rm_jacina_n 43F
187 posts
8/29/2006 5:16 am

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This one has seen subbies/slaves talking about the fact that their Dom/mes aren't on call for them 24/7 alot lately and girl was wondering when this came about... girl was taught that it was a sub/slaves place to await the attention of her Dom/me not the other way around.. and if girl has been soo crass as to go whinging about it in a public chat room her ass would have been a beacon from outta space.

Since when do Dom/mes have to defend there absense of a day or two?

And whats with the sudden influx of subs/slaves wailing all over chatrooms about it ... sympathy maybe? ... well sorry but to this one your only showing yourself to be attention seeking little children playing at something you have no understanding off. *shrugs* If this one has offended anyone well ..... tough

silverhawk762 51M/47F

8/29/2006 6:03 am

Just look at them as being poorly handled, and their Doms as amateurs. Feel safe in the knowledge that your Dom is taking very good care of you, little one. {=}

miz_attitude 53F
150 posts
8/29/2006 2:29 pm

jacina you know how i feel on this topic ... it rates right up there with "well i waited a whole week and my Dom has not been in touch well f^&k him i am taking my collar off and finding a new one" ...
i always thought a collar was so much more i don't understand how they are so easily removed ...
i typically leave the room now when a submissive comes in whining and crying about their Dom has not time for them and has not come to chat for a whole day .. i know i will say something that will get me in trouble ...
to me publicly ranting about ones Dom is disrespecting the Dom and unthinkable .. we all have at least one close friend in IM that we can go and talk to privately but i suppose then one does not get the attention they so obviously need ...


lily_of_hmslf_ 45F

8/29/2006 2:45 pm

jacina sis - YOU GO GIRL!

to me, it means one (or both) of two things: inexperience and/or insincerity


DizzyKittie81 35F

8/29/2006 3:20 pm

DAMN RIGHT!! I would babble on and on about something but i must say mizzy sums it up as to what i would probably say. your right girl. Maybe its because i am not a Webbie sub/Domme and dont belive castle realm is my bible like some others. every relationship is different and if you agree to be in a cyber bdsm relationship and your "Master disapears for a bit" instead of throwing the "collar" off call him.. maybe his computer blew up eh? lol anyways i totally agree with you, Also i appologoize to anyone who takes offence to what i have just said but please keep in mind it is MY OPINION!


bullmastiffagain 41F
23 posts
8/29/2006 3:30 pm

well said jac sweety.
hopefully i am not one of those, but since then i dont have a Dom/me then i guess i am safe lol. i only miss my friends lol. you vent to me all ya want
Hugs Sis

rm_ashara 58F
16 posts
8/29/2006 4:43 pm

It can work both ways...subs disappear too...mine did. No IM messages, no phone calls, not a word. of course I didn't rant in a chat room but the hurt was very real nonetheless and I waited a year for him.

Keep in mind that most in chat rooms have no expectation of ever meeting, few are probably who they claim to be, most are likely married and many are simply fulfilling a fantasy online with no intention of ever following through. In those cases their first priority is going to be their spouse and family and any hint of suspicion of being found out will cause them to run/disappear/dematerialize without a moments hesitation and with little or no thought to online companions. Others are players and pretenders who set out to deceive in the first place.

Whether Dom/me or sub or vanilla, if we choose to enter an online relationship of any kind we take the chance of leaving ourselves vulnerable to hurt and heartbreak. We have to take responsibility for ourselves and our own well being.

A public chatroom is not the place to moan and whine about any kind of personal relationship. Confide in a friend privately, more can be accomplished with a personal friend than a room full of strangers who don't know you and, quite frankly, will likely think you a fool for falling for online BS.

I take everybody I meet online with a grain of salt, some microscopic some the size of a boulder.

Got a bit off topic there and as always, JMO.

Suicidia 50F

8/30/2006 1:58 pm

The rarely seen lesser-spotted-wannabe-subbie has migrated back to these shores recently. As a result, the influx of whinging and wailing and gnashing of teeth can be heard for miles! Be warned, however, they are more predatory than they first appear, and their plumage can be ruffled with no more than the failure to greet them! This is when they attack!! Their battle cry is unique in the Animal Kingdom....it goes something like "oh yeah? and just who the fuck do you think you're talking to?" If you are in a chatroom and hear this cry, take to your heels and flee....flee for your lives!!!!

rm_Melciber 61M
214 posts
8/30/2006 2:36 pm

great post jacina - and great posts deserve interesting responses . . . and the evidence is here in plain view - you have hit the nail on the head evidently.

I go to the Basement to chat and have fun with like minded folk - and it is a joy to know people from around the world on a daily basis - and if there is a topic that crops up (sadly so rarely) I tend to sit on the sidelines and listen and hopefully learn.

Posts, like these found here, are much more informative and thought out - and as they are often from people I know (and respect - I don愒 have the time to read stuff by people I have little time for) - the opinions of the postee has more impact. You all have brilliant perspectives.

Thank you jacina.
and I will keep my eyes open for vix愀 lesser-spotted-wannabe-subbie.

sunnyohoh5 60F
4 posts
8/31/2006 7:31 am

jac sis...aahhhh yes...the yipping and yapping of the poodle crowd. i don't think i need to add much more to your well said wo0rds..except that the same goes for armchair wannabe online Doms. Fact is..if your gonna pass out velcro, and accept velcro collars..they only stick as good as the velcro...

rm_chelley_girl 48F
80 posts
9/2/2006 12:28 am

LOL...well jac what the hell do those who jump into these minute relationships deserve... it has taken me nearly ten years to accept a consideration.....partly because velcro has never been in fashion in my reality. Good post! i agree with lily on the probable causes and with galina about the lapdog post. ie Bitchin and moaning, never got me unchained when i was growing up,,,but damn sure got me doggy kibbles for dinner. one wants attention they need to show respect and expect only to serve as their reward.

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