Are you really as open minded as you think?  

rm_lagano 51M
395 posts
4/16/2006 8:26 am

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4/17/2006 8:31 pm

Are you really as open minded as you think?

We probably all think we are open minded to some degree, I mean we are here on a sex site looking for something, whatever that may be, so we are not just your average everyday guy's and gal's are we.

Lets say you are lined up for a ONS with someone, you have agreed you will have sex this time or at least your pretty certain it will happen. Its an ONS so no commitment is given or expected right, but would it bother you to know they had slept with someone else the night before?

Guys how you feel to know the girl had had sex with another guy less than 24hrs before, would it put you off, make you want to skip it and try again another time?

Gals how would you feel to know he slept with another woman last night?

Well here's the thing I have on occasion tried an MFM threesome so being with a woman while she is also having another guy obviously is not something that instantly puts me off but it would put me off to meet a woman 1-on-1 knowing she had been with another guy a few hours before.

For some reason the sloppy seconds syndrome pokes it's head up, but there no logic to that is there?

Not sure maybe it because a one-on-one encounter is more intimate, is that it, hmm, odd?

To make it more complicated when talking over this scenario with someone I was asked what would I feel if the situation was reversed. Would I have a problem sleeping with one woman one day and another a few hours later?
Hmm, gulp, don't know the answer to that, at my age I would probably say I don't have the energy lol but thats a cop-out.

papyrina 51F
21133 posts
4/16/2006 10:53 am

i would rather not know lol if he'd dipped his dick in the last wek let alone the night before

For myself i would rather not sleep with too many differant guys in a month

I'm a

i'm here to stay

rm_lagano replies on 4/16/2006 5:21 pm:
Yes I would also rather not know,
but it is curious how we maybe can accept a threesome but get all funny about a 1-on-1.

rm_pagan380 64M
4405 posts
4/16/2006 12:40 pm

If evebody's clean smelling and clean tasting I have no problems sharing bodily juices, good sex is messy! With more than two people it's even more so. I'm all for a quick clean up then on to more fun.

Come play naked in the sunshine and dance naked under the stars.


rm_lagano replies on 4/16/2006 5:37 pm:
Good for you Pagan!
Spoken like someone who has his shit together and is free from all hangups, a true Hedonist.

I sadly fail here and signs of possesiveness and jealousy creep in which I find really odd because I am comfortable with the "more than two" scenario's.

I still havent figured out what it is that my mind objects to, why 3 people having sex in the same room is ok but 3 people involved in 1-on-1 sex separately could make me uncomfortable.

southrnpeach333 50F

4/16/2006 4:05 pm

This may be another area for the don't ask don't tell policy to be in effect.

rm_lagano replies on 4/16/2006 5:18 pm:
Yes, personally I have got to agree with you here, I'd rather not know lol

rm_mmmgoodnova 105M/105F
1259 posts
4/17/2006 11:31 am

Gawd...I've never really thought about it from that standpoint...we are too new at this...but thanks for the new perspective!

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