Why I Stay  

rm_hotmamaNcols 39F
460 posts
7/4/2006 9:52 pm

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Why I Stay

Three days ago, I got an email from someone who was inquiring about my profile. He asked 'if you're not looking, then what are you doing here?'

Although I gave him the short answer, I'll fully explain myself here.

Ok, we all know I'm an impatient woman when it comes to my relationships with men. I solidly believe - you never change the plan, be a fucking adult, keep it drama free, and we will have no issues.

You are either a friend, a fuck buddy, or a boyfriend. Yeah, yeah, I know a fuck buddy can be a friend and all of that other stuff you guys are already thinking. BUT with me, I keep friends for the long haul whether he just be a friend or friend with benefits. They usually become permanent fixtures. Fuck buddies demand little time or effort. TEMPS I call them. I'm just being honest. I never have and never will invest feelings for those in this category. And the title of boyfriend is reserved for ONE I intend to be faithful to and care about. *notice the word ONE*

So we go back to the original question, What am I doing here? Well I can honestly say I love men. Some of you can be confusing, some can be complete loons, some are out of reach... but nonetheless, I love to flirt with all you hard ons. I've met more appealing, genuine, and compatible people on this blog than thru that profile. And I've made friends here. I've laughed, cried, and shared my life with you guys. And you the same.

Although I haven't been actively looking, a couple of potentially great catches have somehow landed in my lap without a great profile being posted.

So this leads to the last question of the night. Should I change my profile to be more specific about what I am doing here? I am thinking of changing my profile to read:
Currently chasing potential future ex husband. Any other funny variations are welcome.

SingleWarrior 52M

7/4/2006 10:37 pm

Don't change it for us. hell, I just read it and got the message loud and clear, which is why I'm here instead of there e-mailing to complain about it ('cuz I *don't* have any complaints about it).

A persons gotta do what a persons gotta do. Not our decision. it's yours.

We're your audience for the show you put on (your blog, that is).

Enjoyed reading through here. Some good stuff.

I hope you do stick around, even if just for the blog

rm_hotmamaNcols replies on 7/5/2006 8:43 am:
Oh yeah, I intend to stick around Thanks for the feedback.

MarcoPolo197676 39M
541 posts
7/4/2006 11:38 pm

Its great that your honest. No I wouldnt change it because sometime you might just say wtf and that person may be your future ex, and they may never contact you otherwise, our futures are not set, no matter what we think. Life is pretty funny that way.

rm_hotmamaNcols replies on 7/5/2006 8:54 am:
You know, I've gotten more WTF mail than anything else. It starts with "WTF, if you ain't here for fucking, go to another site!"
A potential future ex hubby can NOT be one of those guys!! LOL!!

Choozmi 50M

7/5/2006 12:44 am

One male's AdultFriendFinder point-of-view:

I originally bought a three- or six-month membership (I can't remember). It soon became clear to me that sending random e-mails to women based on reading their profiles was getting me nowhere. I think one girl asked to see a picture of the bottom of my feet because she had a fetish. I obliged her and never heard back. It was the first time my feet screwed up my love life.

I then joined a few discussion groups and enjoyed those (and still do). Then I discovered the blogs.

I also discovered that I didn't need to waste my money on a membership to do the things I really wanted to do here anyway: blogging and discussion groups. So I stopped paying.

I can't read anyone's profile anymore so it doesn't matter to me what you put there. I also can't send e-mails.

I have a feeling most "serious" long-term male AdultFriendFinder members are doing what I'm doing: not paying and just blogging and discussion boarding.

But you might as well have your profile reflect your true feelings and intentions just in case someone special reads it.

rm_hotmamaNcols replies on 7/5/2006 8:59 am:
The way I see it, someone special won't be sending a vague ass email with a penis pic expecting to get laid the same night it is sent... that would be a bit pretentious, wouldn't it? If he is even remotely interested in anything other than a one nighter, he'll come here and read up on me.

Sailor376 62M
2288 posts
7/5/2006 12:54 am

Do not change a thing. The profile reads both, text and subtext, just fine. Should we expect simple and non-contradictory from one of balanced extremes? No. Should you craft things to suit the less gifted? No.

My room is a messy room but it is mine. As should yours be your own.

Fuck 'em if they can't take a joke. Did you find your lullaby?


rm_hotmamaNcols replies on 7/5/2006 9:12 am:
You are right. I shouldn't craft things for the less gifted.

BTW, I found your beautifully sung lullaby (or love song). Where have I heard it before? Did I mention I love your singing voice? Although it was streaming poorly to my POS computer, I heard bold strength, with a gentlemanly allure. Julliard?

How's the work you threatened coming along?

elbman 41M  
2566 posts
7/5/2006 8:43 am

Since when do most of the men on this site read the profiles?

rm_hotmamaNcols replies on 7/5/2006 9:16 am:
Yeah, I know... My profile is written in size 3,Bold, Italicized, bright red letters. Can't miss it, I suppose. Glad to see you again, Elbman. {=} YOU haven't been posting alot.... can I ask why?

plentyhornyru 44M
28 posts
7/5/2006 12:27 pm

I believ that if someone is here to bitch about why you are here, they need to shut the fuck up and move to another site themselves. You do what you wnat, and to hell with them



rm_hotmamaNcols replies on 7/5/2006 2:29 pm:
Thanks Plenty! For your input and for visiting.

digdug41 49M

7/5/2006 3:42 pm

hey what ever you decide to do just have fun with it the blogs are truly something else and I feel ya take care luv and thanks for stoppin by my blog

roaming the cyber streets of blogland

rm_hotmamaNcols replies on 7/6/2006 12:52 am:
You too.

Wordsmith2004 36M
7233 posts
7/6/2006 12:01 am

...some can be complete loons

AWW shucks lil'BUNDIT CAKE, I didn't know I got under your skivees that much!! *sniff*

Really, I'm touched.

Now, use the other hand too, and go lower...a LOT lower!!

Conserve Water and Prevent Global Warming: Shower With A MILF!

gargoyle3773 51M
69 posts
8/8/2006 11:42 am

NEVER feel you have to explain anything on here. I read your profile, it is very simple and straight forward! there is no question why your on here, as your profile explains. Why someone would need to still email and ask a stupid question like that is beyond me. Apparently they can't READ!! The limited intelligence of some people on here amazes me. If they dont like it MOVE TO THE NEXT PROFILE! DUH!!!!! Just common sense!! You stick to your guns, you have every right to feel the way you do!

rm_unixsyadm001 39M

11/27/2006 5:57 pm

This is pretty good.... I have to say well written! And if your using this blog to find the right guy, and the guy actually read your profile and then this blog then maybe you'll find the guy you want.

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