"Rules"  

rm_galatoonces 47F
30 posts
9/12/2005 9:03 am

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"Rules"


Rules in a relationship can totally suck.

As a preteen when I would read those horrid preteen romance novels that it was confusing that the girl protagonist had to "chose" between 2 boyfriends...I remember thinking why does she have to chose. Why can't she see both of them? Why can't everyone just do their own thing and why do they have to hide it if they do?

I believe that people should be free to express themselves sexually. As long as you are open and honest with your partners, it should be ok... After all, no one "owns" another person!

Anyway, I always had multiple lovers until I started dating my husband. He knew this was my pattern and made it clear that it was not acceptable to him (for men that is, not for women--that is somehow ok to him). I accepted this "rule" and so here I am 18 years later still following it.

It sucks. It feels very artificial.

rm_galatoonces 47F
9 posts
9/13/2005 2:56 pm

My husband has always known about me & my preferences. He is ok with me being with women but made it known from the begining that if we were to be together, that I could not be with other men. I have grudgingly accepted this, but I don't like it at all...

I have told him (several times) he could be with other women (not a problem for me as long as he is "safe" and "honest" about it). He is not interested and frankly, was offended I have ever said it.


rm_galatoonces 47F
9 posts
9/14/2005 12:54 pm

clarification... the reason I am pondering about these "rules" that define my hubby & my relationship are that I am now at a point in my life that I want to be with other people. And frankly, men are easier for me than women (although I am up for possiblity) so its more of a wishful thinking thing ... hope that makes sense


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