rm_kelli4u2dew 41F
7028 posts
12/4/2005 1:38 pm

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Why is it so hard for people to read a profile and follow directions? Why do people waste their time and mine sending me emails that I just delete unread? Why do total strangers who do not meet any of the requirements I've posted send me invitations to be their "friends"? Why do men seem to think that a picture of their dick will cause me to immediately swoon, then run right out to meet them and suck it? Why do women and couples, who I'm sure have had to deal with all the above and hate it, send one-line messages without pictures, or pictures of only one of them, and expect me to answer? Why do 19 year olds who can't find a date think that I'm going to jump in the sack with them?

I posted a profile here because a woman I know told me that it was a way to meet men and weed through a lot of the initial stuff two people go through when they meet without having to spend the time on dates that don't go anywhere. You know what I mean, some guy asks me out, I hurry home from work, shower, dress up, hurry to meet him, have drinks and dinner, only to find out that we have nothing in common. A total waste of an evening that I could have spent with a hot bath, good book, and a vibrator.

So, after 3 days on here, I had to make my profile unavailable so I could sort through dozens of emails, dozens of invitations, only to find that almost all were totally different from what I was looking for. So I modified my profile hoping that if I was more explicit I'd get a better class of response. No luck.

So I asked my friend if she was having the same problem, and what did she do about it. The answer? Just like in the real world, you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find a prince. It just takes less of your time to discard the frogs.

And maybe she's right. I have actually, out of hundreds of contacts, finally found a gentleman who can craft a complete sentence, express a coherent thought, and speaks to me as a lady who is deserving of respect. I haven't met him yet, we'll have dinner this week.

rm_lickmepretty 51F
851 posts
12/4/2005 3:08 pm

(come play with us)

Hi, welcome to blog!

Are you aware there is a new group created for bloggers and their readership to meet and frolic in the chat room? (A place for serious discussion as well)

A group where interesting blog posts will be “spot-lighted” along with the links of how to get there. A place where new kids on the block can actually get seen as well as the predominant “hierarchy”.

A place where ideas can flow--from suggested blog topics, to writing "critiques", to directions on how to better use the elements of color, photos, and font style/size to make your blog more eye appealing; as well as instructions on how to better use linking to other posts.

A place where writers (non-bloggers as well) who are interested in “creative” writing to post some of their works; as well as joining in on some of our “creative writing games” as well.

Being that this is an adult site, we will also have a group post running where writers and their followers can indicate where they're from so maybe you might actually be able to meet some folk "local" to you.

Flirtatious banter is encouraged--crude obscene assaults will not be tolerated and are subject to deletion.

So...Stop in and have a little fun over your cup o' joe!

Here is a link to the group Blog Cafe, look forward to meeting you there!

ilsgicemru 72M
2822 posts
12/4/2005 8:31 pm

Kelli.........A lot of guys might NOT think that you are REAL!!...Most of the time, a profile with such great pictures, is a fake, posted just to get a guys private Email for spamming.

Having a blog, and posting with a group, or the magazine, will get you some more intelligent followers, and you can find out a little about them from their blog or group posts. Why don't you join the group above, and meet some of the quality people there, or join a discussion group in Louisville?

I look forward to watching your blog develop, if you decide to go with it!!....Check out my blog ilsgicemru....I would love to have you visit!!


Atench4U 36M

12/5/2005 6:36 pm

Maybe i'm wrong, but if you don't want as many emails from the "frogs" you should probably post a pic that doesn't reveal those lovely butt cheeks. Don't get me wrong, they are very very nice butt cheeks, but that picture attracts every man that sees it, so naturally they will do anything in their power just to touch one of those cheeks. In fact I don't think I would be writing this right now if it wasn't for those cheeks, but if you want to find the kind of man I believe you are looking for it would be better to just post a nice picture of your face without showing your cheeks.

rm_fatboyhd0266 50M

12/5/2005 7:02 pm

My Thoughts are that more people seek the thrill of who they can get to excite them with out the hassel. Take my ex wife for example there was no passion, no drive and the waters were oh so common. We fantized and sex was great until we went one to we are appart and looking for others to share that spot that used to be comfortable. I have found that people want others to find them hot and want return they go to their bedroom and it is another world of fun...the next morning there is no fuss , slept great...they connected. Then I have found that some talk a certain way maybe slutty trashy and how do you approach them ...they dont sound like they want respect , however they do... You , you are one of a kind so far...I find you very appealling, and its sexy...I cant say you are the angel...but I dont think you are the devil. Men DON'T is not natural. Think of it like this and I believe this is true...Men think before they talk, women talk before they think...the difference is that men think they can make it better with 5"-10" inside you. I think that I have learned that respect will show you more places than a pic of my cock...if you want to see that all u have to do is join my net and see it for yourself. Men are mindless creatures driven by testosterone...a chemical that shuts down one brain and starts another....this is why you can write all day and say no...though they think you are tricking them which means yes...does this make sense. Now not all men are this way...there are those frogs that get thrown back in by the princess because they are to nice and show respect. As an example ...your appearence on here is are sexy in your photos and you have stated about the person being good looking and not fat....this only limits you to the others that give you the responses you are not looking for...hince perhaps you are looking in the wrong pond I hope that I have given you reason and not anger towards me... I dont know it all however I have seen and heard a lot of stories...myself being one. I hope this helps to answer your question. Dave

rm_kelli4u2dew 41F
5220 posts
12/6/2005 3:05 am

Post a picture of my face and I'll get more respectful responses? I don't think so! I have spoken with other women, and the responses they get are very similar to mine, with just a head shot. Of course, they don't get the "nice ass" comments, but otherwise, pretty much the same. And to not post a pic means getting no responses at all. Men are very visual.

There is a man in my office who has a profile on here. I have a hard time not laughing every time I see him. He doesn't know that I'm on this site, have read his profile and seen his cock. I've also met his wife. I'm not going to post my face and never know when someone I meet professionally, or in the grocery store, is staring at me thinking, "she eats pussy", or "she likes gang bangs". How stupid does a person have to be?

As to whether I'm searching in the wrong place, I wondered about that, but I don't think so. Read next.

rm_kelli4u2dew 41F
5220 posts
12/6/2005 3:22 am

I had my first date through AdultFriendFinder last night. Absolutely wonderful!

I received a message from a man, and a network invitation. He wrote a nice letter, told me a bit about himself, addressed the items I had said I'm looking for, and said he'd like to get to know me. He was respectful, articulate, and his profile was appealing and sorta funny. He had pics on his profile, and included pics with his email. He gave me an email address where I could contact him, and has "standard member contacts" so I could look at his profile and email him if I wanted to.

So I wrote him back, and accepted his network invite. We exchanged a few emails, chatted a couple of times, and then he gave me his phone number and we talked a couple of times. At no time did he ever mention my ass, or talk about sex. He treated me like a lady, and acted like a gentleman.

So I agreed to meet him for dinner. I chose the place (not cheap) and met him there. We had a wonderful dinner with a bottle of nice wine, talked for three hours about all sorts of things. The topic of sex never came up until we had coffee and after dinner drinks, and I was the one who brought it up by asking about something in his profile.

This was the oldest man I've ever had a date with - not the oldest I've ever slept with, but that's another story. He's not super good looking, but rather handsome, not a "stud", but fit. But by the time we left the restaurant, it was me who said, "Shall I follow you to your place?"

And this morning, I am satiated. I've never had anyone take the time to make sure I was happy the way he did. I've never had anyone eat me like that, or for so long. I like oral, but I never knew it could feel like that! I never knew that I could cum 5 times without ever having a cock in me! And by the time THAT happened ... ohhh!

I'm sure he's not the only person on here that is worth knowing, so I guess I'll just keep deleting emails, and looking a bit more closely to make sure I don't delete the wrong ones.

brad455 53M  
3 posts
12/6/2005 2:48 pm

Hi Kelli,

Never checked in this section of the profile.

Glad to see you found the pleasure and friendship you were seeking, especially after the pain you mentioned from your divorce. When you sent me your face picture you mentioned that due to my manners and respect, I was the only person to whom you had sent a photo and that we should get together for a drink. It looks like you are now finding other quality people, that's great!

Take care,

rm_kelli4u2dew 41F
5220 posts
12/6/2005 5:26 pm

Thanks, Charlie! Too bad you live so far away, but maybe sometime ... I guess I should update my post to say that I've found 2 gentlemen on this site!

brad455 53M  
3 posts
12/6/2005 6:38 pm

No I mentioned, 1.5 hours is easy for me to drive, love driving. This is certainly true when enjoying the other activities that we have in common - dining, fine hotels and certainly shopping (like Chicago or Miami with this snow!!) And with that directness laced with humor that I read in profile, we could speak and laugh for hours.

Anyway, maybe we will cross paths sometime.
Happy Holidays,

GB_Cple 66M/55F  
3045 posts
12/7/2005 5:57 am

well done and good luck with the dates,
one way of filtering mails is to reset your cupid settings to where you will only receive mails that fit your profile requirements.

im_your_man77 39M
961 posts
12/7/2005 6:05 am

It was nice to read that you found someone deserving of your company, good luck with your future exchanges, just remind yourself that you this only like any other forum out there, you have to weed out the jerks before you can see the good ones.

rm_kelli4u2dew 41F
5220 posts
12/8/2005 3:15 am

Hi GB,
I do have filtering on, but have found that some people who don't have a pic on their profile include one with the email and are interesting. Also, the profile pic may just be a cock and get through. I've just taken to declining most invites wholesale (women and couples I look at, and men who are local), and delete all emails from out of my area unread. There's so many, and I just don't have the time for people I'm unlikely to ever meet.

universal6977 41M

12/11/2005 4:44 pm

Well, I am truely impressed so far with you on here. I got on to this to check out some things (new and old) and get readjusted to some changes in my life. I hoped that I would meet some interesting and open minded people on here but that is a slim group of people it appears. I will be traveling again soon and always liked it before if I had good company to stop and say in different areas. This is probably the best way to meet people like this in different places I visit often and still it is kinda rough. Do you ever make it to the darkstar? Old hang out when I am in town.

rm_bopp80 37M
41 posts
1/6/2006 6:06 pm

hang in there kelli, you'll meet someone good. those cock pictures might upset you, all the guys cant be bad. so what, they like the fact that you see a picture of their cock. media convinces us that its important. anyway, you seem like you have a real head on your shoulders. and you look gorgeous!! i really mean that. cheers!

sleeplessknight1 68M

2/3/2006 8:43 am

Hi there Kelli
Pride myself on being a Gentleman.... dying breed though...
soon to be as rare as hens teeth.. or extinct like the dinosaurs.....
there are some out there, Somewhere,,,,,,

have fun... and welcome to land of blog...


rm_IamHillery 36T
10 posts
10/17/2006 4:48 am

So it's not just me. That's a relief. I guess I'll try this a little longer, and hope I meet someone. Thanks.

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