Good Friends  

rm_gerson42 52M
1752 posts
7/21/2006 8:58 pm

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7/25/2006 12:50 pm

Good Friends



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When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives means the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand.

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Henri Nouwen

gerson42 - but My friends can call me ger




Lovin_U_4_Fun 54F

7/21/2006 9:25 pm

I love Nouwen's thoughts and words, the way of his heart!

Thanks for sharing!


rm_gerson42 replies on 7/22/2006 1:59 pm:
Most welcome, I enjoy his words also. Many more thoughts of his that have great meaning.
ger

frangipanigal 44F
10406 posts
7/21/2006 10:23 pm

Little Frangi wanted to stay home with me this week when I cut my hand...she said she wanted to "mind me" till I was all better.

I assume your post was about adults but it seemed to fit with my memory of this week too.

Hope your wounds heal quickly...

Frangi x


rm_gerson42 replies on 7/21/2006 10:38 pm:
Actually, they are ok, post was meant more for general consumption. I love that you call your daughter Little Frangi, that is very cute.
ger

florallei 99F

7/21/2006 10:36 pm

Hi Ger,

Good friends are rare indeed! I love the old proverb that ask the question 'are we a fair weather friend?'... a true friend is not someone who is there only at good times but also the bad times...how often is it that when we go thru really tough times and our so called friends disappear only to re-appear when things are good again.
The sad and unfortunate reality of life.
flo


rm_gerson42 replies on 7/22/2006 2:01 pm:
I agree. I also think that too often, people want to fix something for people by telling them how to handle something. I believe that listening to people's experiences and then finding one's way is much more effective.
ger

frangipanigal 44F
10406 posts
7/21/2006 11:37 pm

gerson42 replies on 7/22/2006 4:38 pm:
Actually, they are ok, post was meant more for general consumption. I love that you call your daughter Little Frangi, that is very cute.
ger


Good people always have lovely floral nicknames for their daughters...or so I hear.

Frangi x


rm_gerson42 replies on 7/22/2006 2:02 pm:
Yes, the good people do that. hehe
ger

aascrompn 42M
6444 posts
7/22/2006 12:21 am

You're right... just check out tabithaelectra... She has it all... including my heart.


rm_gerson42 replies on 7/22/2006 2:02 pm:
Great example, thanks aas.
ger

MOfunNOWWOW 55F

7/22/2006 12:25 am

Just a heart felt presence is the best {=}


MOMO
just a squirrel trying to get a nut


rm_gerson42 replies on 7/22/2006 2:02 pm:
I knew you would understand. Love ya,
ger

ProtonicMan 47M

7/22/2006 6:04 am

Great post. It's not about the information, is it? It's about the connection.

TJ


wickedeasy 66F  
25406 posts
7/22/2006 7:10 am

so true - we're usually not asking for someone to solve our dilemma - just to be WITH us while we do

You cannot conceive the many without the one.


rm_gerson42 replies on 7/22/2006 2:03 pm:
Agreed wholeheartedly. Must add that's usually what I find here.
ger

TheRealThing655 48F
9558 posts
7/22/2006 8:36 am

That is a great quote...and I feel fortunate to have several friends who describe this. Know you must too.


rm_gerson42 replies on 7/22/2006 2:04 pm:
Yes, and as I just mentioned above to wickedeasy, a lot of those people are here.
ger

HBowt2 58F

7/22/2006 12:34 pm

that's cos they really touch our hearts....


rm_gerson42 replies on 7/22/2006 2:04 pm:
Totally agree. Thanks for the chat earlier.
ger

amoldenough 69F
16436 posts
7/24/2006 6:59 pm

My best friend is one of the advice givers, not listeners. When she does listen, she doesn't hear everything. I guess she is formulating the next bit of advice. It is annoying when all you really want to do is to have someone let you cry on their shoulder. I enjoyed the quote very much.

"Don't cry because it's over; smile because it happened."


rm_gerson42 replies on 7/25/2006 12:51 pm:
I think it's even harder for men to keep their mouths shut and the ears open. We seem to have this great need to fix things even if we know nothing about it.
ger - (Replying to comments assuming that commentator commented freely and without expectation.)

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