The effect of pornography on sex  

rm_foo_cire_el2 35M
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8/17/2006 4:10 pm

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The effect of pornography on sex


Since I was in my middle teens, I watched pornography (yeah, I know it wasn't legal that I did back then, so what? Sue me ).

Its funny that it rarely occured to me to check on how pornography, or rather the content of pornography, could affect people's sexual behavior... sometimes in undesirable ways, probably because I always took it with a grain of salt.

However, I asked a female friend of mine what was her experience like with men (hard to know when you are heterosexual and your male friends are not very forthcoming about it ). Her answer is of course private, but it shocked me as it led me to realise how pornography have radically influenced how some men behave sexually (and I can tell from experience, some women too) for the worse.

On one side, pornography provides graphical depictions of many sexual acts and dispel a lot of the preconceptions that virgin people might have about those acts. Whether thats a good or bad thing really depends on you, but for me thats a good thing.

Also, if done correctly, pornography can encourage people to become more creative with their sexuality which can help liven up what might otherwise be a stale and repetitive sex life in a long term relationship.

On the downside, I find that even though the right content can promote greater sexual awareness, the makers of pornographic movies have not shown pornographic content in a responsible way.

First of all, they have distorted the view of what is the physical norm. By taking mostly models with very large penises or very large breast (sometimes to ridiculous proportions), they caused many people great anxiety and a feeling of inadequity. As a teenager, I met many guys who were distressed by the idea that their genitals weren't big enough and I wouldn't be surprised if this was in great part due to pornography.

It is also very frequent to see scenes where contraceptives are not used in scenarios where complete strangers have sex, thus promoting very dangerous behavior (some kind of "don't do this at home" warning would be in order I think).

Furthermore, I find that many porn movies encourage the viewer to view other people as sexual objects. The idea that someone got tricked into sex is a recuring theme in pornographic movies along with the frequent use of some pretty degrading vocabulary ("slut" and "whore" readily come to mind here). The concept of one of the partners being a sexual object is also reinforced by the fact that most often, one of the two partners is very dominant on the other and make him/her do whatever she/he wants. The dominated partner is often forced to do unpleasant or downright degrading sexual acts. Most often, the male is dominant since most pornographic movies were meant to appeal to a male audience.

And finally, I find that the makers of porn movie overall, seem fixated on very specific areas of the human body (mostly the mouth and the genitals and the anus) and specific actions that are done with them (oral sex and penetration) thus causing many people to become quite fixated on those areas and actions.

Like I said before, pornography doesn't need to be a pervasive influence. I just think it should be used in a more responsible manner... with care as to what kind of behavior it promotes.

BlackHeatLust 47M

8/17/2006 11:38 pm

Foo if you look over my blog posts I wrote something like what you state here concerning Pornography.


rm_foo_cire_el2 35M
100 posts
8/18/2006 12:40 am

    Quoting BlackHeatLust:
    Foo if you look over my blog posts I wrote something like what you state here concerning Pornography.
Glad to see we are of similar opinion, I'll try to find it and link it .


rm_foo_cire_el2 35M
100 posts
8/18/2006 2:15 am

Found it:

" I'm Addicted to Porn....Are You?....I hope So?"


BlackHeatLust 47M

8/18/2006 1:01 pm

Thanks Foo. Let's hope the word continues to get out about this.


witchie_hour 62F
166 posts
9/4/2006 3:58 pm

lol I enjoy porn occasionnaly , soft porn thought, some are done very well ..as for the pronography affecting how some peoples act well could be but I think those peoples had those tendency to start with and the porn gave them a little push as to speak....

cause am pretty sure that and pedophile were arround long before photography, filming and t.v. were invented ...k might not help very much but don`t think it is the reason ....just my view on it


rm_foo_cire_el2 35M
100 posts
10/29/2006 1:08 am

    Quoting witchie_hour:
    lol I enjoy porn occasionnaly , soft porn thought, some are done very well ..as for the pronography affecting how some peoples act well could be but I think those peoples had those tendency to start with and the porn gave them a little push as to speak....

    cause am pretty sure that and pedophile were arround long before photography, filming and t.v. were invented ...k might not help very much but don`t think it is the reason ....just my view on it
Well, I wasn't quite refering to and pedophiles as much as I was refering to people who objectify their sexual partner too much and other more minor problems of the sort.

I guess the argument is in some way analoguous to the argument about violent movies.

There are people with tendencies for sure, but it doesn't help.

However, with violent movie, most people are raised in a fairly nurturing environment that doesn't promote violence so in many ways, the content of violent movies is buffered by our social structure which tends to vilify violence.

With porn, well, its about sex and the vast majority of people experience sex at one point or another in their life. For a significant proportion, porn is their first exposure to sex and as it currently is, it certainly isn't the best of models.


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