Have some things to do, be back when I have time  

rm_kelli4u2dew 41F
7028 posts
7/26/2006 8:50 pm

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Have some things to do, be back when I have time

I'm not going to have lot of time to spend here in the blogs the next couple of weeks. From being bored, my personal life is suddenly very full.

First, I had a date! Last Friday, a week that was lousy both at work and here, I stopped off at the hotel bar around the corner. I had every intention of getting a bit hammered and feeling sorry for myself. A man came in and sat beside me (beautiful!) and we struck up a conversation. After a couple of shots and beers, he invited me to join him for dinner. We talked until he had to leave to catch his flight home, but he promised to call me when he was in town this week (uh-huh ... heard that one before).

But he called! He works here but lives in Chicago. We went out to dinner again tonight, and talked and talked ... then he packed me in a cab and sent me home. I may have to get a little more aggressive ... but for right now, things are good. Amber, you should be proud of me. Kelli's taking it slow for once!

Second, my friend W is flying in and we're going to go backpacking in the high country for a few days. You can't imagine how happy this makes me.

Third, my parents are coming home. Both of my parents turn 60 this year, and for their birthday presents I gave them each a voucher for a round-trip to Europe. Both of them are second generation immigrants, but neither had ever been to Europe. They went to Ireland, then across England and France, through Switzerland to Italy. They've been gone for 7 weeks, and I'll pick them up at the airport later this week.

And fourth, next week, hopefully after my mom gets over her jet lag, I'm going into the hospital for minor surgery.

Long time readers will remember that I've mentioned being stupid when I was 16. I had unprotected sex and contracted gonorrhea. To make it worse, I was afraid to tell my mom when I started feeling lousy, and eventually also developed a major case of pelvic inflammatory disease (PID). Eventually I ended up in the hospital with tubes in my arms while they shotgunned me with antibiotic cocktails. The result of this is fallopian tubes that are so damaged that doctors have always told me it would be dangerous to get pregnant. The chances of an ectopic pregnancy are high.

So I've been playing pregnancy roulette for the past 15 years. With the exception of one year when I was celibate while going through my divorce, I have been on the pill the whole time. That is not a good situation, and has possible long-term health risks. In addition to the pill, I have always used condoms and sometimes foam or a diaphragm because I'm so paranoid of pregnancy.

Mom and I have been discussing this since last spring Trip to the gynecologist. In spite of the fact she wants a grand child in the worst way, she has recommended that I get my tubes tied. Having her backing on this is a huge relief. I have been thinking of this for awhile, but was concerned about what my parents would think.

So, next week she's going to do the deed, and I'll be able to get off the pill and figure out what my natural cycle is, and get acquainted with my own hormones. I'll probably be pretty sore for awhile, and not terribly amorous, but should be back at work week after next.

Before people ask the obvious questions, I have always wanted to be a mother, but I don't feel any loss in the idea of not being able to conceive and bear a child. There are so many children who go to bed every night praying that someone will take them home and love them. Someday I'll answer one of their prayers.

Everyone be nice to each other while I'm gone.


funintheday2006 56M
9659 posts
7/26/2006 8:59 pm

Take care Kel, we do indeed have something in common. I hope you get that child soon

JuicyBBW1001 54F

7/26/2006 9:00 pm

Awww well have fun on your hiking trip and I am so sorry about your situation it makes me cry and I am sure some little kid would be honored to have you as a mom. Heck the diva would love an aunt like you. ((((((Huggs From Me and the Diva))) Hurry back we will leave the light on.


hornylilgirl78 106F

7/26/2006 9:04 pm

Enjoy your reprieve. We'll miss you while you're gone.



"As kinky as a cheap garden hose!"

rm_saintlianna 45F
15466 posts
7/26/2006 9:16 pm

Someday I'll answer one of their prayers.......Maybe two or three even. Have fun and I will miss you.

elysianpleasure 47M

7/26/2006 9:20 pm

I only drop in occassionally... but I have to say whenever I do you inspire me with your strength. Enjoy your time away, your hiking, your date... and one day... the lucky child who ends up with you truly will have prayers answered.

mysticdreamangel 61F
2759 posts
7/26/2006 9:21 pm


I wrote a blog awhile back asking if people believe there are Angels among us...and tonight...I know for a fact they are, because you are one! Have fun on your hiking trip and may you have a speedy recovery!



rm_macallan4u 46M
968 posts
7/26/2006 9:23 pm

Have a great time k, and when you do have your surgery, go to your local pharmacy and ask for Arnica in 200K (homeopahtic remedies). Take that just before your surgery and then Arnica in 6ch after the surgery. This will help the healing process immensely. Kisses, and we'll try to be nice....

rm_bk2nrml 57M

7/26/2006 9:25 pm

take care kelli. i hope everything works well for you. i know i'll be counting the days.


Perchance2000 57M

7/26/2006 9:25 pm

That's what life is all about - not straight forward, but full of twists and turns, not easy to say why and for what purpose. The way you take it - straight on, dealing with challenges and pleasures as they come (and why not fast at times) . . . inspiring not just for your reader friends, but those that have the benefit, privilege and pleasure to be with you in real time . . . and you inspired by them . . . and at times by us.

Go on, enjoy all the many truly enjoyable opportunities you have coming up - and thus get the strength for those difficult decisions. You have what it takes to make the best of them!

And we count ourselves blessed to know you.

Cowboy_Deluxe 38M

7/26/2006 9:27 pm

Cheers! To many more dates! Side bet, if you date this guy another month, and you still didn't share yourself with him..I would think you lost your sexuality!

Odds 20 to 1 in my favor...

Glimmer_Man06 47M
3308 posts
7/26/2006 9:32 pm

I am glad to see that things are looking better for you in the "love" department. You certainly deserve it. As for your surgery, well, I wish you a speedy and healthy recovery. The last paragraph touched me here most. YOu are so right. THere are so many wonderful children all over the owrld that dont understand why they have no parents, why are they alone, why doesn't anybody want them. Makes me jsut want to cry.

You would be the best Mom in the world for one(or more) of these children. I will be on vacation until 13th of August. Hope to see you back by then. Take care Kelli, have fun, STAY SAFE!

Love and kisses

They say a woman ages like fine wine...

...mine ages like milk!

EvilEvilKitten1 62F

7/26/2006 9:32 pm

Good luck!! You certainly do deserve it!!


meerkittykat 42F

7/26/2006 9:41 pm

Life's what happens when we make other plans, but good gawd it's that "life" that puts everything here in perspective.

Take good care of you, and wishing you good health, fun times, and getting "home"...whatever "home" might represent in these four activites....safely.


NSAAddict 42F

7/26/2006 9:43 pm

You are such a strong woman Kelli, I love that about you. Wishing you happy travels, more great dates and a quick and painless recovery. We'll miss you

tootsiedippin 53M/53F
1078 posts
7/26/2006 9:52 pm

like a puupy dog waiting at the door to be let in...

Be safe...


IsThisBetter4u 106M

7/26/2006 9:55 pm

It's crazy how you get to know someone through their blogs. You're so open.

I admire your approach to a difficult situation. Your ability to see the bright side in all of this is such a beautiful thing. You're A-okay in my book, Kelli. I respect you a lot.

Hope everything goes well. Take care of yourself and come back as soon as you can. I'll miss you while your gone.


4biddenlove4us 49F

7/26/2006 9:57 pm

sorry for your pain and hope you have a speedy recovery. I'm happy for you for the other appointments you going to have while you away. I say this for all of us here, " WE ARE GOING TO MISS YOU"
Take care princess

rm_smosmof2 67M
3240 posts
7/26/2006 10:01 pm

Emotional responses, rather than coherent ones....


Glad you're going to get to do something you're are so looking forward to. Tell her Hi! for us.

Impressed. Nice present...

Concern. Not terribly, but any surgical procedure is cause for at least minor worry. At least you're in good hands. Glad that you'll be in a better place emotionally once it's over.

rm_DaphneR 58F
7938 posts
7/26/2006 10:38 pm

Good luck on your surgery, hope it all works out for you.

Have tongue, will use it. Repeatedly.

rm_Benkai7 55M
2358 posts
7/26/2006 11:09 pm

Dear "kelli4u2dew".

May your wishes make you happy ... may friends always be nearby ... peace to your heart ... peace to your soul ...


TheCliticals 35F/F

7/26/2006 11:12 pm

Gosh. You ......... Now Im crying dammit.

Hope that you leave some posts before you go for surgery


rm_FreeLove999 46F
16127 posts
7/26/2006 11:30 pm

there are literally thousands of orphaned children in South Africa, thanks to their parents dying of AIDS. i know a couple who live round the corner from me; the first son they adopted is my daughter's playmate, and they just adopted another baby girl (i guess she'll be my 2nd daughter's playmate) ... it really is a fantastic way of creating a family for those who don't have the luxury of the usual methods.

good luck with the op. i'm sure it'll all go well!

[blog freelove999]

SingleWarrior 52M

7/26/2006 11:35 pm

Before people ask the obvious questions, I have always wanted to be a mother, but I don't feel any loss in the idea of not being able to conceive and bear a child. There are so many children who go to bed every night praying that someone will take them home and love them. Someday I'll answer one of their prayers.

That is one of the most inspiring things I have read here at AdultFriendFinder.

I truly hope your dream and the dream of a child comes true

I of course hope all else goes well too

rm_1hotwahine 63F
21091 posts
7/27/2006 12:30 am

Everyone be nice to each other while I'm gone.

Uh, yeah. That's gonna happen.

PS: Back packing sounds GREAT.

Yeah, I'm still [blog 1hotwahine]

shaper007 51M

7/27/2006 12:50 am

You will be missed babe

Take care

catkit13 66F

7/27/2006 2:53 am

kelli, best of luck and have fun and all that. btw, while you're recuperating from your surgery, make sure that all family members and friends treat you like a baby, wait on your every whim, and so on - i've done it before, and guilt often works when all else fails! we'll miss you, for sure, but have fun and take care of yourself and your parents - see you soon, cat

fantasylover_05 62M

7/27/2006 4:15 am

WOW Kelli

Now that is quite the emotional roller coaster post!

I am VERY HAPPY for you that your personal life is going well right now!!

I am saddened by your need to have surgery.. and yes I know there are other options when you get to the point in your life you truly want children........

You are truly an amazing woman and I can only imagine you WILL be an even more amazing Mom one day!!

I will be thinking of you... praying for you and MISSING you while you're away

Take care Sweet Kelli

foghorn49 59M

7/27/2006 5:03 am

Have fun. Stay out of trouble........ right........

rm_PeanutJackie 36F
1286 posts
7/27/2006 5:16 am

Wow Kelli, your post brought tears to my eyes. It sounds like you're going to have a VERY busy couple of weeks. You take care of yourself and if you need anything, I'm sure there are tons of people here (myself included) who would bend over backwards to try and help.

Big hugs and gentle kisses to you

"I am beautiful no matter what you say, words can't bring me down. So don't you bring me down today."

IAmRubytuesday 55F
3193 posts
7/27/2006 5:21 am

Aw kelli. xxx

Q.2 flies in an airing cupboard. Which one's the soldier?
A.The one on the tank.

howaboutahuck 66M
489 posts
7/27/2006 6:32 am

Hi, Kelli
You take care! For the time your away, keep us all in your thoughts because you'll be in all of our thoughts and prayers.
Have fun in the high country.


MaggiesWishes 60F

7/27/2006 7:44 am

Wishes you all the best and fun times on the trip and closer connections when the parents come and thank goodness for MOM's.
You will indeed be a child's dream come true for a mom.

I'll miss ya, Sis
Hurry back.
warm huggies 2ya

toothysmile 50M
16514 posts
7/27/2006 9:44 am

you really are a wonderful person. thank you for sharing all this. i'm not a long time reader, but i did read the 100 things about you.
i'm just happy to be able to comment here and communicate with you in this small way.
get well soon from the surgery; come back to us whenever you feel ready. we'll be here waiting for you and wishing you the best.


7/27/2006 9:57 am

Take care and hope your wishes and dreams come true {=}

just a squirrel trying to get a nut

rm_rover153 59M
2900 posts
7/27/2006 10:25 am

Wow Can't believe I have missed your honesty and heart touching blog for the year or so I have been here. Glad that Mz Huny sent me over "that comment whore" LOL Still can't believe anyone would say that about her but Oh Well.

I will say a prayer for a speedy recovery. You are another one of AdultFriendFinder's Shining Lights.

totally worn out and screaming
"WOO HOO what a ride!" Have a wonderful day!

rm_newsherriff 54M

7/27/2006 11:46 am

HAve fun while gone - good luck with all the med stuff. Awesome how prolific you are. -wow indeed. Plus a real rare beauty. Happy you had nice time with guy. Feel free to visit my blog - biteme and profile

ChrisDL 47M

7/27/2006 11:52 am

Enjoy the dates and the hiking (you deserve the break!) and hope the surgery goes exactly as planned with a quick recovery

rm_gorilla062 50M
232 posts
7/27/2006 12:41 pm

I am happy that your date went so well... as far as I am concerned lucky guy. Happy that you are taking precautions concerning your physical life as well and that the emotional backing is there for you. You have much to smile about. And when you are ready a childs wish will be granted as I am quite sure you will make a loving mother to a lucky child!

rm_goddess1946 106F
13518 posts
7/27/2006 2:34 pm

We will miss you Kelli...
and my heart goes out to you for all that is going on in
your life right now...lots of decisons to make. They are
not always easy to do.

What a great gift to your folks! Damn! I'm turning 60 in
December...please adopt me! All jokes aside, be safe in your
travels and think about making a trek to VA. Beach in the fall.
I'm a lookin' to get a Va. Beach Bloggers Meet together
in the fall and I just posted [post 443842]

It would be wonderful if you could make the journey to meet with us!
I'm going to start the wheels in motion when Mercury goes direct!
Things will be easier organizationally speaking after it does!

Just a little food for thought.............
If you really want to be happy, nobody can stop you...

sillyperv 54M

7/27/2006 4:06 pm

You're going to miss me. I mean - me your going to miss. No. Wait! That can't be right. Well, not "right" in a moral sense, cause of course there's nothing immoral about missing me, just like losing one itty bitty double decker P&B sandwich in the silk bed sheets is not a moral failing, nefariously claimed by an ex of mine and, and -- what was I saying. Missing. You. Right. Well sure. But I guess it's rather important that you take care of the self. I guess. So! Take care of yourself then. What are you waiting for?
Nattering at you always.

champagnechaser 41F
1639 posts
7/27/2006 6:24 pm

Good luck to you with the surgery and the new man!


rm_devilsgrin69 51M
223 posts
7/27/2006 6:29 pm

Hey Kel, stay cool
Don't go getting a boyfriend and ignoring us poor starved fools...

What the heck am i saying... go for it girl and good luck.
see ya soon we hope.


Transblucency 44M

7/27/2006 10:40 pm

Good luck, ma'am. Have a great time hiking, also.

Second, my friend W is flying in and we're going to go backpacking in the high country for a few days.

This made me smile because, although I understand you were being politely discreet in not revealing W's name, it reminds me of one of my favorite comedic lines, in this case from an essay written by Woody Allen, in the style of some Czech intellectual's diary.

The entry in question read: "11 July 1974 - I am seized by a dilemma; should I marry M___? Not if she won't tell me the other letters in her name."

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 7/28/2006 11:12 am:
Yeah, good advice. I don't think I'll marry W until I find out her real name. Thanks!

ella1966 50F
1528 posts
7/28/2006 12:52 am

Kelli, I have emailed you privately, and don't wish to disclose the contents of my email here, but wish you well in your sojourn..ella xoxoxoxoxo

Jo82760 56M

7/31/2006 7:20 pm

Big hugs and little kisses and wishing you all the best. Hope to read lots of great posts when you get back! - Joe

papyrina 51F
21133 posts
8/6/2006 3:52 am

having had an eptopic pregnancy,i agree your doing the right thing,mine was caught in time as i was pregnant with non identical twins one in the womb one in the tubes,not nice as i had to lose both to make sure i was ok.
Hugs as i feel for you right now big time

I'm a

i'm here to stay

florallei 99F

9/23/2006 4:36 pm

Kelli, TY for sharing your very personal story...I never realized how close my own post was to your situation in some way...God bless you for thinking of adoption...I adopted both my children...I wish to do more but two adoptions early this year fell thru...the one case the baby son died 24 hours after his mother died...she had cancer and baby was too weak to survive...the other 3 siblings were adopted by their Aunt after I offered to adopt all 3...in some ways I am glad they still have blood family...both parents of the children died in a car crash.

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 9/23/2006 6:18 pm:
Your post hit me really hard. I've been fine with things, have thought about it a little, but I've been reconciled to never having a baby of my own for a long time. I just broke down and cried when I read your post. I guess I need to go through the grief after all.

Bless you for adopting. I send money to an orphanage in Russia every month, and visited them last spring (another series of posts). It just breaks your heart. When I'm in a situation when I can give a child a stable home and a father, I will adopt. Hugs to you for having such an open heart. {=}

florallei 99F

9/23/2006 6:47 pm

Kelli, TY for responding and I know your sadness more than you'll ever know...I wish I could give you a hug and I know God has a master plan for you as he did with me...My BF says I am the original "old woman in the shoe" with loads of kids...he feels God will use me somehow in regards children...If that is the case I am here...God!!! I so love children...My one post "My first true love" is about my son... and the two children I am blessed with are the most precious gifts I have been given which I wrote about "Your baby became my baby" a story about adoption and my tribute to birth mothers. Sorry for the long response...
When You ended your comment to me "Sis" my heart cried for it means a lot to me to know someone else knows what I am going thru...God bless you Sweetie and your mother and the children you will have in the future...


rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 9/23/2006 8:50 pm:
I think your kids are very lucky.

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