Hope  

rm_hotlvr1964 52F
5 posts
7/25/2005 7:04 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Hope


Ok...I finally heard SOMETHING from him. Nothing in real detail...but I feel like MAYBE I didn't completely lose sight and make the wrong choice. And thanks for the comment...You're absolutely right...it's hard to go for the whole enchilada if a spouse is involved...but what happens when you meet someone single..and you finally decide to open your heart again...onl to have it kicked to the curb?.... At least, with a married man...you know your margin of safety. It can only go so far...you can only fall too deep. But when he/she is single...you can't help but think--MAYBE!!!??? I really think ultimately we all want one on one love...though few of us, including myself would EVER admit it....for fear of leaving ourselves "out there"....vulnerable and begging to be hurt. I ALMOST wish this guy was married...then I could make excuses to myself for the lack of communication, etc....facing the truth sucks. I hope some men are reading this..and can offer advice...I pray that "he" doesn't read this and flee!!! LOL.... You guys....what do you do when you meet a girl that just meets all that you're looking for? I know you have to "play it cool"..to a certain extent...but what do you do....how do you let her know...or do you not ever have those felings....is it just that after awhile you wake up and realize...you like her...and just want to be with her?
Night...

ih8usrnames 40M

7/26/2005 3:56 am

There's a fine line between simply revealing ones own sexual interest and appearing manipulative. Developing a new relationship may be a bit like a tight-rope walk. If someone senses that they're being "hit-on" they may be inclined to push away. Or, it may be the case, they are simply not interested.

A person can perceive rejection to be a negative relection on themselves. As such, a person may feel compelled to conceal themselves in order to increase thier chances of success in initiating a relationship and thereby improve and/or maintain self image. We can reveal ourselves, and our feelings, to others and grow from the process, regardless of the outcome, provided we make no personal compromises for the sake of acceptance.


overworkedloon 56M
400 posts
7/26/2005 8:15 am

Unfortunately having your heart used in a game of soccer is the price you have to pay for not taking up the monastic life.

There are any number of reasons for him not contacting you sooner. My excuse is usually stupidity, as I have never been accused of being the slightest bit cool. Sometimes with me, if I have to actually think about things like should I call her, send her an email, today, wait till tomorrow, I suffer from the brain equivilent of Window's blue screen of death. By the time I've rebooted my brain a week has gone by and then comes the wondering if she gave up on you or if you'll get in deep shit for waiting so long. Of course I am just a tad bit odd, but I imagine I'm not the only man that happens to.

Then again, he might not be interested or maybe he's just another a**hole. Sometimes love is just a crapshoot.

Make the next move yourself. Contact him. Maybe he's just suffering from severe brain farts. Maybe he's not the one. You really don't have anything to lose. If he's not the one for you, better you know sooner than later.

I can tell you tend to wear your heart on your sleeve. When you do that you're bound to get it messy when you try and take a bite of the love apple. You need an emotional lobster bib. Keep telling yourself "hey, if he's not the one there are a lot more out there."


Fit4YouSmile 58M

8/29/2005 10:01 am

Hi,

Just reviewing blogs and came across yours...Hate to say it, but if I open up with a woman and she kicks me to the curb, why be with that person. She can let me down, but to do it in a hurtful manner shows a lack of maturity and understanding of human relationships. Easy for me to say since I'm married, but don't you deserve better? No one wants to be rejected. But like the guy said above, make the move and find out if he's the one. I really wish you the best in your quest! Dave


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