Why I Stray  

rm_eyepoku 52M
18 posts
11/14/2005 12:14 pm

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Why I Stray

Some men stray becuase it just happened to be the right place at the right time. Others stray because culturally it is acceptable.
Some stray because sex at home has become to plain vanilla and they would like to have the feelings again.
Women stray becuase they happened be at the right place at the right time. Women stray becuase they are in love. Women Stray because the hubby is not giving them enought attention.

Let me hear from all of you out there.

Two4YouinLA 57M/63F

11/14/2005 1:12 pm

I totally agree with your thoughts on the matter. Different people have different reasons for straying. The sad part is if they are communicating with each other there are other ways to solve things. If two people care about each other and are willing to spice things up they both can have fun and get fulfillment. Wanting to bring others into a relationship doesn't necessarily mean that you don't still love and care for your spouse. Married sex can become boring and sometimes it needs a bit of a spark to re-kindle that fire. I know that just signing up to this site and talking about the prospects in our future has brought back more frequent and GOOD sex with my husband and myself. I know the other partner isn't always willing to participate in *swinging* but if it meant my husband wouldn't straying or even myself I think it would be something that should be a serious consideration. Just my opinion *grinning*

EyeCandy33333 44F
761 posts
11/14/2005 1:26 pm

Women stray because they want and need to be touched. They want passion and romance. They may have someone who tells them they are beautiful morning noon and night already and all during the day(and I do) but then if he can't perform because he drinks all afternoon and night-you really get tired of using your imagination and fingers and the toy he bought for you to use because he can't-and just to have a warm hard dick going inside of your body back and forth -emmmmmmm-your body gets very lonely for that-plus having your body kissed all over,nipples stimulated, your pussy licked and sucked on a bit. You can dream up about all those nice things happening to you and let your fingers do the walking-but babes-aint nothing like the real thing! Terrie

rm_corezon 53F
3376 posts
11/16/2005 9:43 pm

I think the bottom line for everybody is boredom.

Men and women. Even if they aren't dreadfully unhappy, meeting somebody and having chemistry hit you helps to entice you away, you can rationalize it however you want to, I still think it happens when you aren't getting some essential element in your main relationship; whether it's physical or emotional or your spouse has gained 40 pounds and all the two of you do is talk about bills and other stressful things...

Other than treating the other person like a friend instead of an enemy trying to spend all your money or treating you like a cheap housekeeper, consciously respecting each other's individuality and keeping the relationship exciting are the best antidote to straying that there is...and realizing that sometimes you can agree to disagree.

rm_corezon 53F
3376 posts
11/16/2005 9:44 pm

I'm female. Not trying to mislead you, they won't fix my profile.

rm_labiphile 54M

11/18/2005 9:58 am

I'm a man, but can totally relate to what Terri says. I stray for the same reasons. I want to enjoy the passion and ecstasy of a hungry lover who craves me and is aroused by my sensual touch. How awesome it feels to be with a woman who loves my cock and doesn't make me feel like an pariah every time it gets hard. Though my arms can hold my partner all night, every night, my passion is locked out and it longs to be free, to express itself in it's sweet, raw sensuality, welcomed, adored and reciprocated. A guy needs to be craved by his lady and appreciated for his sexuality to give him the strokes he needs to go out and conquer the world.

But many of the stray women I have met are just looking for male attention, some kind of validation that is lacking at home, just to know that they are special, sexy and deserve to be treated like a princess.

Men and women are unique but similar in their mutual need for validation and the desire to be with someone who can meet those needs.

Valdrane78 38M

11/21/2005 11:05 am

There is NO excuse for cheating. My ex didn't give it up at all the last 2 years of our marriage, and I never cheated on her. She was also a complete bitch to boot. Cheating is unexceptable, in any form no matter what the circumstaces are. If you don't like what I have to say, well I'm sorry, that is just too bad. I never cheated, and I refuse to help people do the cheating.

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missnicety38 50F
1 post
11/29/2005 2:55 pm

Eyepoku, yes I believe that sex at home becomes plain but why not try to spice it up or talk to ur mate about the situation. I also think men stray because some women let it go on. Yes, women and men stray because of love and affection that they r not getting at home but its different for men and women because once a women falls for the other man its over for the one at home were as men can stray but will not leave the home. I believe the same thing u was doing in the bedroom to get that person u need to con't to do and add flavor to con't to spice it up so it don't lead to boredom or straying.

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