Ideals are they bunk ?........  

rm_emerald6912 49M
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2/3/2006 9:08 am

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Ideals are they bunk ?........

Recently I was chatting with a good friend, the topic of an ideal partner cropped up.

We agreed that ideals, being as they are, are rarely evident in reality. The choices we make about partners maybe be guided by an ideal, but that is not always what we choose.

During the conversation, we touched on the norms, body shape, sexual compatibility, chemistry, so on and so on. The intellect was central to both of our ideals. This brought us to the idea that maybe we select our partners based on political stance or lack thereof.

Having thought about this, I cannot think of a partner, who in most ways, did not hold a similar position to me. This struck me as odd, and made me think that I had a radar, a barometer of choice relating to politics. Naturally all sexual encounters are not driven by this, just the choice concerning commitment to a singular partner.

Mentioning this to my friend, she suggested, sort of accused. That in some way I was prejudiced, making choices based upon political viewpoint, not only limited you, but was like choosing someone based on how much disposable cash they had.

If a partner, who I wanted be with, and who wants to be with me, happens to be well off. The decision to form a commitment would seem easier. It is not necessary for a commitment to happen, it just eases the way.

Yet I do think I would not make a commitment with someone who held extreme political views. Which I suppose is extreme in itself.

Of course mixing politics with pleasure can be a dangerous endeavour, yet we all do it I think.

* the picture has no relation whatsoever to this scribbling online, its just damn sexy

A joke, copied from some site.

A son asks his father, "What can you tell me about politics? I have to learn about it for school tomorrow." The father thought for a bit and said, "OK, son, the best way I can describe politics is to use an analogy. Let's say that I'm a capitalist because I'm the breadwinner. Your mother will be the government because she controls everything, our maid will be the working class because she works for us, you will be the people because you answer to us, and your baby brother will be the future. Does that help any?" The little boy said, "Well, Dad, I don't know, but I'll think about it."

Later that night, after everyone had gone to bed, the little boy woke to the sound of his baby brother's crying. Upon further investigation, he found a dirty diaper. So, he went down the hall to his parent's bedroom. There he found his father's side of the bed empty and his mother was fast asleep, and wouldn't wake up. Then he saw a light on in the guest room down the hall, when he reached the door, he saw through the crack that his father was in bed with the maid. The son then turned and went back to bed.

The next morning, he said to his father at the breakfast table. "Dad, I think I understand politics much better now." "Excellent, my boy," he answered, "What have you learned?" The little boy thought for a minute and said, "I learned that capitalism fucks the working class, government is sound asleep and ignoring the people, and the future's full of shit."



MsLoveRose 33F  
2432 posts
2/3/2006 2:57 pm

my fantasy guys are my ideal choices....

living in reality means that i dont search for that fantasy guy, i just look at the guy thats with me and make my own fantasies...my own memories...sometimes i even comapre and contrast...

good joke!!

live more, laugh often, love much


_CoffeeNoCream_ 52F

2/3/2006 3:20 pm

aaaaaaaarrrrrgh ruining this post with a copy paste thing....duh


rm_emerald6912 49M
545 posts
2/3/2006 7:13 pm

    Quoting MsLoveRose:
    my fantasy guys are my ideal choices....

    living in reality means that i dont search for that fantasy guy, i just look at the guy thats with me and make my own fantasies...my own memories...sometimes i even comapre and contrast...

    good joke!!
LadySunrise, compare and contrast yes I do that, its a nice way to choose sometimes.


rm_gata11459 58F
10597 posts
2/3/2006 9:06 pm

em.. i thought you were watching the door.. ??? lol xoxo gata

Peace xxx K


HBowt2 59F

2/4/2006 2:05 am

I think we pick our partners on what is safe and familiar Emerald ....maybe we should step away from that and take a few risks???


angelgrrl 48F

2/4/2006 7:46 am

Someone's political views, as well as someone's disposable income is a part of who they are. I'm not sure why these two parts are considered more shallow than other things about them. I don't know if they should be the deciding factors, but both really effect the lifestyle of the person and the person they're involved with.


rm_FreeLove999 46F
16127 posts
2/4/2006 11:00 am

i don't think there is anything strange in seeking partners with similar political views -- when i was looking, i was quite clear about that point on my profile. there are certain views i find intolerable. someone spewing the virtues of capitalism to me is just a BIG turnoff...

the fact that my husband and i are entirely in-sync when it comes to political theory and practice has enabled us to work as a team in our activist work, and achieve successes with the work, in a way neither of us would have done if we were alone.



[blog freelove999]


rm_emerald6912 49M
545 posts
2/4/2006 10:27 pm

    Quoting _CoffeeNoCream_:
    aaaaaaaarrrrrgh ruining this post with a copy paste thing....duh
CoffeeNoCream, ruining and dooming, yep thats me....nicenquikey pic btw...very kinda eclectic...lol


rm_emerald6912 49M
545 posts
2/4/2006 10:31 pm

    Quoting rm_gata11459:
    em.. i thought you were watching the door.. ??? lol xoxo gata
Gata, no the doorman is on early retirement in this here place...lol


rm_emerald6912 49M
545 posts
2/4/2006 10:32 pm

    Quoting HBowt2:
    I think we pick our partners on what is safe and familiar Emerald ....maybe we should step away from that and take a few risks???
Hbowt, calculated risks all the time, im no longer a teenager running in head first anymore....lol


rm_emerald6912 49M
545 posts
2/4/2006 10:35 pm

    Quoting angelgrrl:
    Someone's political views, as well as someone's disposable income is a part of who they are. I'm not sure why these two parts are considered more shallow than other things about them. I don't know if they should be the deciding factors, but both really effect the lifestyle of the person and the person they're involved with.
angelgrrl...yes very true, the are part of what composing the ppl we choose to be with, and we cant ignore them.


rm_emerald6912 49M
545 posts
2/4/2006 10:38 pm

    Quoting nipafluff:
    emers ...........I have loads of cash...but can we still shag??
Sorry nipa darlin, im terribly taken by those with XX chromosomes....call me single minded.....tnx for offer all the same....lol


rm_emerald6912 49M
545 posts
2/4/2006 10:41 pm

    Quoting rm_FreeLove999:
    i don't think there is anything strange in seeking partners with similar political views -- when i was looking, i was quite clear about that point on my profile. there are certain views i find intolerable. someone spewing the virtues of capitalism to me is just a BIG turnoff...

    the fact that my husband and i are entirely in-sync when it comes to political theory and practice has enabled us to work as a team in our activist work, and achieve successes with the work, in a way neither of us would have done if we were alone.
FreeLove, thats great to hear, i dont think i could last in a partnership where our views were diametrically opposed.


Viggo57 60M

2/7/2006 4:21 am

Wisdom from the mouth of babes....I am referring to both the joke and the statement on politically compatibility......great post!!!


rm_emerald6912 49M
545 posts
2/10/2006 11:18 am

    Quoting Viggo57:
    Wisdom from the mouth of babes....I am referring to both the joke and the statement on politically compatibility......great post!!!
Viggo, wisdom and common sense, such a rare commodity.


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