Profile change  

rm_kelli4u2dew 41F
7028 posts
2/9/2006 10:59 pm

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4/10/2006 10:43 pm

Profile change

Well, got back from a business trip tonight, and my profile had been deleted again. Sent them a couple of emails, and it was back on after I came back from dinner.

I'm tired of fighting this crap. I went in and modified my profile significantly. Hopefully, it comes off as less bitchy. We'll see if Mrs. Grundy leaves me alone.

Mrs. Grundy is Blue's generic term for all those busy bodies who have all the time in the world to mind other people's business. You know who I'm talking about, the lady across the street who never pulls her shades but makes sure you have to pull yours. The woman who calls and complains if your trash barrel is one inch away from where it should be. The man who thinks you dress too sexy, but has a telescope trained on your house so he can measure your skirt length. The lady 19 cubes away at work who manages to be offended because two guys stopped to chat with you in a 3 week period. The manager who says you show too much cleavage, as he stands on tip toe to try to get a better look.

And in the case of A F F, the couple who thinks you should rush to fulfill their fantasies because you have a profile here. The fat-ass spinster who is upset that she doesn't have a date (which I guarantee is her own fault, because there are men here who will screw a knot hole). The guy who sends the literary equivalent of a belch and a fart as an intro letter and can't figure out why no one responds.

So, with the change in profile, perhaps I can be left in peace for awhile.

rm_FreeLove999 46F
16127 posts
2/10/2006 1:24 am

god, i think i would have given up if i'd had half the amount of trouble you seem to have with your profile...

[blog freelove999]

sassybelle21 32F
13313 posts
2/10/2006 2:36 am

Guess what? My profile was removed last December after AdultFriendFinder approved my new profile info a couple of days. Then the staff who handled my case kept contradicting himself in each and every email. At first he said my profile has been terminally corrupted and cannot be restored and next he told me that my profile suggested that I'm under 18. Well I definitely didn't understand what they meant by terminally corrupted. Secondly, they are the ones approving my profile and then say that I'm under 18. Chances are some people who can't stand my bitchy honesty reported me as a minor

caressmewell 53F

2/10/2006 5:26 am

This is such a frustrating problem and its affecting the same people over and over.

Kelli, I hope changing your profile helps.

GuyWhoListens2u 56M
325 posts
2/10/2006 6:44 am


Your analogies here and the things you notice are quite clever and insightful.

I hope things do start going better for you.
(Actually I wish that for a lot of the ladies on this site.)

pinkplaytoyz 50F

2/10/2006 6:54 am

You know, I could never see anything "wrong" with your profile; you've described the busybodies to a "T", and I expect that some jealous somebody took offense,(which is their shortcummings, not yours), and want to be nasty by constantly turning you in. I get the same type of emails that you describe, I stopped trying to explain things to them because I found out that just gives them something to respond to. Trying to do the decent thing got me nothing but more unwanted crap...hang in there!!

norprin5 55M

2/10/2006 8:44 am

what a drag for you, luv!

Trav's got a good idea there, though (imagine that, huh? Trav actually having a good idea! ) talk to GOTD, she's helped a lot of bloggers on this 'friendly site'

King Nor XVIII

sillyperv 54M

2/10/2006 8:55 am

You must be hitting some nerves - I don't know what they could be, I can't read your profile - and unfortunately this site is structured for psychopathic malevolence, or at least misery gaining company, because of its anonimity. And sadly it only takes a few to cause so much trouble. Doesn't this site moniter who the cronic complainers are?

gnr8nrg 46M

2/10/2006 9:39 am

"Screw a knot hole." That's just too funny, but most likely true. Now I'm going to have to read your profile again.

RockPebble 69M
2487 posts
2/10/2006 10:02 am

I agree with Luscious, it sounds like catch-22, you're damned if you do and damned if you don't. As a standard I can't read your profile so I can't give any specific advice. Hang in there, let's hope it's worth it.

rm_Keystone3812 65M
583 posts
2/10/2006 12:38 pm

OK.......... a question from a relatively "NEWBIE"........ how can I read your profile? I've tried, but all they ask for is $$$... can standard members read profiles?

8 posts
2/10/2006 4:19 pm


Hi there and I understand your problem. I actually have to go back and change mine as I misspeled something and its going to take forever to fix. I do however understand what you mean about the Mrs. Grundy's of the world. Sadly there are too many of them. Often quite unhappy with their lives and wanting to share their unhappiness in anyway they can. I suppose on the theroy that Misery loves company.
Hugs and may you have more luck (the good kind) with further things on this site.


Cowboy_Deluxe 38M

2/10/2006 5:45 pm

Sorry your getting so harrassed! Well at least your doing something about it, and man ohh man this is some funny shit! Now go move that F'in trash can! Yeah, that was hilarious!


xxxhandyman4u2 55M

2/10/2006 6:15 pm

happens alot

fantasylover_05 62M

2/10/2006 6:25 pm


It sure seems you have been singled out for some reason!!

I can offer you no real advice or assistance... other than it does seem Goddess has some sort of inside track.... so talk with her...

I can offer you my sincere caring support and know I would and will do anything I can to help.......

Keep the faith beautiful and keep on keeping on!!!

ArgosPlumyKooky 45F
3902 posts
2/10/2006 9:05 pm

envious hypocrites, my favorite!

StaynHardnHot 42M
305 posts
2/10/2006 10:05 pm

As usual, i'm late again Kelli, but as usual your right on the money again, dont give up the fight sexy girl, we cant let those Mrs. Grundys of the world think they will ever win!!


toothysmile 50M
16514 posts
2/11/2006 8:20 am

very nice...
I haven't checked your profile yet, I certainly will now...
sorry if I missed a saucier profile... I would have enjoyed it... ...

kyplowboy22 61M

2/11/2006 9:26 am

I think that half of the glitches on here ar software problems anyway, Kelli. Good luck. Later


rm_kelli4u2dew 41F
5220 posts
2/11/2006 10:24 pm

Wow! I am truly touched by the support all of you have shown. It reinforces my belief that most people are good and have good intentions. Thank you!!!!

GOTD and I have communicated about the problems I've had, and I'm honored that she accepted a network invite from me. She and a couple of other people have been very helpful, and I'm sure are the reason my profile was restored after I was banned in January.

For those who missed my original profile, it was basically a composite of many of the do and don't I'd seen other women list, with a bit of my own bitchy sense of humor.

As with most people, I have my own personal preferences, and my own personal demons. I tried to prevent people that I do not want contact with, will not answer, from sending me mail. I do have filters on, but the most recent email calling me a bitch landed in my main inbox, not in the one for those that don't pass the filters.

rm_kelli4u2dew 41F
5220 posts
2/11/2006 10:41 pm

Trav - of course you can plagiarize me. I'm flattered you'd ask.

As to how you guys can see profiles, you need to understand that you're second class citizens on this site. You have to pay, it's your penalty for having a penis. We of the softer, fairer, smarter sex just have to post sexy pictures, and when we get a deluge of emails, we get points that we can use to view profiles and sometimes send emails (that part I haven't completely figures out yet).

But if you're really interested in finding a lady, you're going to have to pay. Don't tell me this isn't fair, I don't run the joint.

Plano69 54M

2/12/2006 10:15 am

Don't understand why all this is happening to you but I hope it finally gets cleared up!
I'm with Trav, have you talked to GoddessOfTheDawn?
She's helped me out immensely, and others too...

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