a bit confused  

rm_florienrsa 45M
6 posts
4/30/2006 4:11 am

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6/16/2006 12:28 am

a bit confused

What it is with some persons to be so uncertain in their decisions in life? I moved from France to RSA to marry the girl of my dreams 8 years ago. A year ago, my beloved became as warm as a granit top. No more kiss, no more affection. She says she made a mistake...she actually never loved me. Not yet separated, I want to give her some time to think but she just doesn't know! what should I do?
So here I am...[blog florienrsa]

KandyCoated4U 52F
755 posts
4/30/2006 5:42 am

Some people really don't know until it's right in there face. Give her time to think and decide. If she wants to go you can't make her stay.It will only get worse.

! If I were a crayon, I'd most likely be jammed up some kids nose.

piamatter 44F

4/30/2006 5:47 am

Sorry to hear of your situation. Time will tell. You need to be with someone who loves you as much as you love them.

Hugs *Pia*

4Us2Learn 55M/50F

4/30/2006 5:59 am

Sorry to hear that, florienrsa. Have you tried counselling? Have you asked her what helped her come to this decision? One doesn't stay together for so many years if there was no love involved, unless it was just to be supported.

Hope it works out for you.

GoddessOfTheDawn 105F
11238 posts
4/30/2006 6:35 am

there are so many contributing factorz.... Wishing you the best on your journey

welcome to blogging

rm_2needy4 43F
38 posts
5/2/2006 6:53 am

My suggestion would be to give her the time she might require to think about the way forward. This by no means entails you waiting for eternity, as the longer both of you leave it the more emotional it will become i.e. either with hope or destruction. Set those boundries and keep her to them.

Sometimes finality is a starter to healing as you have a definiate. Always remember that you are stronger than you think and good luck.

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