Who would you call?  

rm_kelli4u2dew 41F
7027 posts
6/26/2006 10:49 pm

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Who would you call?


I saw a story the other day about a study in the American Sociological Review about people and their friends.

The gist of the study is that Americans have fewer close friends than they used to. In 1985, the average respondent said they had 3 people they could confide in, in 2004, they had two. But 25% said they had no close confidants at all.

Other findings: the percentage of people who confide only in family went from 57% to 80%, and the number who depend totally on a spouse went from 5% to 9%.

A couple of weeks ago, Blue had his ATM card cancelled while he was on a business trip. He got back, had no money for a taxi. So, he pulled out his cell and started calling friends. The third one he called came and took him home.

I'm currently in a hotel 2000 miles from home. If I had that kind of problem when I get back, I wouldn't have anyone to call. I'd just have to rot in the damn Denver airport. If I was still living in Louisville, no problem, I could call at least a dozen people.

Anyway, the conclusions of the study are that people are increasingly more isolated and lonely in our society. People, in general, have fewer close friends than they used to.

It did say that some new trends, "such as online social networking" might be taking the place of close, personal contacts.

But I think that's sad, that one out of every four people have no one they feel they can confide in. As much as I enjoy the friends I've made here, I just don't think it's the same as being able to call someone up and say what ever's on your mind, to cheer with or cry with, or just talk about nothing.

Who do you tell about your triumphs, your failures, your fears and your pain?

Nightguy_1961 55M
4866 posts
6/26/2006 11:17 pm

My lady......sometimes....

Most times, I just keep it all bottled up inside....

NG61...slipping back into the darkness...


rm_xxxtheline 53M

6/26/2006 11:28 pm

When living in Wyoming I had lot's of freinds who would come pick me up at the airport. Now in California it would just be family.

I'd bet if you found yourself in such dire straights you could find a stranger at the airport to give you a ride home.

I'd even bet if you had your laptop, and posted your predicament on your blog, a few people would try to fly over, take you to dinner, and rent a car to get you home safely.

Or perhaps one might even arrange a rental car for you long distance until you could repay them.


Choozmi 50M

6/26/2006 11:37 pm

On Sunday afternoons I used to pull out my phone number list (mine was a computer print-out) and call friends out of the blue. I'd happily spend four to six hours on the telephone and love every second of it.

Now... let's just say that although I love a long conversation as much as I ever have, these days it feels like most people I talk to are in a hurry to get somewhere else. It's hard to not take that personally. It's also discouraging to call a friend out of the blue and basically be treated like, "Oh hello, what can I do for you?" as though I needed a reason for calling.

I do love blogging and e-mails but they're not substitutes for conversation.

This afternoon I visited an old friend and as much as we wanted to just chat and chat, she needed to keep checking on her four-year-old daughter and it was hard for the conversation to go very deep with the constant interruptions. (Of course, I'd absolutely want her to be paying attention to her kid; it just made it a little hard to talk.)

However, I can think of no reason for the across-the-board statistical increase in loneliness. Can anyone else?


TheCliticals 34F/F

6/26/2006 11:48 pm

I must be lucky. I have Dee
Sandy


Transblucency 44M

6/26/2006 11:58 pm

It's just what I've come to expect from those pantywaists at the American Sociological Review. It's perfectly easy to quickly develop those bonds of trust that transcend the notion of "stranger".

Simply drink a quart of whisky and start speed-dialing randomly. When someone answers, start incoherently sobbing and raving out all your innermost fears, secrets and frustrations.

Trust me, it's extremely cathartic. For both sides of the call, I like to think. Normally though, when I'm finished I just hang up (hey, at 4am I need my beauty sleep!) so I can't say for sure.


rm_lust2u2 51M

6/27/2006 1:27 am

My best mates and my family


TabithaElectra79 37F

6/27/2006 2:06 am

There are 5 people I can confide in. But even they still don't know evertything!


whats4dessert2 49M

6/27/2006 3:00 am

I read an article on the same study. I'm a person who has always had a very short list of friends. It usually takes years to develop a relationship to the level that I would call a person a "friend". The term has very deep meaning to me and, in normal circumstances, a friendship too easily given is one that is easily forsaken.

I have five. One of the other four, oddly, only one is male. (Altough I have a lot of guys that I play poker with, go on golf weekends with etc.) only one has reached that rather elusive status of "friend".

These five people are the kind of people who I would travel to the ends of the earth for if they needed me and I'd do it in a heartbeat. They're also the kind of people who would return the favor.


mickdevil 50M/52F
3496 posts
6/27/2006 3:04 am

I don'nt think there is any1 person you totally confide in there is always somethin you would'nt say to that person
The only person that would come close to totally knowing who I am secrets and all would be mick,but I do have 4 friends that I count on.

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JuicyBBW1001 54F

6/27/2006 3:16 am

I have 2 friends but I have always been like that. However I am learning to reach out more and am cultivating some new friendships.

Juicy


fantasylover_05 62M

6/27/2006 4:30 am

I have a good friend I could call for things like your airport scenario....

However.... I have no one I "truly confide in"...................


JazzDlight 59F

6/27/2006 4:35 am

Making friends especially as you get older is very hard. When I was a teenager and in my 20's I had tons of friends and I was never home. Now it is a different story. At my age everyone is married, has children, jobs, moved away, etc. People's lives are so busy that they just don't have time for anyone but family anymore and even sometimes they don't always have time for them so fitting someone else in their lives is difficult. I have very few friends (I could count them on one hand) and nobody that I can really tell my inner most thoughts to. It can be a very lonely life indeed and can lead to depression and anxiety of which I am quite familiar with. Great post thank you for bringing this out into the open.


rm_1SweetBitch 55F
8575 posts
6/27/2006 4:46 am

I have many acquaintances...but as far as a true friend that I can count on and can tell anything to...that would be my Mother.

No Day Is So Bad It Can't Be Fixed With Great Sex!

1 SweetBitch


rm_truedom2 55M
663 posts
6/27/2006 4:57 am

Great Post!
It really hit home with me. My closest friend moved to Washington about a year ago (the bitch) to get married and making new friends at 45 seems a lot harder than it did at 30.


rm_macallan4u 46M
968 posts
6/27/2006 5:12 am

I have always avoided confiding in anyone. The weird thing is that I know I can count on and trust at least half a dozen friends. I just don't like sharing too many things about myself. It's probably why I still don't have a blog (even with Safira and Tabs trying to get me to start one). My good friends do get to here me talk about my triumphs and failures, It's the fears and pains that I keep to myself. So tell me, do I need a couch?


titan_firm 43M

6/27/2006 5:23 am

My best friend is a school friend of mine, we seem to sort out each others problems quite a lot, when I was married it was my wife that took some of the problems, but when she left it was my friend that stopped my self distuction and found me a new home and job.
My sister is always there, but she is more of a shoulder to cry on than a problem solver.

T&F


titan_firm 43M

6/27/2006 5:29 am

Oh, it's me again.
On the subject of ATM cards, I have a debit card and a credit card from the same bank, back on the first of May they noticed I had driven several miles, so tried to contact me, they only had a landline, why should my bank have my mobile/cellphone number, they stopped both the cards on a bank holiday weekend. It took several days to sort the bank out. Good thing my travel bag had a selection of foreign currency that I could change.


StaynHardnHot 42M
305 posts
6/27/2006 5:37 am

Well Kel my dear, i for one would come rescue you anywhere in the country..lol..all you have to do is ask. Course it might help to have my number..lol Having travelled extensively myself and found myself in numerous difficult situations, i have been suprised , but more often disappointed as to who answers THE CALL, and who does not. as a result of the later, i keep the friend i rely on to a very minimun, as i have found, trying to rely on too many people, will surely leave you disappointed. By the way, let me know if you need those digits..lol...i've being dying to take my 4wd on a rescue mission..


Notfunanymore 105F
10289 posts
6/27/2006 7:31 am

Well, Kelli, I'd come get you from the airport, if I were in Colorado still, even if I lived in the Springs.........

As far as me and the people I can count on..... or tell all my business to .... No one! I pretty much take care of myself!


MaggiesWishes 59F

6/27/2006 8:04 am

"nadda" I'm too private.

warm huggies 2ya Sis

Be wary of friendly strangers ... mom can be right sometimes


SirluvsStorms 46M
684 posts
6/27/2006 10:31 am

Shaun flew to Arizona for a 20, 30's club meeting this last weekend. He ended up not being able to fly back at the same time as the rest of the bunch that went and had to come back later.. He was stuck at the Oakland airport an hour before he remembered my number! Sometimes people think they have asked too much of me. Sometimes they stop talking to me because I have done so much for them that they don't know how to deal with it. Some people keep track of stuff like that and then feel guilty. Some people just use me In any case.. If I have done something for a friend or extended my self.. I have done it because I wanted to do it and in doing it I am sure I am blessed. There are those that feel if they show caring towards a person of the opposite sex that then that person will think that they want them sexually. It can be a sturdy mind that keeps intent to a good path. In any case making friends can be a hard task or an easy task .. just remember that we make it hard or easy just by our intentions, faith and worries.


T_A_B_75 41M

6/27/2006 10:31 am

I must be one of the lucky ones. You posed a great question so I thought about it and looked at my phone list (on my cell), it doesn't include everyone though. I have a list of 74 contacts, 12 are work related so they don't count, 33 are just acquaintances so they're out. The rest (29) are close friends, who pretty much share everything with each other. Since it is a mixed group (male, female and a wide age range) certain advice\stories aren't asked\told to everyone.

I share everything with everyone. I prefer not to filter anything. It's easier that way and my friends like the stories.


Sorry if it sounds like bragging.


SirluvsStorms 46M
684 posts
6/27/2006 10:36 am

I flew into Sacramento once from Oaklahoma not knowing who was going to pick me up. Kelly dropped what she was doing and drove the 4 hours round trip to pick me up. She was the 3rd person I called too. I loved this post. It made me think. Im off to go do some good deeds. and make some new friends


RevJoseyWales 69M/66F
14393 posts
6/27/2006 11:41 am

As far as borrowing money, getting a ride, getting bailed out, I have a bunch of people I could call, family and friends. At least 10-12 names on that list. I've done quite a few favors through the years. As far as confiding, it's Carol or not at all. And even that's difficult at times, for fear of upsetting her. I think it's harder for males in that respect. I know I have a certain image that MUST be maintained in front of everyone, and confiding my fears etc just doesn't fit the image of strength and dependablility that I keep. A man's gotta be strong you know. I have always been the one that people turn to when there's a problem or a crisis. Gotta keep the image up. So I bottle up a lot of things, keep them inside. Not much else I can do, nor would I want to. I like being the "go to" guy, so I can't allow myself to show weakness, even if it's there. Joe

"McVeigh had the right idea, wrong address."

"This ain't Dodge City, and you ain't Bill Hickok."


rm_FreeLove999 46F
16127 posts
6/27/2006 1:11 pm

this is a terrible state of affairs. i have three people i can and do turn to with ANYTHING: my husband, my best friend and my sister, then i have a couple of other friends who i can turn to with anything, but i don't turn to them...



[blog freelove999]


rm_ChiRugger 42M

6/27/2006 1:35 pm

I feel that many people are closing themselves off. I think people are more willing to help than that study would have you believe. We have grown up in an era where being self sufficient in all areas of our life is expected of everyone. Before the internet if I couldn't remember the name of the "My Two Dad's" actor who was the other dad... not Paul Riser... what's his name? I would call a friend. Now I google it. Those stupid calls lay the foundation for a greater relationship. Your test is to call an several people who you call an acquaintance, and ask for help. I'm sure you would be surprised who would help. We are all seeking friendships, but we are all afraid to make the first move. My god it's the first week of Junior High all over again. By the way his name on the show was Joey Harris, and hs real name is Greg Evigan.


Twister2bed 47M
617 posts
6/27/2006 1:50 pm

I'm not a share my success or failures type, Like NG said I bottle it up but instead of keeping it inside I throw the bottle away and forget it ever existed LOL

If I really must I just talk to a friend. But I prefer not to dump my problems on them.


rm_ByNaomi 35F
1261 posts
6/27/2006 2:02 pm

My mother.
She gets to hear it all sooner or later and the things she doesn't hear about she already knows?! Wicked.. But I'm getting used to it

My best friend.
Also known as "AlmostRusty" on here, whos been my best friend
for the last nine years or so..
Did I just type 9 years?? Must mean that I'm getting older

My boyfriend.
Who strangly enough knows all my secrets..
It's almost breathtaking how you can feel so close to someone..

© ByNaomi MyMirrorWithin 05'-08'


HoopsPhymaUreal 41M
153 posts
6/27/2006 3:31 pm

I know how you feel Kelli. All the people I call with that kind of stuff live back in Texas. Of course there's email, and I can still call them just to talk, but yeah if I get stuck somewhere I'm pretty much on my own.


tootsiedippin 53M/52F
1078 posts
6/27/2006 4:47 pm

    Quoting SirluvsStorms:
    Shaun flew to Arizona for a 20, 30's club meeting this last weekend. He ended up not being able to fly back at the same time as the rest of the bunch that went and had to come back later.. He was stuck at the Oakland airport an hour before he remembered my number! Sometimes people think they have asked too much of me. Sometimes they stop talking to me because I have done so much for them that they don't know how to deal with it. Some people keep track of stuff like that and then feel guilty. Some people just use me In any case.. If I have done something for a friend or extended my self.. I have done it because I wanted to do it and in doing it I am sure I am blessed. There are those that feel if they show caring towards a person of the opposite sex that then that person will think that they want them sexually. It can be a sturdy mind that keeps intent to a good path. In any case making friends can be a hard task or an easy task .. just remember that we make it hard or easy just by our intentions, faith and worries.
Sir~ yes its sad that doing something for the oppisite sex or just being friendly carries such overtones. I, like you treat people as people Black, white, male of female, blue...and green is even ok by me. But you know this from the real world. Its sad that people have been conditioned to think kindness is someone trying to get an angle on something.

Kelli~ Sir, like many of our online friends live a far distance away from us. We only get to hang out with them a few times a year. They are the closest friends out side our family and distance precludes these friends from being even closer. Our family situation in that we have taken our parents into our home so that our kids have a real relationship with them as well as many other tend to have us confinded to a microcasm(sp) of social interactions . Outside the home I think I could call two or three. As to confiding no matter what, Tootsie is that outlet for me. As I have a very busy household (Her parents, our boys, and a grandchilds that is here 5 day a week) to keep to gether. It will change someday but for now its Sir and the many others here online that we banter with, chat, and ocastionally call to keeps us sane.

As Choozmi has pointed out( another friend though to this day we have yet to get him to show up at a gathering that we have also been to)we simple are in a rush to keep the house standing. long conversations are rare for now and when we do get the time they are charished. you see time is the most important commodity we have to give and when other lavish it apon us we appriate it....gee we are inside way to much...lol...But we find that online gives us the flexability to interact for breif moments as we take care of the house hold. Does it replace the real world? He** no but for us it has allowed us to continue our sanity.

And yes the spelling is most likely really bad...lol

Dippin


rm_kelli4u2dew 41F
5220 posts
6/27/2006 5:45 pm

I have a half dozen girl friends in Kentucky, one of whom I can and do tell everything to, and she to me. A couple more of them I'm convinced would do anything for me. One very good male friend there, one in the southwest. My Mom and Dad. Otherwise, a lot of acquaintances and people I work with. A few people I chat and email with here.


carebearluv2 41F

6/27/2006 7:02 pm

My sister and my best friend of 25 years. I have to know I can trust them before I will confide in them.


funintheday2006 56M
9659 posts
6/27/2006 8:40 pm

I believe our 'modern' world and the new pressures and stresses caused, in part, by the mass of information we are bombarded with makes us more insular, suspicious and introverted in what was previously situations we found comfortable. Big subject, I could get boring.Precis is I'm not surprised by the results of the survey. I'm sorry Kel, got serious on your blog, blame Maggie, shes hell to live with


gotttathegoods 48M
8 posts
6/27/2006 9:48 pm

All the layers of an onion... I usually prefer self sufficient, so I wouldn't bother someone for something I could do myself. But then there are times when I need something a little more. Maybe my co-worker across the hall from my office if it's nothing too much. Or my olds friends from graduate school or college if it's a little more. And then there is family for those things that family is best at.

These days there's a bit of turbulence in the air surrounding me. The ride is getting bumpy and I am feeling shook about. I am finding out who my friends are and I realize that sometimes it is not so important that they be someone I've known for years. I saw a gentleman on the street outside of a church last Sunday. I was just jogging by. He called out 'God bless you.' I somehow needed that...


OcelotScratch 48M
286 posts
6/27/2006 11:06 pm

I have a couple of people I could call from the airport, assuming that I can remember their phone number.

People to confide in, though, is a place where I'm sort of in free fall at the moment. That person was my wife, but it isn't so easy now that she's moved. Out. I do have a friend, as well as my parents, that I can confide most things to, but nothing sex related. That leaves something of a big hole.


Molyminer 61M
75 posts
6/28/2006 1:17 am

Kelli sweet heart,
God baby, you could call me from where ever you are right now 2000 miles away and I'll come and get you. We'll have 2000 miles to talk about whatever you like. Would that work? I'd get to know you wouldn't I? That would be too cool. You seem so sensuous and sensitive to me. I really need a friend like you. So sexy and beautiful too. Maybe we'd be making love by the time we get home. mmmmmmmmm. That's my fantasy anyway. Ed.


mooondogggie121 60M
1 post
6/28/2006 5:49 am

For me, there are a number of friends I could call for a ride from the airport.
The part about having a confidant, is an entirely different story. I don't have a friend I can share EVERYTHING with, and I'd like that.


rm_Mr_Gaunt 43M

6/28/2006 9:39 am

As Michael Moore pointed in "Bowling for Columbine" there is too much fear. If most of people is good, but you trust nobody because any of them could be "evil", and the others acts in the same way,the posibilities of finding new friends gets really narrowed.

I tell my life to almost everybody (in the real life) ... and I am recieve severe critics from my family and friends


rm_abutoo2 44M
1078 posts
6/28/2006 12:07 pm

I have two very close and personal friends. One doesn't know everything. The other knows it all. And they're still my friends. That's what makes life worth living.


Molyminer 61M
75 posts
6/29/2006 1:17 am

    Quoting Molyminer:
    Kelli sweet heart,
    God baby, you could call me from where ever you are right now 2000 miles away and I'll come and get you. We'll have 2000 miles to talk about whatever you like. Would that work? I'd get to know you wouldn't I? That would be too cool. You seem so sensuous and sensitive to me. I really need a friend like you. So sexy and beautiful too. Maybe we'd be making love by the time we get home. mmmmmmmmm. That's my fantasy anyway. Ed.
Does this sound desperate?. It does huh? Oh my God I'm a desperate man. Oh well.........I guess I need to get control of myself. Who yah gonna call?.........Ghost Busters......... Ed.


rm_corezon 53F
3376 posts
6/29/2006 4:49 am

    Quoting JazzDlight:
    Making friends especially as you get older is very hard. When I was a teenager and in my 20's I had tons of friends and I was never home. Now it is a different story. At my age everyone is married, has children, jobs, moved away, etc. People's lives are so busy that they just don't have time for anyone but family anymore and even sometimes they don't always have time for them so fitting someone else in their lives is difficult. I have very few friends (I could count them on one hand) and nobody that I can really tell my inner most thoughts to. It can be a very lonely life indeed and can lead to depression and anxiety of which I am quite familiar with. Great post thank you for bringing this out into the open.
Agreed.

Let me say this; my current friends (people that I trust and will confide in at ALL...NOBODY everything) consist almost entirely of people I met off the net since my last romantic relationship ended (my choice, btw) I commute to a rural area to work, there aren't people my age or lifestyle or with similar interests to hang with outside work. The friends I've had over the years have drifted away because of moves, lifestyle changes (marriages, child commitments)...

Think it's may even be harder as a single parent especially the older you get. You don't really fit in with any "crowd" anymore. The friends I used to have? Everytime I or a girlfriend have started dating someone seriously, we never seem to have time to do the things we used to (like go bar hopping, lol); instead we are with our men, and eventually we grow apart. Irony being when you eventually do split with your romantic interest, old friends have moved, have different lifestyles, some friends were "couple" friends and you generally lose those too just because you no longer have mutual interests and the fact that couples almost never want singles hanging out with them. True.

When you're working and have a family you just don't have the hours to meet new people outside of work, the more rural the area you are in the worse it is, I think. Plus statistics say that Americans in general have longer work hours, are often expected to take work home (whether or not they are reimbursed directly) less vacation time, more time on paperwork (banking, paying bills, keeping up with taxes); and less time for R*R let alone sleep.

Remember seeing the statistics for chronically sleep deprived adults is pretty shocking. Though admittedly if they're anything like me it's 'cause there's a certain amount of R&R metime they will get (whether online or watching TV) even if it cuts their sleep short. Only way to deal with chronic stress of daily life, we all have to have some down time in which we aren't sleeping.


rm_corezon 53F
3376 posts
6/29/2006 5:02 am

Of course keep in mind years ago in alot of the US that most American family life was more rural, the social lives revolved around church and church activities, Americans were not as mobile as current job situations have made necessary, and tended to spend more of their lives in the same areas with the same people. I think that tended to create the "small" town, more intimate relationships with the people around you.

There was not the diversity in many ways, culturally, socially, religiously or racially. Everything has its strong and weaker points; but I think the diversity itself has overall been a stress on society, so much change so fast, so much random violence reported in the news as well as experienced personally, job sites have become less personal and business more cutthroat along with politics and even organized religion has largely become politicized and swung with the politically correct of the times...I think it's all taken it's toll on how much we can AFFORD to trust strangers that aren't our family and that we haven't known for years.

Sort of like, everybody potentially has an agenda "feeling" and it probably isn't to your benefit. Then again, maybe that's just me. Been a single mom too many years watching the world go around. Jaded.


rm_1hotwahine 62F
21091 posts
6/29/2006 5:47 am

    Quoting TabithaElectra79:
    There are 5 people I can confide in. But even they still don't know evertything!
Tabitha's comment has an element of truth in it for me, as well. It's not by design, but simply because no two friendships are alike, even the closest ones.

OK, back to the subject at hand...
It is easier for me to come up with people to confide in than it is to list as emergency contacts, or who to call for my kid if I'm out of town. Strange, huh?

Yeah, I'm still [blog 1hotwahine]


alphuctup 40M

6/29/2006 10:01 am

I read something similar about how the support traditionally offered by local communities or extended family has been partially replaced by internet groups etc.

In a way it's a good thing as it allows people with common interests to get together. I'm not sure it's healthy if at the cost of actual human contact, but that seems to be the way of the world these days.

Today at work I've probably had 5 people come into my office, maybe taken 10 telephone calls and responded to about 30 emails. When I went to the supermarket at lunchtime I used the automated checkout, all I need now is a robogirlfriend!!!

Thankfully I have a tight group of friends, a few of which I've known all my life...we look after each other.


rm_corezon 53F
3376 posts
6/29/2006 6:17 pm

    Quoting StaynHardnHot:
    Well Kel my dear, i for one would come rescue you anywhere in the country..lol..all you have to do is ask. Course it might help to have my number..lol Having travelled extensively myself and found myself in numerous difficult situations, i have been suprised , but more often disappointed as to who answers THE CALL, and who does not. as a result of the later, i keep the friend i rely on to a very minimun, as i have found, trying to rely on too many people, will surely leave you disappointed. By the way, let me know if you need those digits..lol...i've being dying to take my 4wd on a rescue mission..
I might be tempted to get "stranded" just to have him come to my rescue


rm_aj4U3 45M
6 posts
7/1/2006 11:36 am

It so sad that we the Americans don't have any more close friends....it is NOT a good sign......Just to request every one to think real serious about this.....


tsali118 50M

7/2/2006 6:22 pm

Most of my oldest, closest friends have moved away ... DC, Baltimore, Portland, and no family within an hour and a half, but my best friend still lives nearby. And for that I am eternally thankful.

It is difficult to establish new, close friendships later in life, especially with work and changing priorities taking up so much of my time. And I have noticed more of a disconnect between people now that didn't seem so prevalent when I was younger. Maybe it is just a changing point of view, or maybe the article speaks more truth than we want to accept. I know I feel a loneliness now that I never used to feel, and I attribute much of that to being newly (relatively) single at 40, but still...


rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 7/2/2006 8:12 pm:
I feel a lot like that myself. I've lived in a new city for 4 months, and still don't have anyone here I would call a friend.

macg76 58G
8 posts
7/10/2006 11:24 pm

hhmm
I do like how you make us all, or most of us, think about some things a wee bit more deeply (thanks.) I guess I've been pretty blessed, or just possess a fair measure of farm boy naivete. A little like Jimmy Stewart in "It's A Wonderful Life." (Yes, I know it's schmaltz!) I formed a core of close mates from my MSU days, and, somehow I've been able to keep them all. Some live in town, more from all over. [One was an exec with Anderson (talk about needing a friend, eh?)]Matter of fact, the guy I moved out here with just celebrated fifty years and we had over a dozen folks come into to wish him well. Friendships take effort as you know. And time. And pain. Some folks do not care to invest the time. Most folks are very frightened.

I reject living in fear.
And I better stop there before I get off on a political tangent!

I've woven about twenty "close" people into the fabric of my life. I try to add more cloth each year. Otherwise, why am I here? Or any of us, eh?

But I digress. As for DIA, we still live in a cow town. So from a practical point, you could take a taxi home, grab some cash from your "sock drawer" and pay for the ride once home. They don't ask you for the money first with Denver cabs.

Or you could give me a shout I routinely drive to "Kansas" to meet and greet friends at DIA passing through. Or, the offer still stands, I could introduce you to some of the folks from MSU.
Silver and gold
New friends and old

Give it a wee bit more time, four months is but a sigh.


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