Bots or trained monkeys?  

rm_kelli4u2dew 41F
7028 posts
8/16/2006 10:36 am

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Bots or trained monkeys?

It's an article of faith by many women on this site that most men don't read our profiles. Many women have told me that men just see a picture and email it.

Well, now I have proof.

I changed my profile pic yesterday. There are a lot of reasons for that. Foremost is that those pics are 5 years old, and I'm not the same person anymore. Another reason is that there were 36 photos taken in that shoot, a full roll of film, by my ex-husband. While I have some of them, I don't have all of them. According to the divorce settlement, all pictures of me were to be turned over to me or destroyed, but ... Some were posted on this site years ago when I was here as part of a couple. I have no idea whether hubby fully complied with the decree.

Another reason is that I'm tired of reading comments that certain bloggers attract a readership only because of their photos. Funny thing is some of these comments are from people posting explicit photos. Whatever, I'm not going to play any more.

So, withing 24 hours of changing my photo, I get an email from the same guy as Heeeee's baaaaaaaaak!!!!!! . The exact same email. Obviously, he's sending this to any picture he doesn't recognize. Whether he has an automated script to do it, or his trained monkey is doing it, I don't know.

I sent him a response:

What kind of bloody idiot are you? Do you even keep track of who you spam with this shit? Do you even read any profiles, or do you just send this to any picture that catches your eye? Do you have an IQ? If so, it's obviously in the low double digits.

Rocket scientist? LMAO!!!! You can't even deal with the minor complexities of sending an introductory email on a sex site!

If you have gotten this far, with a dictionary to help you with the multisyllabic words, then I suggest you read my blog. You have been supplying fodder for ridicule by thousands of readers for a long time now.

However, if you can talk your keepers into writing a new letter for you to use, I'm sure I can use it in the future, but this one is getting a little old THE FOURTH TIME YOU'VE SENT IT TO ME!!!!

Do you suppose that he'll actually come here and read my blog now? Or is he so oblivious that my response will be lost in the thousands of rejections he surely receives?

Ladies, do you ever break down and respond to men if they are persistent?

Men, do you ever persist in hope that a woman will change her mind?

fantasylover_05 62M

8/16/2006 10:56 am

Hey Beautiful

First let me say... the new photo would catch my attention just as much as the last one!

To answer your question.... yes I have "persisted in hopes of changing her mind" and in several formats... via email... and comments to their blogs (I keep coming back here don't I LOL ).. and YES typically it is to no avail, however every once in a while they will respond. Since I am not actually looking for sex or hook ups it is perhaps different.... I have persisted and had her respond though admit we never met but only shared a few emails or such and that was enough for me....

I hope you are feeling better and back full of piss and vinegar (which from this post it would seem you are! LOL LOL )

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 8/16/2006 1:17 pm:
Well, since everyone seems to want to see my ass, I figured I'd find another picture of it.

meerkittykat 42F

8/16/2006 11:15 am

Yeh, I do respond sometimes....and it's often not in the way they are looking for. I am always polite and civil, although I know my repsonse in the fashion of rejection is not going to elicit the same resepctful response in the email to me. You can succintly say, in so many ways, "I am not interested" and some tosser is still going to call you every name in the book because his ego's been dented. So, rather than apologize for rejecting anyone (cos no one certainly apologizes for wasting MY time with their unwanted emails) I now choose to bait them and mess with them.

I am a bitch, but if they read my profile, they've been sufficiently warned.

Good to see you back and hope your time off was fruitful for you.

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 8/16/2006 1:20 pm:
This guy is just getting to be old. His cut-and-paste intro letter is 3 pages long and offensive. I can't imagine that he ever gets a positive response.

I'm feeling pretty good. Got the stitches out this morning.

EvilEvilKitten1 62F

8/16/2006 11:16 am

Short answer is: No. Persistence usually ends up with them being blocked if not merely ignored and deleted without reading.

The long answer is: He can ask and ask and ask but hell will freeze over before I acknowledge his existence because he is most unsuitable and does not and never could meet my needs, desires, passions, or requirements because he's either too young, too stupid, too inept, too needy, too damn far away, too damn ugly, too controlling, or just too much of a huge pain in the ass to deal with (pauses for breath) or just too damn annoying for any woman to deal with, let alone a demanding woman like me, for any length of time which he will ever realize or understand because he's too stuck on himself and what he wants to consider the wishes of anyone else.

Enough said? *EG*


rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 8/16/2006 1:22 pm:
I just can't figure this one out. I guess he just spams every woman in his geographic area hoping to get lucky, and when he's hit every woman once, starts over again.

howaboutahuck 66M
489 posts
8/16/2006 11:19 am

I read your previous profile and I had to go back and revisit. I don't think you could have made it any clearer as to your wishes or who you want to hear from. I only persist in bloging with friends and hoping to meet more.

Have A Great Day


rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 8/16/2006 1:24 pm:
I am constantly making new friends here, but they are all people I've first seen in the blogs. I think it gives a lot more insight into someone than just their profile.

rm_Benkai7 55M
2358 posts
8/16/2006 11:34 am

Dear "kelli4u2dew".

"Men, do you ever persist in hope that a woman will change her mind?"

... hm, ...
to get her愀 "attention" by bad manners and disrespect ... no I don愒 think so ...

Benkai7 - just my opinion & experience ...

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 8/16/2006 1:26 pm:
LOL!!! You have wisdom, my friend.

Allsleeky 36F

8/16/2006 11:35 am

When I have sometime kill I respond letting them know that I'm not interested, otherwise I just ignore and let them get pissed off at me!

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 8/16/2006 1:26 pm:
Hi Sleeky!

Harpocrates7 42M

8/16/2006 12:31 pm

I fully read profiles before I attempt contact. If interested, I'll send a concise, articulate e-mail. If I don't hear back in a couple of days, I move along.

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 8/17/2006 7:15 am:
Well, that is certainly more than 90% of my correspondents attempt ...

rm_pleasuresex3 52M
520 posts
8/16/2006 12:56 pm

No. I send one mail, that's it. No reply, I move on. This is for my own sake. To keep sending mails to the same person in the (vain) hope of some recognition doesn't hold much appeal for me.

I haven't sent mails in a long time, but when I did my response rate was something like 5-10%. And all the women who did respond (apart from one), did so within 24 hours.

From this I gather that if my mail catches a woman's attention she will respond fairly swiftly. If not, it's best to forget about her.

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 8/16/2006 1:28 pm:
I have many male friends on this site, and most of those who are successful at meeting women approach things much as you describe.

ticktock500 44M

8/16/2006 1:12 pm

i still have the same problem...maybe i should put some pants on.

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 8/16/2006 1:29 pm:
I don't know ... how about another angle before I vote?

Kristofer32 46M

8/16/2006 1:43 pm

What is the saying about enough blood for...oh forget it. Because I can say honestly I am here for the personal pleasure derived from the comments on blogs and from the laugh I get when I can read five or six profiles, from different cities, with different photos and all are EXACTLY the same as the other. I have commented before that for every real woman on the site (not over here in Blogville) there are at least ten bots. It provides entertainment. For you, Kelli, I am certain it is frustrating, but hey, I am a socially naive, self-described workaholic geek who derives great pleasure from the blogs and profiles I read. Whether they are written by bright souls, like you, or are the dimwitted concoction of those like said monkey, I enjoy them. All I can say is thanks for your posts, they are always a treat.


rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 8/17/2006 7:14 am:
Don't you wish you could do a search on a picture?

ticktock500 44M

8/16/2006 1:46 pm

so your a little persistent too???

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 8/17/2006 7:13 am:
Yes, I'm a bit persistent ...

rm_macallan4u 46M
968 posts
8/16/2006 2:27 pm

There is a fine line between persistence, harassment and begging. Although I am no stranger to begging (lol), I do try to avoid harassment. My rule of thumb is try twice, although there have been exceptions... Dulcinea for one (to stay with the theme)

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 8/17/2006 7:11 am:
Begging with flair has its attractions ...

rm_smosmof2 67M
3240 posts
8/16/2006 3:33 pm

kelli4u2dew replies on 8/16/2006 1:22 pm:
I just can't figure this one out. I guess he just spams every woman in his geographic area hoping to get lucky, and when he's hit every woman once, starts over again.

Classic definition of insanity--"repeating the same action over and over again expecting a different response."

Couldn't tell you how many emails I sent out in the first months here, probably over 100. Never got a response to any of them, except from other-site lures. Don't think I ever sent out a second to any of them.... Did that back on True (I had a free month... that's what eventually got me here...) never got any responses there either... if I hadn't found my way here, no one would ever have talked to me... (sob)....

but then, I've grown accustomed to the idea that I'm too old, and not rich enough to really appeal to anybody (boy, are you ever full of self-pity crap today!)

Or maybe this guy is like the writer who is trying to collect as many different rejection notices as possible?

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 8/17/2006 7:11 am:
You just haven't found the right gal, that's all. Try asking several blogger friends to critique your profile and intro letters.

RevJoseyWales 69M/66F
14393 posts
8/16/2006 3:43 pm

I LOVE the new pic. It will STILL attract the same amount of attention, trust me. Will he read your blog? hell, he doesn't read profiles, why do you think he'd read a blog? AS for us, One email. That's it. I don't beg for a damned thing. Except maybe you. Uncle Joe

"McVeigh had the right idea, wrong address."

"This ain't Dodge City, and you ain't Bill Hickok."

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 8/17/2006 7:09 am:

mysticdreamangel 61F
2759 posts
8/16/2006 3:59 pm

I have gotten to the point that unless I recognize the name on an email I just don't read it. I find that it is much nicer to meet people through their blogs. You have an opportunity to read their words and their thoughts...then if I'm interested I go and read their profile. If I still like what I have read, I look at the picture(s). Regardless of the pics if I like the way the persons mind works I will respond to a post.

Guess I grew tired of the cliches...just can't be bothered anymore.

I love the new photo and good for you for mixing it up!

Kelli, glad to hear your feeling better and keep on reading you posts!

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 8/17/2006 7:08 am:
Yeah, I take the part of my profile that says I only respond to people I recognize from the blogs seriously. And the mind is definitely the most important thing a person has to offer.

MissAnnThrope 56F
11488 posts
8/16/2006 4:05 pm

I've got one that won't give up. He admits to being 62, but he looks a good bit older. You would think he'd get it when I just keep sending back a quick response saying, "I'm looking for someone younger." You would think he'd get it when I keep hitting ignore in IMC, or ban on the cam. However, those last two programs don't seem to work very well when you hit ban and ignore. He's back 30 seconds later. Even saying as much to him as "go away" eggs him on. Is he that stupid, or is he doing it out of vengence, just to annoy me? I have no clue. But I wish he'd just go away.

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 8/17/2006 7:06 am:
I have had that problem in real life, but only once here. By the time you get to the point of pleading, "Please, just go away and leave me alone!", the next step includes fantasies of murder, or at least a crippling accident.

complexlysimple 34M

8/16/2006 4:37 pm

"...that most men don't read our profiles."

Thank you for the acknowledgment that it's not all men ... as for your question .. I persist only when I get some kind of reply ..otherwise it's pointless. Though I also don't send many -under 100 in the last few months mostly back and forth with the same people. Besides I figure a woman can just as easily email me and I realize I can be rather ..eccentric(?).

Has this guy really claimed to be a 'rocket scientist' though?

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 8/17/2006 6:16 am:
Yes, he has, and it's also his online name.

tootsiedippin 53M/53F
1078 posts
8/16/2006 4:44 pm

Well we have both ends of the answer here.

We send maybe two emails with invites but only after fully reading the profile. The e-mail is always personalized to their profile. A second goes out if we really feel strongly about the contactee after a couple of weeks because, as you said, we could have gotten lost in the mass delete syndrome that we ourselves occasionally do. We always include pictures G-rated together and with faces and maybe pg-13 but no close-ups... ya know to tease.

Persistence gets you blocked! as we typically respond in some way to most. Blind, out of area network invites are declined! That’s someone looking to collect pictures and we are rounding on 50 ish at this point.

Bloggers we stick to blogging unless they ask us to contact them as many are out of area and honestly we are not what they are looking for in their profile. Though we really love to chat it up if invited.

Here’s what kills us. As said earlier, we always send out very personalized e-mails that we hope they will at least get a giggle out of them... But more than once we have gotten a response and a network invite where we or they join only to have them drop us from the second contact. We are never crude or explicit so it must be the pictures...

Now here’s the funny thing about this, the one that should be answering your question is very likely never going to give you an answer. We that do can read. Well in my case I have the computer read it to me because I can't...but you have to give me credit for at least figuring out how....LOL

And it is this kind of high school behavior that has made it so hard for us to meet anyone...Le Sigh

Hope you are gaining strength every day...


rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 8/17/2006 7:04 am:
In some ways, this is almost like two different sites - the profiles and the blogs. But you have to admit, it takes a special person to want to have sex with someone who is blue.

T_A_B_75 42M

8/16/2006 4:47 pm

Are you sure that's a picture of you? I can't tell without seeing your head. I like it, not quite as enticing but it still catches the eye.

I don't persist. I haven't e-mailed many people and don't care to on this site. I just thought I would check it out and see what happens. Not much if you're male as far as I can tell.

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 8/17/2006 6:19 am:
Yes, it's me.

tadpudgy 56M

8/16/2006 5:03 pm

oh no ma'am.....I am harder on myself than anyone could ever be. I know that NO means NO. I read the profiles too, and view as many previous blogs befor i am comfortable in posting comments. Pictures are indeed eye-candy, and i posted my own version of "Questionaire" and asked visitors, does it hurt that i don't post a photo, and if i choose to, what would women like to see? Most agree a photo helps if you are looking to meet prospective dates. Still, i am too self-conscious. What has touched me were the responses about my sincerity and sense of humor, and that i am courteous to everyone. I am sure you will have to keep dealing with "creeps". Alot of you ladies deal with it daily. Just keep blogging on, and btw, hope your health is continuing to improve! HUG=GASMS!!!!!!!!!!

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 8/17/2006 7:02 am:
I'm doing well, thank you. I don't think the lack of a profile photo hurts your chances, but I will always insist on a face pic before I agree to meet someone.

JuicyBBW1001 54F

8/16/2006 5:47 pm

I will respond if I feel like having dinner with someone new.


JazzDlight 59F

8/16/2006 6:01 pm

Only ever did once and that was last summer and he and I have become the closest of friends. BTW Welcome back hope all is well. Hugs, Jazz

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 8/17/2006 7:00 am:
Someone else told me a similar story. I'm doing well, thanks.

JazzDlight 59F

8/16/2006 6:03 pm

Only ever did once and that was last summer and he and I have become the closes of friends. BTW Welcome back hope all is well. Hugs, Jazz

IsThisBetter4u 106M

8/16/2006 6:32 pm

Men, do you ever persist in hope that a woman will change her mind?
NO. I've been ignored more than once. Many times in fact. I'm a fairly likable guy with a decent profile and a decent blog. Anyone who wants to know anything about me can read either or both. I assume that that they do, and if they are not interested then that's that. I MIGHT send a second email if I think they get sooooo many that mine gets lost in the shuffle. But generally NO. I promise to quit sending them Kelli and I'll try to forget your IP.

Ladies, do you ever break down [image]
and respond to men if they are persistent?

God I hope not. If you're not interested or "impressed" enough with their presentation then why should you. You ladies (especially the high profile ladies like yourself) get WAY too many emails to respond to them all. A person that presents themselves as an obstinate stalker should be ignored and blocked by my standards. If I fell into that category then I would rather shoot myself than persist in that miserable life. Send me his IP and I'll set my friends upon him.

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 8/17/2006 6:59 am:
I had one lady tell me that she ended up dating a guy who was persistent and finally agreed to meet after his fourth email. So, sometimes ...

SingleWarrior 52M

8/16/2006 8:00 pm

Men, do you ever persist in hope that a woman will change her mind?

Nope. I've either received an e-mail back for conversation, or I didn't get one back at all to reply to (I am not counting the auto-AdultFriendFinder deleted ones before I even get a chance to read them)

Ladies, do you ever break down and respond to men if they are persistent?

I would hope that if I was a tad persistant with someone that my charm would win her over for her to break down some.

...If I have charm, that is

One will never know unless they TRY to make something happen. Maybe a girl DOES want a guy to be a bit persistant. Others don't. But you need to at least try, and know when to STOP when the other party clearly shows zero interest.

Now... regarding your new pic: I actually prefer this one over the last one

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 8/17/2006 6:57 am:
What is it that everyone likes about this pic?

SlowPlayin 50M

8/16/2006 8:23 pm

LOL ... even if I didn't think you were hot ... and interesting ... I would still read your blog just to see when you're going to sense another "battle" and lock horns with another confused man.

Nope ... I don't usually persist (unless I'm kidding around and know I don't have a chance in hell) ... MUTUAL attraction is non-negotiable in my opinion. I WOULD persist in chasing you around the house if given the chance though ... seriously.

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 8/17/2006 6:39 am:
Which house?

funintheday2006 56M
9659 posts
8/16/2006 8:38 pm

I like the new pic better.
I dont email profiles coz I've discovered that they take one look at my photos and join another site. I think this is unfair on the other men as I seem to be scaring them there gals away.
I am glad you are back though, and as subtle as ever.
------> new logo <------

bustybettyboop 50F  
59325 posts
8/16/2006 9:14 pm

Ladies, do you ever break down and respond to men if they are persistent?ohhh sometimes if there nice about it...but if i'm not interested not more then one polite e-mail...and alot of men don't get the hint..they keep writing and writing and writing me back..begging..promising things..omg! its crazy! lol! *rolls eyes* and *sighs*

..just join me on my blog bustybettyboop and still looking for some hot,sexy,creative contestants for my next contest...come join us! need a blog mentor or want to be one?

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 8/17/2006 6:37 am:
I have a tongue-in-cheek autorespond message that says their email "encountered a fatal error" because they didn't read my profile. Some guys will send 3,4,5 emails in a row before they finally give up.

Glimmer_Man06 47M
3308 posts
8/16/2006 10:47 pm

Men, do you ever persist in hope that a woman will change her mind? Never! If I even sense she isn't interested, I drop all attempts. I have better things to do than waste my time and energy on a lost cause.

I am glad you responded back then!

They say a woman ages like fine wine...

...mine ages like milk!

MarcoPolo197676 40M
541 posts
8/16/2006 10:50 pm

LOL, anything worthwhile doesnt come easy.

toothysmile 50M
16515 posts
8/17/2006 12:39 am

to me a 'no' is a 'no'. that simple. kisses.
should i change my pic too?

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 8/17/2006 6:30 am:
Yes, please. Can we please see your left side?

rm_1hotwahine 63F
21091 posts
8/17/2006 1:24 am

I'm one of the "I'm here to blog" gang, but recognize that's not the primary purpose of this site. So if I have any belief that the email was actually written to me after reading my profile, I will respond politely and by wishing them luck on this site (although making it clear I'm not interested).

If it feels like a plastering everyone email and not relevant to me personally, then I don't bother responding.

In the early days (last year??) I blocked a couple people.

But mostly I am neither upset nor engaged by the bot posts.

Yeah, I'm still [blog 1hotwahine]

economickrisis 55M

8/17/2006 1:46 am

I always wait till Im invited.

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 8/17/2006 6:24 am:
Finally a photo that wasn't stolen from somewhere!

betweenu77 52M
840 posts
8/17/2006 1:51 am

As a standard member, largely all I can do is send a wink, which I must admit I've been persistent with with some women. But it's never, bare once, brought any positive feedback towards me.
The only payed members that I bother to reply too (obviously the ones with full access to all members) are the ones that have bothered to write something substanial enough about themselves which makes me think I want to meet this women. So the pic means nothing to me in the end. I want to meet someone who'll be on a similiar wave length.
The only positive reply I've recieved was from a TG who connected with what I'd written, all the others, women, wrote back saying, 'yeh, blah blah blah, don't want to sound vain, but can you send face pic first; which I now have as my wanking pics only brough 'eee's, lookin for a man, not a boy'

Glimmer_Man06 47M
3308 posts
8/17/2006 2:42 am


Why don't you post a pic of that beautiful smile? That is what got me right away!(although the window shot was rather delicious!)

They say a woman ages like fine wine...

...mine ages like milk!

UdderPuttyBiped 37M
102 posts
8/17/2006 5:51 am

I just have to say this: I don't care if someone rejects me on AdultFriendFinder. They don't know me, and they certainly have no idea what they are missing out on by not accepting my offer. However, I have never gotten any response AT ALL from any woman that has not been interested (or a bot of course). I would love to get a rejection letter, honestly. No response at all just kind of irks me.

Which reminds me, I emailed Sarahwilling several weeks ago and have gotten no response from her...and she hasn't blogged in over a month! Does anyone know what happened to her? I am a bit worried, she's fallen off the face of the blogs.

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 8/17/2006 6:29 am:
Ya know, I was wondering that myself ...

funintheday2006 56M
9659 posts
8/17/2006 5:59 am

    Quoting Glimmer_Man06:

    Why don't you post a pic of that beautiful smile? That is what got me right away!(although the window shot was rather delicious!)
Na mate, her arse is better, I like to see who I'm talking to.
<---- thats my logo again

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 8/17/2006 6:28 am:
Don't push it ... you're already on shakey ground. *?

sillyperv 54M

8/17/2006 8:37 am

Bum! Bum! Bum! Bum! Glorious bum! What! Glad you're feeling better. You know, if they're not reading your profile,( I haven't for that matter, so I've reduced my ritual emailing's to you to just 3 an hour out of respect) it's fair play to not read past the first offensive line of their email's. Or is it like a traffic accident -- you just can't look away?

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 8/17/2006 11:18 am:
Some are like that ...

bustybettyboop 50F  
59325 posts
8/17/2006 9:27 am

thats too funny! lol! u go girl! *wink*

..just join me on my blog bustybettyboop and still looking for some hot,sexy,creative contestants for my next contest...come join us! need a blog mentor or want to be one?

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 8/17/2006 11:18 am:
I got the idea from someone else, but I can't remember who ... GOTD, maybe ...

toothysmile 50M
16515 posts
8/17/2006 1:42 pm

done. lol... kisses.


8/17/2006 2:55 pm

Hi Kelli,
Admittedly, your pic caught my eye first, then I read your profile(which I still love), and seeing that you and I weren't likely to ever progress, I let it go. Then I happened to see your response to someone's blog, and linked to your blog, where I read your 100 list and fell in love all over again. lol That list just slays me. Been readin' you ever since. Hopefully, you will stop by mine sometime. Then I can return the favor and maybe get a giggle out of you. Check out "turmoil". I think you may like it. Been lots of good feedback from all your friends so far. Hugs
PS Damn Glad You're Back! (in any clothing you may choose)

Bronzehalo 2007

complexlysimple 34M

8/17/2006 4:34 pm

Has this guy really claimed to be a 'rocket scientist' though?

kelli4u2dew replies on 8/17/2006 8:16 am:
Yes, he has, and it's also his online name.

Well, I would apologize for the rest of us with degrees in 'rocket science' ...but somehow I think this guy might be on the fringes (if he's even really in the field) ... and that's coming from someone who hasn't found a job in the field yet..... I wouldn't say that's a 'good' thing

SingleWarrior 52M

8/17/2006 7:32 pm

kelli4u2dew replies on 8/17/2006 6:57 am:
What is it that everyone likes about this pic?

I dunno... just something about it that I really like...

fullysatisfyu 41M
332 posts
8/17/2006 8:22 pm

It should be noted that men have to pay to see your profile, and therefore we don't read all of them before responding. Women can read profiles and send email without paying so it is hard for them to see what we are dealing with. Not all of us are jerks, only about 85%. LOL

SlowPlayin 50M

8/17/2006 9:57 pm

LOL ... which would you prefer?

rm_luvsyou4 53M
18 posts
8/18/2006 1:55 am

I always read the profiles. Otherwise, you can look like an idiot and it's disrespectful to the woman. Not sure what the guy would be thinking. After a few days, if no response, I move on.

Wyldtyme2nite 45M/46F
853 posts
8/18/2006 9:06 am

Persistant. No only if a couple has expressed interest by sending us a ton of emails and then ignore us when we are ready to meet.after 3 emails they get tossed from our network. Other than that we rarely email unless someone checks us out and we like their profile.
As for persistant people. No women have ever emailed us constantly. Damm. We can wish. As for the men. My wife just may look go nice package, next. Not the kind of guy she finds attractive. She rather pick up a guy at a club then take a chance here. Now couples we have and will continue to meet. And single females even though we meet one that was a couple then became single. SO we really have not meet any single women either. But the big question isnt persistence, but do the one liners work and if so what does that say about you. Thing that make you go HMMMM LOL

letsdoitall92 47M
3 posts
8/18/2006 12:23 pm

As a newbie, my method so far:

Used the search to narrow down my likes, pics or not. Read the profile, and if I laughed or was interested, I'd send a very brief email about something in the profile. I wouldn't send 2nd one, which is why I like that the site keeps track if I have sent one or not.

Quickly figured that winking was like saying: "Hi I'm shy and illiterate!"

Also discovered how to better get around the site, and had much more success interacting on chat rooms without judgment about who the person was/is. If we talked great, all the equipment's the same, just different sizes. (up to a point!)

I look at the pics for sure, but I'm more interested in meeting like minded people at roughly the same point in life. I have a fantasy about a 22 yo lesbian couple looking for a male for 3rd, but I also wish I had a private island in the Bahama's. It's just not gonna happen!

rm_mainevern 51M
10197 posts
8/19/2006 1:04 pm

I tend not to persist very long. I know some women like "the chase" and "hard to get" roles, but my experience is that if I get a substantially negative reaction right off the bat, no amount of energy I invest is likely to change that (sigh).


I Wanna Pull Purpletrashcan's Fucking Hair!

rm_mainevern 51M
10197 posts
8/19/2006 1:10 pm

BTW, I for one find your new pic to be pretty near as attractive as the old one !


I Wanna Pull Purpletrashcan's Fucking Hair!

Fortunate2006 50F
1 post
9/4/2006 12:45 pm

I was flown to Boston to meet a guy from Switzerland. All of our convos had been with video, nothing sexual, just got to know each other. Boston was a prelim for him coming to where I live on the west coast a few months later for something he already had planned. But after meeting him and him attacking me right away ..... the good way! He never went down on me once! This is something I am adamant about, I have a rule, if a guy doesn't do it the first time .... I won't see him anymore .... I SWEAR HE MUST'VE NOT EVER READ MY PROFILE ... I was so shocked! He was also surprised when I wanted to pull out some of my toys ....HELLO!!!! All in my profile.....

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 9/4/2006 4:00 pm:
One of the lines on my 100th post says that if a guy doesn't do oral sex, his chance of a second encounter approximates that of a snowball in hell. My sympathies.

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