Needing a Little Encouragement  

rm_farm_girl84 32F
1135 posts
7/16/2006 3:12 pm

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Needing a Little Encouragement

So, this is a little different then what I usually write about. I usually check my problems at the door and don't bring them on to this site. But this has gone on long enough, and I need some advice.

Here's the situation. I have this so called friend that left her fiancé for another guy. Her fiancé, who was actually a really good friend of mine, was heartbroken. This so called friend didn't like the fact that I still talked to her ex fiancé, even though we were friends. So we stopped talking

Well, her ex fiancé finally moved on, met a girl and spent the weekend with her. My so called friend is pissed off about it and doesn't want her at "her house” I’m think you left him, it's not your house. She called me up the other day, bitching... and saying if that girl wasn't at her house, she'd be out there with him. Hello! You left him for another guy remember!!. And on top of it planning to marry this other guy that she left her fiancé for.

So I don't see what the big deal is... just because her ex fiancé isn't pinning for her any more, she's pissed about it?

My problem here is that, it's females like her that give the rest of us bad names, when we actually do want to try a relationship with a good guy. How am I suppose to prove to the decent, caring guys out there, that I'm not going to treat them like she did? And to help them realize every female out in the world is not like her?



Djeeper1987 47M

7/16/2006 5:25 pm

Don't make it a mission to do that. Trying to prove that some women are trustworthy then others. Same goes with men. Its like picking peas out of a hay stack. Hard to tell who you can trust and not trust.
I have had many bad experiences of women that lied to me or used me.
So I do have a thing about trust. However keeping faith from the beginning of the relationship that trust is there. Having that faith and hopes that the trust is solid and that she or he is not there to hurt you. Whether you find out early or later in the relationship doesn't matter. You are still going to get hurt. Getting hurt in relationships is good in ways that hopefully it will make you grow and see things better when you pick your next mate.

Hopefully I made some sense. Felt like I was babbling.

Carpe Diem


endowed_4_fun 41M
113 posts
7/17/2006 1:45 am

*smiles* You worry too much. Any guy in the "decent, caring" category won't let some other woman's actions affect his judgement of you. Its part of what makes him decent and caring.


NDakota_Man 40M

7/18/2006 12:50 am

I have been there, pretty much the same, I was on the recieving end. I was about a week away from proposing, and she said she's with another guy, (talk about tear your heart out!) Then again, I wasn't with anybody else. Granted, I couldn't take my mind off of her!
Honestly, if she's that pissed off, she's got what is comming to her, she has,ABSOLUTELY, NO RIGHT to be pissed off! After all, She's the one that started it! She is the one that set him free, so... he is going to do, whatever, with whomever, he wants to do with, and it is up to him, as far as she goes, she set him a FREE MAN! The only problem is... it takes a LONG time to recover. I Know! Anyway, Hope this helps.


crazygurl2xx 56F

7/18/2006 2:39 pm

in the words of my 14 year old daughter...girls suck. i have very few women friends and they are always the unusual ones because the old female game playing lame ass shit and putting up with any crap to have a man just Wears Me The Fuck OUT!!!

i have zero tolearance. i KNOW why men run run run away!

just be yourself and someone will definitely appreciate you for the true and sweet person you are, believe me it pays off.


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