The effect of masturbation on sexual needs  

rm_foo_cire_el2 35M
46 posts
6/22/2006 1:05 pm

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10/29/2006 2:18 pm

The effect of masturbation on sexual needs


I find it interesting to ponder on how masturbation affects what we look for in sexual intercourse with other people.

I'll draw from my personal experience to explain what I'm talking about:

I didn't have any sex with someone else during my teens and my first few adult years. As a result, I greatly relied on masturbation and imagination to fulfill my sexual needs.

A direct cause of this is that I never felt pressure to look for a partner for sexual release as I could do that on my own. Instead, I always looked for a partner mostly to satisfy my curiosity and share my sexuality with someone else.

Interestingly, there's a popular saying that says: "Before you can love someone else, you must first love yourself".

I wonder if a paralel could not be made for sex.

MarcySullivan 52F  
3598 posts
6/26/2006 5:55 am

It's funny how it was the other way around for me. As oppose to you where masturbation seemed to satisfy you and refrain you from seeking a sexual partner as a teenager/young adult, it had the opposite effect on me where I was curious to try sex and to experience it and then try it again. I admit now that sex back then was not as good as now. We were so inexperienced back then. We didn't know much about what we were doing. I did not enjoy it as much as today.

I think back then I was mostly looking for the intimacy, the time sharing, the closeness with someone more than the actual sex act.
Now is a little of both I guess.


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Marcy

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rm_foo_cire_el2 35M
100 posts
7/2/2006 12:32 am

True,

now that I think about it, experience would surely increase the enjoyment you get out of sex with a partner.

It might also make you more aware of your sexuality and would make you more curious about exploring its different facets (it did for me).

However, it wouldn't explain how some people seem unable to reach sexual satisfaction unless they have a sexual partner.

My initial explanation was that they simply didn't know how to satisfy themselves, but maybe its also due to a force of habit. If you enjoyed your sexuality with someone else for very long, experiencing it only with yourself might be more alien then.


witchie_hour 62F
166 posts
9/4/2006 3:32 pm

Hi foo

Marcy did mention your blog to me and I came to see for myself

mmm reading this made me look back at my habits lol lol...and made me realise that when being with a partner I was most likely expecting ...hoping to feel the same wich I do know now is not possible...don`t take me wrong a partner can make you feel very good indeed and of course communication is a great help but even then lol am still my best lover

This might sound crazy to peoples but hey is just the way it is lol


rm_foo_cire_el2 35M
100 posts
10/29/2006 2:16 pm

    Quoting witchie_hour:
    Hi foo

    Marcy did mention your blog to me and I came to see for myself

    mmm reading this made me look back at my habits lol lol...and made me realise that when being with a partner I was most likely expecting ...hoping to feel the same wich I do know now is not possible...don`t take me wrong a partner can make you feel very good indeed and of course communication is a great help but even then lol am still my best lover

    This might sound crazy to peoples but hey is just the way it is lol
Hi Witchie

Thanks for visiting and thanks to Marcy for the reference.

Sorry for the delay in responding, but there are periods where I scarsely login if at all .

Anyhow, I don't think what you wrote is crazy. I identify myself a lot with it.

I find that the best orgasms I had came with the help of my own hands and imagination .


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