve on a friendly basis.

Someone's feelings are going to be hurt, it takes a very strong person to be able to accept it and move on without leaving a bitter aftertaste.

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