rm_kelli4u2dew 41F
7027 posts
4/18/2006 8:36 am

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5/18/2006 7:10 am


I get a lot of emails from "couples" looking for a lady to get together with them.

Something I've noticed is that very often the mail and any subsequent chat is only with one of the people. Now when it's the lady, I assume that they are part of a couple and that both are interested. But when it's only the male half, sometimes I have to wonder ...

Had a contact from a guy who has a profile showing both he and his lady. When we connected through chat, it turns out that his lady is several hundred miles away (he works here and goes home monthly), and that he wants to meet with me alone. The location on their profile is my city, but she's never here ...???

What I'm wondering, is if some guys post "couples" profiles thinking that this will make women more comfortable with them, but that the other half of the couple really doesn't exist.

For the record, I've never met with a couple from this site. When I've met with couples in the past, it was always as a swap with me being part of a couple also.

Ladies, do you meet with couples who contact you? Do you have guys contacting you who present as a couple but there is no "she"?

rm_nymphak 33M/31F
1 post
4/18/2006 9:16 am

i think that your statement is very true and is hurting the couples who are truely together. If you are posing as a fake couple most likely you are not willing to follow through and thus a fake, i wish you luck in your search. And hopefully you realize there are genuine people and couples here.

phangasm2003 105M

4/18/2006 9:55 am

I've absolutely seen this. There's one guy (supposedly a couple) who contacted me, but when I talked to him, he was a guy in a long term relationship playing around on the side. That's not especially a problem for me, but the whole bait & switch left a bad taste. I have seen profiles where there are situations like what you describe but they spell it out in the profile, and that's fine.

caressmewell 53F

4/18/2006 9:55 am

I receive lots of email from "couples" where the man has stated she is "no longer interested" but he wants to play.

hereforyou6217 43M
912 posts
4/18/2006 10:15 am

Heh. I've run into this... the female's "out of town". Come on, people. There are a few of us who can read between the lines, after all.

The best part, though, is when you try to chat with a couple. 99% of the time, I know who I'm talking to within the first five lines of chat. Women tend to have real conversations. Men? They're conducting a job interview. Consulting a checklist. Irritating.

muscles4u2have 54M
1642 posts
4/18/2006 10:44 am

I have been contacted by couples and the man knew nothing about it. I asked if he was going to be there and she said no. I am not into the MMF thing!! But if the couple is 2 women then, bring it on!!

Go check out Women of Blogville Calendar! NOVEMBER, 2007!!

muscles4u2have 54M
1642 posts
4/18/2006 10:45 am

Sorry it was OCTOBER, 2007. My mind is fryed from doing this calendar thing!!!

reverend21 49M
1913 posts
4/18/2006 12:47 pm

I've had a 'couples' contact me, though there was never any mention of a wife, and several photo's were demanded not requested.

blueguy1051 60M

4/18/2006 4:55 pm

Just cruised by to spam your blog and say thanks for voting for me on the hottie calendar ... and just how did I end up a nominee???

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 4/18/2006 6:30 pm:
Somebody must like the hat ... LOL!

Allsleeky 35F

4/18/2006 6:16 pm

There's a "couple"(yeah right) who page me everytime I open the IM. I'm pretty sure it's just a guy, and he tries to pass as a woman. She(he) suggested I go meet her husband and give him a "blow job", that's all he wants, a blow job from another woman, then he will let her play on her own!! She(he) begged me to play on cam for her, but she doesn't have a web cam!!! LOL.

I could be a little bit crazy, but I'm not that stupid!

frogger1995 39F

4/18/2006 7:58 pm

Those "couples" where only the guy contacts you is just men who have figured out that being part of a willing pair puts them one rung higher on the desirability ladder of this site.

One of my old Adult Friends met with a couple and it turned out only the man wanted to interact with him. LOL

That's why I stick to single men only.

rm_kelli4u2dew 41F
5220 posts
4/18/2006 9:50 pm

Ok. If the people I consider the "hottest" bloggers here have had the same experience I have ... if it quacks ... LOL!

Ttiger - silly boy! Did you ask her if SHE had a bunny costume?

I'm amazed by the number of men who have commented that they were contactd by couples without a woman. Curiosity (believe me, not judgement) are you bi? Did they have a reason to believe you might be responsive, or did they just love your bods?

Nightguy_1961 55M
4866 posts
4/18/2006 9:56 pm


You said you wanted comments from the ladies only, but I guess my hair is long enough to qualify...somewhat.

The only couples I've had contact with have been mostly the female half of the couple...and only then, it has been for information mostly.

I guess that some people take it very seriously when they read what is in my profile and my lady's profile...WE decide if and when we'll meet/play/scene with anyone & that BOTH of us will be there.

Just my view....


rm_kelli4u2dew 41F
5220 posts
4/18/2006 10:13 pm

NG - where I grew up, your hair is normal length ... for a man ...

EverReady343 47M

4/18/2006 11:45 pm

Hi kellie,
You have a really nice ass by the way!
I don't know about couples but I will say, I have had some single guys checking out my profile! I had one guy say that he would like to suck me dry! Just the thought of it made me feel a little sick!
I'm only new to this site and so far have one couple contact me.It seems to be genuine to me. She is attractive and I wouldn't mind giving her a go! The thing is I can only fantasize because I live in Australia and they in the USA. No one local has contacted me and it has been impossible for me to contact them as I am only a standard member.

cheers EverReady

tillerbabe 55F

4/19/2006 2:06 am

Well.. I'm not much into "meeting" peeps right now.. more into the BLOG thing...but I have to agree with you and I think your "wondering" is right on. I did have a friend from here that chatted with a man that was supposed to be part of a "couple" - they met and yes, there was no other woman. Some of these guys are really desperate and will do what they can to get what they want. One time, on another site, I was exploring my bi-curious side and was contacted by a very attractive female..which guess what?!?!? Turned out to be a dude! He was just "gettin' off" on the thought of me with another woman. So, anything is possible my dear behind the computer screen. If old, perverted men can pretend to be younger to attract a 14 year old...anything is possible. Unfortunately.

sillyperv 54M

4/19/2006 7:30 am

Sorry Kelli, it's the split personality thing again. She just goes out and makes all these arrangements and then vanishes leaving me to deal with the fall out. That's not so bad, it's just I hate it when I wake up wearing the fishnet stockings and Winnie the Pooh thong.

phangasm2003 105M

4/19/2006 3:16 pm

    Quoting rm_kelli4u2dew:
    Ok. If the people I consider the "hottest" bloggers here have had the same experience I have ... if it quacks ... LOL!

    Ttiger - silly boy! Did you ask her if SHE had a bunny costume?

    I'm amazed by the number of men who have commented that they were contactd by couples without a woman. Curiosity (believe me, not judgement) are you bi? Did they have a reason to believe you might be responsive, or did they just love your bods?
I list as bi, but a lot of the time (especially on IM), I don't think they check. People (usually guys, but I've had the female 1/2 of a couple do it) will hit me up and ask "are you bi"? No, I just like to talk to illiterates. My profile doesn't say that I'm seeking men, it may even explicitly say I'm not interested in meeting men (I recently rewrote and tried to be cute, so I may have omitted the serious parts). I've heard the same from guys who list as straight. I even get hit on from guys who list as straight. That's a non-starter.

EroticaXTC 49F

4/19/2006 4:04 pm

hey kelli...I'm not interested in couples, but I've been hit on a lot in the past by "couples"...and most of the time I can tell by the way they write that it's the "guy"...
sillyperv is hilarious!!

also, you knew me as "pink"

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 4/19/2006 4:17 pm:
Yes, sillyperv is always here to make sure I don't take myself too seriously ... Thanks for stopping by, pretty lady.

rm_pibbsames 34M/44F
3 posts
4/19/2006 4:14 pm

I am the female of a couple and I think I am more interested than him (well, maybe not MORE but definitely as much!) to have a woman with us. I am the one who does all the searching and contacting...he just waits until I have found a female and then he checks out her profile and pix. It's all up to me Unfortunately, I think single women assume that a "couple" is just a horny guy thinking he may get more of a response (as Frogger1995 eluded to). Hopefully, for the couples who are really couples, women take a chance and respond. You almost always can tell who you are chatting with, like hereforyou6217 says, women have the "real" conversations.

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 4/19/2006 4:19 pm:
Pleased to see you here. Yes, I know most couples are real and sincere ... it was just that sometimes ...

reverend21 49M
1913 posts
4/19/2006 8:54 pm

    Quoting rm_kelli4u2dew:
    Ok. If the people I consider the "hottest" bloggers here have had the same experience I have ... if it quacks ... LOL!

    Ttiger - silly boy! Did you ask her if SHE had a bunny costume?

    I'm amazed by the number of men who have commented that they were contactd by couples without a woman. Curiosity (believe me, not judgement) are you bi? Did they have a reason to believe you might be responsive, or did they just love your bods?
Nope, I am in no way shape or form bi or anything bot for women only. If I knew what it was that made me attractive to them i would let you know, actually I get propsition by about 10 times as many men as I do women.

hansum_strangrr 47M
384 posts
4/20/2006 3:36 am

Same thing happened to me. The woman contacts, then it was for real. I was duped into a meeting at a local hotel after the man half contacted me (there were 2 profiles) the female half contacted me after he did. I showed up and he was the only one in the room. He said that she would be back in a minute, she was grabbing some drinks. He asked if I wanted a blow job while I wait. I refused. (I am straight) SHE never showed, I left. I know that It was a set up. "SHE" never emailed again. That sucked.

Everybody Dies, Not Everyone Really Lives.

rm_FreeLove999 46F
16127 posts
4/21/2006 8:26 am

i haven't see a couple yet that i'm interested in. but yeah, i get those mails. i've even had mails from "women" that clearly weren't women... i guess these guys are just desperate.

[blog freelove999]

kelly402005 52F

4/21/2006 3:33 pm

Gotten a lot of couples proposals of meeting, but....
it turned up being only the guy!!!
...... Funny how it all turns out!
Never met any of them though!

Have a good one kelli,

Gypsy329 46F

4/22/2006 12:04 am

I get quite a few "couples" emails and it's almost always a man telling me that she's no longer interested and asking me to call him so we can hook up. In these cases, I just delete them. Then, of course, there's the guy who says his wife/girlfriend is "bi-curious" and he wants to meet me first before suprising his wife/girlfriend. I'm pretty quick to let him know that if I don't hear that from her then I'm not interested.

I just recently banned a guy with a woman's pic on his profile but no actual woman exists for constantly sending me women's pics and signing his email with "his" name. When I asked about the woman...he played stupid, stating he sent the wrong pic. I asked him to send the right one and the idiot sent the same woman's pic AGAIN...LOL.

RevJoseyWales 69M/66F
14393 posts
4/22/2006 10:06 am

Well Kelli, if you ever wander east, you would meet with a real couple. It's the ONLY way we would EVER meet with ANYONE. Joe

"McVeigh had the right idea, wrong address."

"This ain't Dodge City, and you ain't Bill Hickok."

DLiscious2 48M/42F

4/23/2006 10:56 am

Happy to say that we have not (yet) had the experience of meeting a "couple" only to be duped. From what we're reading here it seems we've been lucky.

StaynHardnHot 42M
305 posts
4/24/2006 4:56 am

Ok, i came here looking for the Asshole's post you banned bu i guess when you banned him the post went too...oh well

rm_kelli4u2dew 41F
5220 posts
4/24/2006 11:21 am

Yes, when you ban someone, their comments disappear.

papyrina 50F
21133 posts
4/25/2006 2:44 am


I'm a

i'm here to stay

GB_Cple 66M/55F  
3037 posts
4/25/2006 10:55 pm

lol also came alooking !

We ARE a couple, although it is only me, the male, that is ever on-line.
Mrs GB is hardly ever on-line, and she prefers I deal with making contacts, as she no longer wishes to suffer all the hassles with talking with fakes etc etc.

My experiances is that a lot of men are using couples profiles so as to make contact with women and couples, sometimes there is no female partner at all, sometimes there is , but she has no knowlage of what her partner is doing , and the biggest group, is the "Reluctant Wife" group.
HE wants to meet, SHE doesn't, they aften talk about it , get all hot and randy in bed talking about it, but SHE "refuses" (his words) to take it any further.

We do meet, not often , but we have met a few very men on here, and had a good time , not dated with any cples yet , but looking forward to it

marcusgarvey008 45M

5/18/2006 12:09 am

I was looking too! I have contacted numerous 'couples' and it is obvious that most of them are just men... Some of them switch person halfway through the narrative... Duh...

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