Idiot of the month for April  

rm_kelli4u2dew 41F
7027 posts
4/30/2006 2:40 pm

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5/12/2006 6:57 am

Idiot of the month for April

I want to thank all the wonderful people who commented and offered support for my last post (below). I feel as though people have come into my house and left bouquet after bouquet of spring flowers!

As a follow on to that, please take a minute and read the very powerful post Do you remember?.

There was one comment that I deleted, and banned the person who posted it. Not because I didn't want to deal with it, but because I would rather go back and read that post and the comments people left without having to remember that someone came into my blog and crapped on the rug.

Here's the comment:
Kelli4utodo, I read your story and I am confused. I came to this site in search of fun, leagal, consensual sex. You are telling tales of your past prostitution for money, house, etc. You were there, you got paid. In hind sight you are not digging the price you allowed yourself to pay for the spoils you are currently enjoying, and yet with this all in the past...and your claims to regret it...your current sign on is: Kelli4utodo. It doesn't sound as if you want to do it. Mixed signals?

Let's explore the mentality behind this comment.

First, marriage = prostitution.
Second, divorce settlement = spoils.

Interesting concepts. Any woman who gets married to a man who has more money than she has is prostituting herself for money and a house. I think this is a condemnation of several thousand years of human history. I assume that his mother was a millionaire in her own right and married a man of equal wealth? Each had their own house?

In retrospect, perhaps I was naive to promise to "love, honor, and obey" my husband. But I took such a vow seriously. Silly me.

Of course, I could have asked for nothing when I filed for divorce. I assume he thinks that a self-respecting woman would disdain community property laws. Since I contributed nothing but my body to the marriage, why should I take anything beyond my body from the marriage?

For 7+ years I kept his house, catered his social events, managed his investments, kept his calendar, and did everything else he asked me to. I never pursued a career of my own because he didn't want me to. It never occurred to me that we weren't equal partners.

His shot about my login name ... I guess I'm supposed to be celibate the rest of my life? I shouldn't soil this holy web site with my presence? Because I had one bad man, I should give up on men forever? I don't quite understand the line about "It doesn't sound as if you want to do it." Does he mean sex? Well, certainly not with him.

This guy's profile has changed a bit over the weekend. Originally it said he was 28, but was "younger than this fake profile suggests". Now, it says he's 36. The headline is, "Single, discreet, looking for nothing but safe sex & fun. No commitments!" Considering his views toward marriage, I think no commitments is a good idea.

Ladies, this is the type of guy who sees you as an object. He doesn't understand the concept of abuse any more than he sees it is wrong to kick the dog when he's angry. You aren't a human being. You are very definitely not his equal. If you are stupid enough to hook up with him, don't expect any consideration when he decides to kick you out.

Come to think of it, I feel sorry for any prostitutes he might frequent ... Anyone want the statistics on the number of prostitutes who were abused before they started the profession?

Cowboy_Deluxe 38M

4/30/2006 3:38 pm

Well in the wake of the post I was really somber. I don't see how anybody couldn't. I don't see how a brain could function like your saying. First off he is talking in cinematics, with really no direct approach to what he is saying. I guess since I'm such a head strong person that would be why I don't understand that.

The theme that you do provide might actually give him more credit for what he said. Love doesn't have a price, honor doesn't have a price. A vow doesn't have a price. What costs us in the long run is the time we spend not accepting the great treasures that humans are. That is all this fella was lacking. Intelligence.

Those Broncos, hell I'm really leaning to the Seattle game a lot. Ole AFC rival, Mike Holgrem, first visit to Invesco for me. Yeah pretty safe bet I want to be there for that game.

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 4/30/2006 7:02 pm:
Lacking in intelligence, class, sympathy, girls ...

caressmewell 53F

4/30/2006 3:51 pm

He just proves that fuckwits and assholes do exist.

RevJoseyWales 69M/66F
14393 posts
4/30/2006 4:34 pm

Nah, don't need the numbers. I already have a good idea on how they run. You should have really left the post up there. That way we can have his name legit. Wouldn't be your fault if he got enough hate mail to overload his mailbox. Wouldn't be your fault is someone in his town recognized him and gave him a lesson in manners. And yes, I DO advocate a little violence towards these people. As much or little it takes to get the point across. Kicking their ass now COULD save a lot of young ladies from possible emotional hurt and physical injury. Guess I'll really frost a bunch with that comment. I dunno. When I was coming up, somone dissing or hurting a female friend or relative of a member of our "group" was cause for a serious "talking to". Maybe the old ways were BETTER. jOE

"McVeigh had the right idea, wrong address."

"This ain't Dodge City, and you ain't Bill Hickok."

im_your_man77 39M
961 posts
4/30/2006 4:54 pm

There always has to be one asshole that shows their face. I doubt he really came here for the sex he claims, surely noone is stupid enough to act in such a manner and expect to continue to get that discreet sex. It's simple if you don't like a post you stop reading it and move on, there is no need to make a negative comment unless of course you are an asshole and have nothing better to do with your time. Sometimes in posts there can be a case for making a contradictory point against the theme of the post, but not on the subject of abuse certainly not in the manner it was written. I'm sorry you had to deal with yet another idiot but unfortunately I did think one of them would turn up.
Nice handling though.

SlowPlayin 50M

4/30/2006 5:40 pm

Sometimes I just shake my head ... I mean, how can you make someone "get it" who just doesn't "get it" ... I mean, there ARE ways but not a subject for an open forum like this.

I agree with im your man77 ... I doubt this bozo is actually here for sex ... there ARE at least a few whose only objective is to vandalize.

Excellent rebuttal, by the way ... you're kinda smart, aren't you.


rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 4/30/2006 7:00 pm:
Naw, I'm just a girl ...

carebearluv2 41F

4/30/2006 6:19 pm

Ignorance comes in all shapes, sizes, genders and colors!

TriggerJinxed 38M

4/30/2006 6:20 pm

Le sigh, and I thought I was a shoe in for AdultFriendFinder's Idiot of the Month!!

J/K, you handled him with grace and kindness. I would have linked to his profile in my blog and would have said something to the effect of "He's really gay, go get him, guys!".

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 4/30/2006 7:00 pm:
LOL! Now why didn't I think of that ...

Cowboy_Deluxe 38M

4/30/2006 6:42 pm

It isn't up yet, but when it does this will show [post 329873] Kind of tricky to read.


fmisvme 46M/36F

4/30/2006 6:51 pm

Like I said in my response to your last post...some people just don't understand. You handled it well, as you obviously have dealing with the abuse. Just wish you continued success.
P.S. I'm an attorney too and despite what some of your readers may think we're not all jackasses!!!

Rock Chalk Jayhawk!

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 4/30/2006 6:59 pm:
You know what they say, there have to be exceptions to prove the rule! LOL!

Yes, there are some human beings who have taken the bar exam. My fellow blogger frogger comes instantly to mind. Most of the decent lawyers I've known don't associate much with other lawyers for some reason ...

blueguy1051 60M

4/30/2006 7:37 pm

Remarkably restrained ... still not feeling well? I was looking forward to an original Kelli ridicule job.

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 4/30/2006 9:38 pm:
Still running a fever, feel like crap.

Nightguy_1961 55M
4866 posts
4/30/2006 10:40 pm

I remember reading the post that was later deleated...and the thought ran through my mind, "This could be trouble...for how many people might feel the same way?"

There are still too many people who think that a separation is solely the woman's fault, regardless of the history...I won't go into details...hell, I admit my two divorces were mostly because I f*cked up, namely by marrying them to begin with....

Part of me is glad you banned him, but another part wished you'd left him up there...because I have cyber tortured an ignorant individual in quite awhile...and Pinhead's been complaining from his pit...

NG61...fading back into the shadows....

rm_acer57 59M
124 posts
5/1/2006 12:06 am

The Idiot would never 'get it' until he was faced with it in terms he could understand... For example, if he was to marry the woman of his dreams and he was proud to see his male friends and other men jealous of his mate, but then over time it all turns around and he is forced to be humiliated and degraded in his social circles, then and only then might he possibly begin to 'get it'. To me the poster seems like a closet 'hater', not worth the time or energy, except the energy necessary to steer clear of him.

Choozmi 50M

5/1/2006 12:51 am

I think you handled that person's comment very eloquently... but I also think you didn't need to respond at all.

First of all, I'm sure other people would have responded on your behalf instantly.

Second, his prejudices speak for themselves. His post only makes him look like a fool (and worse). Arguing with a fool... well, I'm sure there are some great sayings about the futility of that.

He may have read your story, but he only saw in it what he wanted to see. I assume that he has beat up or forced sex on a lady or two himself and wants desperately to convince himself that the women wanted such treatment or that they were getting something out of the "transaction". By taking issue with your story, he is probably attempting to quash (nice lawyer term) his nagging suspicion that he is guilty of what you describe in your sordid tale.

Maybe a good response to his post would be...

Dear Sir: It sounds as though you have a lot of experience hiring prostitutes. I'm sorry that you feel that some of them owed you something they didn't give you. I'm also sorry that you feel you have been exploited by women in the past; that can be frustrating.

You do seem to have a good head for business, however, and that should serve you well in your future sex transactions. Keep in mind that you need to be more careful from now on to not develop emotional ties to the women you hire for sex as it can lead to more of the same bitterness you now have.

Who was that first girl to turn you down or mistreat you? A schoolmate? A teacher? Your mother? It must have been very painful.

Just remember that taking that pain out on other women can to lead to divorce, jail time, and worse. Best of luck.

sexmanStrongss 32M
34 posts
5/1/2006 1:02 am

I am in Shanghai.I am a single man.22 years old collage student.good at sex.I want to have sex with you do you accept me?

EverReady343 47M

5/1/2006 1:18 am

Hi kelli

Hes probably a very lonely guy who is jealous, bitter and crying out for attention. I Wouldn't be surprised if he disappears from AdultFriendFinder with his tale between his legs. No one no matter who they marry should be treated the way you were treated! He was a smart ass ( dumb ass ). Who was trying to imply that you were attracted to this older guy because of his affluent lifestyle rather than love.


Babel__Fish 45F

5/1/2006 5:46 am

    Quoting caressmewell:
    He just proves that fuckwits and assholes do exist.
I agree!

Scooterbabe4u 80F

5/1/2006 7:24 am

I guess Womans Rights have not changed that much of the Mens concept of Woman. = Women property and Man Purchaser.
Shame is it not that the mind is the most powerful and efficient organ of the body and so ill used by some.

Many Blessings

sillyperv 54M

5/1/2006 7:51 am

This drives me insane! Okay, mildly nuts, well, sets me off on a rant, okay gives me an excuse to to behave as I normally do, so - I'm amazed at how idiotic, borderline and way past the borderline psychopaths get so much attention and outrage. Don't give them space, time or thought - only enough to delete and block. Attention is their life blood. Without it they will wither and die and crawl elsewhere.

Better to focus on all those who wish to give you a hug in support.

Yes, I'm cranky.

Now I got to go and file my taxes

VenusDiaries 62M
867 posts
5/1/2006 9:01 am

Dammit, I hate it when assholes crap on the carpet.

DLiscious2 48M/42F

5/1/2006 12:23 pm

The statstic you mention at the end of your post would be, oh perhaps, 100%? We believe it is similiar for women who work as exotic dancers, one of many reasons we do not enjoy or patronize strip clubs.

At first we agreed with other commenters that those who don't get it aren't worth your time, but on reflection we're not so sure. A rational discussion of what constitutes abuse might open some eyes.

reverend21 49M
1913 posts
5/1/2006 12:54 pm

Your forgetting sweet kelli, " A waste is a terrible thing to mind"

SpaceRangerNJ 55M
4687 posts
5/1/2006 2:51 pm

    Quoting reverend21:
    Your forgetting sweet kelli, " A waste is a terrible thing to mind"
And Time Wounds all Heels.

What a Fucktard. I love that word.

And why do some folks think it's OK to lie on their profiles?


reverend21 49M
1913 posts
5/1/2006 3:06 pm

    Quoting SpaceRangerNJ:
    And Time Wounds all Heels.

    What a Fucktard. I love that word.

    And why do some folks think it's OK to lie on their profiles?

thank you sir for making my point for me, see people, this gentleman was kind ennough to demonstrate what is meant by the word 'waste'

Any questions? remeber kids don't try this at home, mr spaceranger
is a prfessional, or atleast according to his profile, any guesses at his profession, I mean besides asshole?

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 5/1/2006 3:53 pm:
Rev, I think you read something wrong. SpaceRanger was agreeing with you.

SpaceRangerNJ 55M
4687 posts
5/1/2006 3:14 pm

    Quoting reverend21:
    thank you sir for making my point for me, see people, this gentleman was kind ennough to demonstrate what is meant by the word 'waste'

    Any questions? remeber kids don't try this at home, mr spaceranger
    is a prfessional, or atleast according to his profile, any guesses at his profession, I mean besides asshole?
Folks, there seems to be a misunderstanding.
Reverend, I in no way was calling you a fucktard or accusing you of lying.

I was merely responding to your quote with my quote as being similar. The other comments were directed at the other gentleman.

I hope you will accept my sincerest appologies.


rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 5/1/2006 3:53 pm:
I knew what you meant.

frogger1995 39F

5/1/2006 4:45 pm

Kelli, probably before you starting bloging here we had a running theme called the Knuckledragger syndrom. It was ironically started by Trav. Anyway, we are all obligated, for the sake of fellow female members, to state the handle of knuckledraggers. Don't worry, they deserve it!

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 5/1/2006 4:55 pm:
I will gladly email anyone who asks. But having been kicked off this place more than once, I have read the "Terms of Use" very thoroughly (though I didn't violate any when I got kicked off). Knuckledraggers have vewy, vewy sensitive feewings, you know ...

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 5/1/2006 4:56 pm:
Actually, you don't have to ask. He's from Texass. Check your email.

EroticaXTC 49F

5/1/2006 6:55 pm

Small minded jerks like that deserve everything they're NOT getting. His comments don't deserve the attention he's gotten. You be who you are with no apologies sweetie!!!

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 5/1/2006 9:36 pm:
Well, I have been sending his handle to ladies who've asked ... I don't think he wants that kind of attention ...

Kaliedascope61 41M
4084 posts
5/3/2006 4:47 pm

I wonder if it is the same nutcase that comes by my blog every once in awhile to tell me what a man he is, and what a man I am not.

RoyalPurpleRose 51F

5/6/2006 9:11 pm

I get the feeling that he knows he guilty of abusing someone ... or maybe several someones. Whether they were prostitutes or not. Sick either way. Wish you would have given out his name, so that everyone can avoid him.

~Kisses, RPR

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 5/7/2006 4:26 pm:
As I said above, all you have to do is ask.

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 5/7/2006 4:27 pm:
BTW, he's not a blogger. I think that would be stretching his intellectual capabilities a bit too far.

rm_corezon 53F
3376 posts
5/8/2006 7:07 pm

damn straight

I read that email just the same

click delete feel sorry for your fuck buddies if you find any

JuicyBBW1001 54F

5/12/2006 4:49 am

wow what a fucktard (not you kelli) the insensitive man who wrote this post.


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