Wanting to learn more!  

rm_horny5666 51F
57 posts
11/21/2005 10:38 pm

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Wanting to learn more!

As I've told you guys before, I always had long relationships. I guess that's why it's so hard on me now. Anyway, everyone I have ever slept with had a great deal more experience than I. I kept kicking myself in the butt trying to figure out why, when I have all this going for me, can't I keep a man. It suddenly dawned on me. Maybe I need to learn more about sex. I don't like to embarrass myself by asking questions at the "moment" so give me some pointers guys. Is a man's neck as sensitive as a woman's or should she just move to the back of the neck? Are a mans nipples sensitive like a womans? Any advice on being a GREAT lover? Bring it on and tell me more!

TonyD_61 55M  
1 post
11/23/2005 2:37 pm

every man is different but if there is truly passion and romance going on then just follow the body...it will let you know through movements, twitches, breathing, and sighs...just like your partner should be doing with you...throw your inhibitions aside and experiment, explore and have fun...~~~tony~~~

keepingitfresh20 43M
1 post
11/24/2005 2:22 pm

What a great woman, looking to enhance her skills!

I know my neck is very sensitive, front to back, side to side.
As far as being a great lover, don't worry about it. Some guys are in such a rush, or so repressed that their idea of good sex is directly related to how quickly they bust a nut and go to sleep.

The main bullet points are as follows....

The entire body is an erogenous zone. Pay attention to the neck, back, shoulders, chest, legs, every inch you can run your hands over.

If you have the time, why rush? Enjoy the moment, don't rush the moment.

Variety is the spice of life.

Be comfortable with yourself. A man you are sleeping with is comfortable with your body, you should be too.

ALWAYS let the man know what you like. If you are uncomfortable speaking about what you want, use non verbal communication... move his hands where you want them. If he begins doing something you enjoy, encourage him. It will be better for you, and us guys LOVE knowing we are doing the right things. If I get get you screaming that you love something, There is no way I am going to stop.

Confidence is key. You are in charge of your own enjoyment... don't ever forget that.

HaulinBass 54M

11/25/2005 10:32 am

horny: Being a great lover is more than simply having an experienced technique. It stems from your attitude, and specifically your attitude toward your partner.

The message you want him to receive is that you are unable to control your desire for him. It is not too much of a stretch to think of it in terms of "worshipping" him. I know this seems like strong language, but it might help to think of it in the same way women like to be "put on a pedastal". You're expressing how much you value him at that moment.

One thing I personally find to be a turn off is when a woman makes love like a porn star. Sometimes you can see right through the pretention. I only respond to sincerity.

rm_horny5666 51F
15 posts
11/26/2005 4:06 am

Thank you so much guys. You know it just dawned on me, even though men and women may speak differently and think differently; we don't really feel different do we?

A lot of the advice on here was stuff I was already doing without trying to, it was just getting into my partner totally sharing and caring. But here I thought that there was some magical mystical secret that I didn't know.

rm_horny5666 51F
15 posts
11/26/2005 4:09 am

Oh, and by the way; enjoying a hairy chest as I do; the chest (and stomache) has always been a "playground" for me.

sukmedaily 56M

11/26/2005 8:49 am

Every guy is different just as every lady is different .Good communication makes great sex .Most guys and ladies don't talk about sex they just do it .I let my ladies know what turns me on so that they can please me .I also ask them what turns them on so i can please them .

Abbienormal57 66F

11/26/2005 10:53 pm

Go with the flow darlin. Each of my partners I've been different and permitted different things.

rm_Norseman1957 59M

11/27/2005 2:40 pm

It is truly amazing how when we were young and horny the hormones ruled our lives and we really didn't care about how to find out what each other wanted. IT WAS SEX! Now that we have had our lives and loves come and go- We ask ourselves- What happened? What can I do to find that which I've lost? Did I really ever find it? I for one believe it's there, right where it's always been. In your heart, your mind, your touch, your words- IN YOU! All you have to do is let it out for others to see. I hope you find that you will get what you give! Good luck Horny

rm_Breather35 46M

11/30/2005 10:50 am

Hi Horny,
You seem like a terrific lady! I must say that depending on the situation, the whole body is sensative as long as you take your time and enjoy every touch, kiss, lick, and stroke. I personally like my neck, ears, chest, and stomach carressed and kissed. I would love to meet you for a drink and further discuss the topic.

rm_mrbobo200004 35M

11/30/2005 3:42 pm

everyone is different u either need to take charge or let him take charge dont be affraid to make a move first.

atleast for me my neck ears are a good start on things but if u needing a great lover let me know id be interested in meeting you for a couple of drinks this weekend and going from there

mercury10_1965 51M

12/2/2005 6:20 pm

A lot of good advice here! I just want to add that the way your partner kisses you and responds to your kisses can tell a lot about how that person likes they're sex in general. If they kiss hard and deep -- They may like hard squeezes and pinches whereas if they are tender and slow kissers -- well you get the idea. The kiss (for me anyway) has been a good indicator for how my partner wanted me to engage them when having sex. Having said all that, You should still mix it up a bit! Variety is always good -- Just keep what you know about them ready in case you want to really send them over the edge

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