women.. why is it you keep picking the wrong guys???  

rm_juice90 47M
13 posts
8/24/2006 9:57 am

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women.. why is it you keep picking the wrong guys???

Well, once again, and being a man, I am ignorant of what some women really want. And this Blog sorta goes hand in hand with my Last one. And I am hopeing for some more responses.

The question i am gonna poss to you ladies now is this..

Why is it, that after saying you want the nice guy, you constantly pick, the picks, dicks, and bad boys who allways treat you like crap????

I have heard and seen it said, by women, "oh I am looking for a nice guy, but I can't seem to find any. I am allways gettin treated like crap, walked on, taken advantage of" etc etc.

I am aware of how someguys start out being nice, and once they have you,you find out that they r not so nice, so I guess that doesn't really count. But lately, I have been hearing about how right off the hop, the guy gets the women to buy the dinner,coffee, etc.But yet, they keep right on going out with them, and then complain because they hate the relationship, or he is a nice guy but I am allways payin fer stuff, and he never buys me anything.

Is shivelry dead ?? Have men turned the tables and said its the ladies turn to woo us?? or what ??? Or are they just a whole lot of guys out there who really do not know how to treat a lady right ???

What do you ladies think???

sassybelle21 32F
13313 posts
8/24/2006 10:09 am

Well maybe there are just too many wrong guys out there The really right ones are snatched off the market and I'm talking about those who are happily married and treat their wives the best they can.

lostmydrinkagain 43F
2272 posts
8/24/2006 10:11 am

there are a lot of men who don't know how to treat a lady, but there are tons that do. I never got dinner,gifts, etc until after my lover and I quit dating and became best friends.

ShyWhisper2006 53F
15175 posts
8/24/2006 10:20 am

I don't chivalry is dead nor do I think that there are no longer any "good ones" left...There are, one must be on the look out for them though. They tend not to stand out as the "bad boys" do.
I think that many women are so used to the "bad" treatment and all, that when a nice one comes along it is difficult to recognize and they have been tainted in a way to think that there must be a ulterior motive behind the niceness being shown. So, they find things wrong with them and try to trip them up to prove their theory. When in some cases it is realized once they are no longer with the "nice" one that they see that true nature of him.
Sad but I am sure it happens more than we think.
And in turn, those men who are nice become more reclusive and not as willing to venture into another relationship , because they get hurt as well.
Just my thoughts...good post *smiles*
Thank you.

Greekgirl4u06 39F

8/24/2006 10:22 am

oh yeah, shivelry is dead in my book. old joke goes, why is it so hard to find a honest, compassionate, sensitve nice guy? because they already have boyfriends. Sad truth is, seems the few nice guys left are with total bitches or gay, so all that is left is self-centered, lying, cheating, pieces of shit men, that it seems the only goal in life is lay as many pieces of ass they can and make it a point to make the woman they are with feel like they are less than shit in looks and life. well anyway, hope this shed some light on it for you.

VCF1962 105F

8/24/2006 10:25 am

As far as I can see, yes chilvalry is long dead. I can't even meet a guy that starts out nice (well I have met a couple but the spark isn't there). Most of them turn into shits pretty quickly so to find one worth holding on to - well I've been single 14 years so you can see the pattern here !

Mistress Innuendo
Taking what you say and turning it into something naughty !!

TnWitchyWoman 56F
6852 posts
8/24/2006 11:11 am

I think there's several things taking place here...

First...we've complicated the "expected" roles of men and women. Guys don't know what to do for us any more and it's not their fault. Do they hold the door open for us and get slammed with a "I'm perfectly capable of doing it myself" attitude or do they not hold the door and get called a "pig"? Do they pay for the first date, does she pay, or do they go dutch?

Second...just as a man wants a lady in the parlor and a whore in the bedroom a woman has her desires too. We want a mixture of traits in a man. I want my man to be a stand up kind of manly man when needed...and a softie at times too. If I can be both for him then he should be able to be both for me...right?!

Third...do we REALLY know what we want? And can we take what we want without them dragging something else along?

I once had a love named Dave. He was an AWESOME man. But if I listed his traits here on AdultFriendFinder I have often wondered if we'd have come up as a match. There were things about him that didn't fit my idea of the perfect man AT ALL. But the good things outweighed the bad and I found that often I loved him not in spite of his faults...but because of them. They made him human. They made him HIM.

Good luck in findin' what you want and them finding you too!

hereIam51757 55F
8001 posts
8/25/2006 8:02 am

I disagree -- CHIVALRY LIVES!!!!!

And I am one of the stoopid ones who has clung on to the "bad boy" recently instead of going for the sure-shot "good guy". Guilty as charged. But I've wisened up some since then. Thank God. "Bad boy" is gone (but will never be forgotten!) and I am truly lucky in the fact that I've met some of the nice guys -- and through this site too! Yeah!



9/4/2006 11:42 am

Well juice...first of all *winks* an *kisses* .....now, personally I think if chivalry is dead, that we as women are likely most responsible for this....we've been fighting to be independant and equal for so long, that many men have just decided to sit back and except it. Myself, I probably give off too many different vibes to men, so maybe they are confused by what it is I really want?? I am a fiercely independant woman in some senses..but still crave the man to be the MAN!!...I probably lean towards the "bad boy" because I like my men confindent and a little cocky..."nice guys" don't put that out there....though I can tell you, I have had the "nice guy" and let me tell you ladies, they can be the hottest behind closed doors.......as far as this site goes.....so many people here looking for different things....I as one of them just need to find the one guy looking for the same thing....bad or good guy.....he HAS to be out there right ??....he is isn't he???.....please tell me he is??? lmao

my 2 cents juice

rm_lix_nibbles 50F

11/20/2006 9:34 am

Well .. reason I have picked the wrong man is that ... well my first ended up fooling around on me for yrs.. how stupid was i.. gave him a family .. never home ..aka .. said trips .. after 14 yrs i left .. and since then, have been searching for what i had or something similar that made me completley and utterly happy ...and i mean had .."farm", $$,jobs ..the whole thing ... and now its like ugh ok .. met a few "pumpkins" who where not that bad but still i am particular on what I like .. (besides the tall dk handome man) ... LOL .. but i guess it will hit me when I least expect it .. and not all men are this way .. some treat their women awesome and some well are free loaders ... oh well .. have had a few of those ... and BTW juice .. I did at one time live in ur area ... LOL ... Lix

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