Tug  

rm_gata11459 58F
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8/2/2006 10:20 pm

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Tug

I moved here in 1979, two years after I graduated from high school. I had hitch hiked all over the United States in that two years, had lots of crazy adventures and met lots of crazy people. There were lots of bikers, carny's, musicians, hippies, migrant workers, about every kind of people you can think of, i have lived with, traveled with, partied with (lots of that). I had also been in lots of trouble in that time, so when my family moved here from a very small community in Southern Colorado, and I decided that I would come and pay a visit, my mother and father were hardly jumping for joy. They told me that I could come on the condition that I try to get my "life together". I kind of chuckled to myself and said "ya sure watever" lmao.. mmm ya. I was here about 2 days when the police were knocking on their door lookin for me, but we'll save that story for another time. I decided that my best bet for work was in a bar. (mmmm ya.. good idea Kathie). I started cocktailing at a bar here in Greeley. It was at this bar that I met the people that would shape my life over the next several years. I met my first husband here at this bar. I met my second husband there too... (My da always told me never to marry anybody I met in a bar). I met a really valuable friend there. He went by the name of Tug. His real name was Herbert, so I spose you could understand why he went by Tug. We called him Tuggy as a term of endearment. Tuggy and I always had a special relationship. The first time I met him, was after the bar closed in the parking lot. He was balling my best friend Judy. Tuggy was from Missiouri, and about as backward as a guy could get. He came from a little town called Marysville over near the border of Iowa. He had grown up in a pretty tight, if somewhat off the wall family, but he was a good guy. As we left the bar that nite, there were drunk cowboys out there who were looking to fight. I can't rember how many people were involved in this fight, but there were several. I do remember this guy named Big Foot yelling "the big ones need to line up and the little ones need to bunch up" and the fight was on. When it was over, Tug had bloody knuckles and I only had one shoe. It was basically a comedy of errors, but we came out of it ok, if somewhat shoeless, and did live to fight another day. After that Tuggy and I became really close. But as time has a way of doing, things changed for both of us and over the years other elements were introduced. I married Gary, Tuggy married that witch Tanya, and Gary and I began our treck into the depths of drug addiction. Tuggy, was always dead against drugs. So, he drifted away from me. I lost touch with him for a while, and didn't really know what was going on with him and his wife, all i knew is that she and i were not fond of each other so we steered clear. One nite Gary brought Tuggy to the house and wanted me to hit Tug up. He was shootin dope and wasn't able to hit himself. I couldnt do it. I couldn't watch my sweet friend go down the same path that I had worn down bare. Tug left that nite and i didn't see him for a good while. A few years later the next thing I heard was that Tug was in prison here in Colorado. He had been busted for a large amount of Meth, and had gotten some serious time for it. I visited him a few times, and kept in contact with him. Gary and I had gotten a divorce, and I was still really heavy into the shit, so didnt go often. A drug addict visiting a prison?? Well not usually on that side of the fence anyway. I finally got clean, and Tuggy and I began talking to each other more often, then more and more. It was coming time for him to parole out, and we were both really excited about it. One day my friend Debbie called and said I needed to read the newspaper, there was something in it about my Tug. He had been called in for what he thought would be an interview. As he sat down in a chair, a picture of a woman was placed on the table. I didn't know it at the time, but Tuggy would never see the other side of that fence again. Before his arrest on the drug charges, he and his cousin had found out a woman they knew was a DEA informant, that was how the DEA had found out about him having all that dope that he had gotten busted with. The woman was beaten to death, and put in the trunk of her car, the car was then driven into the Mississippi river not to be found again for 10 years. Tug and his cousin were found guilty of the murder, and would spend the next 25 years in federal prison. By the time the article came out in the paper, Tuggy had already been removed from the federal prison here in Colorado. I tried desparately to find him. When I did finally find him, he refused to have any contact with me for many years. About 5 years ago, he finally gave in, and began to write me. We have been in contact since, and used to actually talk about what we would do when he got out. Last Christmas Tuggy was diagnosed with cancer, so we havent really talked much about anything but day to day stuff since. He still has 12 years to go, and will never see this side of the fence again. So now Tuggy, I have to tell you goodbye again. But this time I think it will be for good. I don't believe I will see you again my friend. But we knew that a while ago I think. So Tuggy when I get there I'll raise a glass to you, and I'll remember us walking out of that parking lot so many lifetimes ago, you with scraped knuckles and me with one shoe.

xxxx kathie.



Peace xxx K



parkingspacereq 45M

8/3/2006 3:32 am

((((((kathie))))))
you are very lucky to have met so many special people through your life, you will always be in their hearts as they will travel with you in your heart, never forget as they wont forget youxxxx
uncle pxxxx


irishandopen

8/3/2006 3:59 am

Kathie this one really touched me. I suppose because I could relate on some level to it having seen many of my friends get strung out and going to prison over the years. Even ones who castigated me for doing drugs in the first place, they were the ones who seemed to fall hardest. The depth of your loyalty shows through in your writing, friendship without boundaries or judgement.xxx


rm_gata11459 58F
10597 posts
8/3/2006 5:03 am

    Quoting parkingspacereq:
    ((((((kathie))))))
    you are very lucky to have met so many special people through your life, you will always be in their hearts as they will travel with you in your heart, never forget as they wont forget youxxxx
    uncle pxxxx
i have been lucky in life parky, ive met and and loved many..i guess that is all we can expect from our lives isnt it. thanks hun for the great comment xoxo k

Peace xxx K


rm_gata11459 58F
10597 posts
8/3/2006 5:59 am

    Quoting irishandopen:
    Kathie this one really touched me. I suppose because I could relate on some level to it having seen many of my friends get strung out and going to prison over the years. Even ones who castigated me for doing drugs in the first place, they were the ones who seemed to fall hardest. The depth of your loyalty shows through in your writing, friendship without boundaries or judgement.xxx
shando.. irony that isnt it.. seems always the way of it.. i have lots that went and lots still there.. and more that didnt make it out alive.. love them all.. xxoxx thanks hun xoxok

Peace xxx K


rm_gata11459 58F
10597 posts
8/3/2006 6:00 am

    Quoting blonde367:
    Really touching, could feel the tears reading this one..ure loyalty as a friend is endless, but I already know that..so well written that anyone who reads this will, like me see the images in their head as they read...xoxo lots of love J
hey gurl i love you oxox k

Peace xxx K


rm_jurgon3 56M
4603 posts
8/3/2006 7:17 am

ive had a few tear ups outside bars in my time too. funny it seams a lifetime away too. im a different person now strange how our lives change for better or worse over time.Kathie saying goodbye is never easy, and you have left a mark with everyone youve met, including all of us.america is losing one of its best,but ireland is getting an angel. Hope to read a few more of your great posts before you depart on your next advanture. phil

Be lucky!


rm_gata11459 58F
10597 posts
8/3/2006 4:49 pm

    Quoting rm_jurgon3:
    ive had a few tear ups outside bars in my time too. funny it seams a lifetime away too. im a different person now strange how our lives change for better or worse over time.Kathie saying goodbye is never easy, and you have left a mark with everyone youve met, including all of us.america is losing one of its best,but ireland is getting an angel. Hope to read a few more of your great posts before you depart on your next advanture. phil
phil.. well thank you my sweet friend.. but as my posts go on you will realize more and more i am far from being an angel, but you telling me that i am is wonderful so thank you xxx, ya we live many lifetimes thru our one life, many stages that seem forever ago, but when we think hard on them they are like yesterday. Goodbyes are always hard for me.. always have been so i prefer not to say them in person. This is much easier for me, and when i leave i plan on just slipping away quietly, they tear me apart.. xoxo k.. btw phil.. the mark has been left on both sides you know.. you have all become invaluable parts of my life

Peace xxx K


rm_gata11459 58F
10597 posts
8/4/2006 6:45 am

    Quoting blonde367:
    I came back to say,,i cant even imagine how hard this is 4 u,, saying goodbye to all the physical ppl in ure life,,but the rest of us who are here in cyber so to speak, and soon to be physical friends, well i hope we can make the journey easier for u, cos i will be here when u need me and u know that,,as will many others,,ure on a great journey, exploring the new and looking at the old,,, not saying goodbye,,look at it as see ya for now, but will see many of u again..luv always Jxo
ahhh j.. ya made me cry hun xoox thank you xxx kathie

Peace xxx K


grouchy68 48M

8/4/2006 8:03 am

Wow. That story blew me away. Hugs.


rm_gata11459 58F
10597 posts
8/4/2006 9:22 am

    Quoting grouchy68:
    Wow. That story blew me away. Hugs.
ta grouchy hun xoxox k

Peace xxx K


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