Fucking or Making Love?  

rm_hotmamaNcols 39F
460 posts
4/28/2006 4:27 pm

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4/29/2006 6:10 pm

Fucking or Making Love?

Partner #1 tells best friend, "We fucked like rabid dogs all night.."
Partner #2 tells best friend "We made love for hours last night.."

WTF? How can two people who experienced the same thing with each other identify the session so differently? Could there be dramatic AND subtle differences that determine the way the session is categorized? Or is someone in denial, perhaps seeing more than what actually is?

Let's delve.

RELATIONSHIP- Sex only? Seeing what happens? Good but not permanent? Committed?

EMOTIONAL STATE- Exploratory sex? Blah/ I have to or we'll argue sex? Make up/ you matter to me sex? Angry sex? I love you sex? Baby making sex? MINE- I'll kill you sex?

AMBIANCE: Too dark to see anything? Dimmed lights? Visually stimulating lighting? Whoa- turn the lights off?

POSITION- Missionary? Ride em Cowboy? Doggy? Kama sutra pages 89 thru 200?

SPEED- Slow slide? Medium Paced? Fast as hamsters?

THRUST- The weak and lazy pump? The Tease/ Tag it- Mix it up? Moderate "TAKE THAT" thrust? The powerful "You're gonna cum dammit"? Jackhammering, (pelvic bone breakage possible organ damage)?

DURATION- A snack-quickie? A meal- an hour or less? A seven course- with dessert? A nine course buffet- all nighter?

ORGASM- Couldn't? Didn't? You are owed one? Mutual? Multiple? Multiple SONIC BOOM?

I could go on and on. Regardless of your standing in the relationship, nothing above determines how to categorize "making love". You can either love someone or not. Sex doesn't guarantee that feelings will spark or stay like "making love" implies. So why use the term? You shouldn't sugar coat it or fool yourselves. Having sex guarantees that you will EITHER have a good time or you won't. Nothing more.

Anyhoo. These are my favorite SMUTSONGS.
Hell NO these aren't love songs!! I can't stand the whining and begging and the baby, baby pleezzzzz!!! These songs have a touch of dirty, and set the tone with hypnotizing beats, unforgettable voices, and provide enough distinction to have HIM remembering ME every time the songs are heard.

Nine Inch Nails- Everyday Is Exactly The Same
Korn- Coming Undone
Chester Bennington of Linkin Park- System


Do me a favor. Download these songs. Play them. Close your eyes. Imagine me doing a dirty little dance wearing a black corset, panties, and fishnets. From a strip tease all the way to the rocking, rolling, fucking, and grinding. Go ahead! Tell me how your wet daydream went.


digdug41 49M

4/28/2006 4:49 pm

I love the wife but I in all honesty and not to sound grimey but I fuck the shit outta wifey then we lay there in eachothers arms after yeah I love her but I aint doin that uh darling lets make love shit I'm more along the lines of c'mere gurl coz its on type shit but everyone has there way of doing the do have a good one

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rm_hotmamaNcols replies on 4/29/2006 8:51 am:
It was like that for me when I was married.... but it leaned more towards the " Blah/ I have to or we'll argue" sex.

im_your_man77 39M
961 posts
4/28/2006 4:50 pm

How do you know I haven't already closed my eyes, imagined you doing a dirty little dance wearing a black corset, panties, and fishnets. From a strip tease all the way to the rocking, rolling, fucking, and grinding all whilst listening to Basement Jaxx - Get Me Off, Kubb - Wicked Soul, & N.E.R.D - lapdance? How can you be sure it wasn't good?


rm_hotmamaNcols replies on 4/29/2006 8:54 am:
Get Me Off is a 7 minute song, Wicked Soul is a 4 minute(and very playful) song, and Lapdance is another 4..... 15 minutes. Yep, about right for me... So, how did I do? LOL!!!

maximum1961 55M

4/28/2006 5:48 pm

"You are Soooooooo, Right", "L", Fucking has nothing to do with Making Love, Love is what makes Fucking the greatest to experience, When two Love each other dearly, as I would give my life for my love, It is the epitimy of life and sacrfice, and fucking is what completes the raltionship of one, becoming one in the flesh. "Sex", has nothing to do, with "Love". Sex with true love, is the greatest, the most intimate, gratifing, satisifing, loving, and all the other BS, out of the world has no effect on two, in Love with thier Sex.

"Once Again", L, Distance is no problem for me.


rm_hotmamaNcols replies on 4/29/2006 9:03 am:
That's the thing... I've had very intimate, satisfying, gratifying, very loving sex. Did it mean I was in love? nope. Did it solidify our relationship? Nope. Now let's turn the dime... I was in love with a man who's bedside manner was that of a nightstand. Just there, not doing much, terrible lay!! Did it change how I felt for him? Nope.
Being in love is definitely NOT the icing on the cake per say. Neither has anything to do with the other.

3d60 47M

4/28/2006 6:47 pm

Baby making sex...man that is ringing bells in my head. That is a category's in intercourse, all the others done em...but the conscious decision to create is like no other. I knew that a a past partner and i had conceived; it was a fight all the way, a battle of wills. opening of consciousness and conformation of love. SEX IS ALL YOU DESCRIBE but love for me has been a deep relaxation, a cleansing of doubt and reason......been very lucky to have loved and been loved longevity and hence continuity has been lacking....but after all has been said the one thing I miss, is an unsought touch, that gentle touch that says your here with me and I have to show it and experience it with you. all the sex in the world couldn't surpass that all me juv me XX


rm_hotmamaNcols replies on 4/29/2006 9:12 am:
A deep relaxation, a cleansing of doubt and reason... yes, love is spiritual in the way it changes the being. An unsought touch, knowing someone stands with you, not on the sidelines or against you... yeah. Longevity is also a problem for me. But I can blame that on my impatience, and low tolerance for drama.

rm_mountme27 38M
1 post
4/28/2006 7:15 pm

I would do either one to you


rm_hotmamaNcols replies on 4/29/2006 9:15 am:
Hey, this is a serious post.... You need a spanking for flirting!!!

slimcountryboy2 38M
46 posts
4/28/2006 7:27 pm

That's a very in depth analysis "L"... The title itself is very eye catching

I believe I have all three of those songs on CD... I assure you.... I have given you a considerable amount of thought while listening to music, and at other times . 3 songs, Black corset, panties, fishnets... rocking, rolling, fucking and grinding... And your permission to fantasize... Thank you for giving me such wonderful motivation ... My "wet daydreams" will only get better from here.


rm_hotmamaNcols replies on 4/29/2006 9:18 am:
I'm glad I can help, your Hardness..(doing a curtsy)

im_your_man77 39M
961 posts
4/29/2006 3:15 pm

hotmamaNcols replies on 4/29/2006 8:54 am:
Get Me Off is a 7 minute song, Wicked Soul is a 4 minute(and very playful) song, and Lapdance is another 4..... 15 minutes. Yep, about right for me... So, how did I do? LOL!!!

Ah crap, my get me off version was only just under 5 minutes., I've been done!!! I don't kiss and tell, not in a public forum. How do you think you did? LOL


rm_hotmamaNcols replies on 4/29/2006 5:37 pm:
Being the seductress that I am... I did so well, you lost your pants!!

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