When You Quit Bucking Your BuckFuddy ....  

rm_imnx4u 55F
7 posts
7/30/2006 3:32 pm

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8/12/2006 8:36 pm

When You Quit Bucking Your BuckFuddy ....

It was inevitable, actually. He and I have been friends for years. We share mutual friends and were always the unattached ones at every gathering. Nature took its course and I gave myself to him as a Christmas present our first time, got naked and decorated myself with ornaments one year. But over the years we'd take turns: one of us was in love and one didn't want "a relationship". We were off, we were on.

The sex was FANTASTIC! Even if the visit was strictly friendly in nature, one of us would end up seducing the other. Sometimes we'd actually make it to the bedroom!

What happened?

I think partly it was just so easy to take each other for granted. There seemed to be nothing I could do wrong in his eyes. We used to see each other almost daily and that dwindled. I would wish he'd come over, and then he would. He'd fall asleep ALL THE TIME and i got tired of hearing him snore. I'd find myself wishing he would leave as soon as he got here. I didn't want to hurt his feelings and he has truly been a good friend to me.

I have warned him for years that he should find someone else, but he wouldn't. So it's not like it came out of the clear blue, ya know?

I realized that even if I am never in a committed relationship ever again, I do want more than what I was having with FB. It's been several weeks now since I had sex with him and he just texted me for the first time in 2 weeks. oh guess what? he's horny! guess what else?

he's not getting any ....
I've moved on. And even if this temporary celibacy lasts a little longer, I'm gonna stay strong. I deserve more than what i've been getting.

i don't want to move in with anybody or anything like that. i am trying to get in better shape, and therefore meeting people who take care of themselves is what i need.

willieatermuff 42M

7/30/2006 4:44 pm

Yeah, the whole sex thing tends to ruin friendships unless it is a planned thing. You did the right thing by throwing it out there to him. As for the giving in to urges, I will leave you with this: If giving in to urges was a crime, we would all be in jail! lol
Keep your head up.

maverick1255 51M
3953 posts
8/12/2006 7:31 pm

Stay strong, and keep working on getting stronger. Sounds like you have this all figured out!!!

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