Feeling safe is key to being safe...  

rm_ericez 63M
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5/20/2005 2:23 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Feeling safe is key to being safe...

Screening potential playmates is key, not that it's a magic solution. I just know that I get a different feeling from someone who is too needy than from someone who comes to things as an equal. And the women I've met seem to find the same sort of screening (one calls it a 'weirdo check') works for them. I always meet any woman (or couple for that matter() in a safe feeling public place for at least the first time -- someplace where we each feel free to say "Goodbye, no thanks" and get up and go, with no consequences.

We all need to listen to our instincts, including fear. There's a great book on this subject call "The Gift of Fear" by Gavin de Becker. For example, he says that if (as a woman) you don't feel getting on the elevator with the guy who's already on it, that fear is telling you that you're sensing something on a subconscious level. Which is not to say we should live in fear all the tiome, just that it is one of the many feelings we should listen to.


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