Courts, Courtiers, Controversy in the Kindergarten......  

rm_emerald6912 49M
611 posts
3/22/2006 4:48 am

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Courts, Courtiers, Controversy in the Kindergarten......

Can anybody figure out why this place is so full of drama kings and queens, and courtiers of controversy ?.

There seems to be an underlying trend of this. I have noticed some posters (blogging does not seem an apt term for a number of additions to this site) making a song and dance out of comments they receive. Then feigning emotional stress because they dont get the response expected. Others causing drama by courting controversy, for some deluded purpose, or perhaps just plain ignorance.

Now I do say fair play to them, that is their free choice, and away with it they can go. Yet if anyone critiques what they have made public, suddenly there is a big outpouring of nonsensical emotion, feigning victimhood. Whilst in essence trying to create a victim of the person with an opposing view.

Its laughable, they call this site 'adult'. I didnt realise that perhaps it is the 'world' for some. Who in reality may not receive or perhaps merit the attention they get in this fantasyland. I should start to remember that.

I have had some interesting times with posts on this site. Personally for me, alot of the verse and poetry here is excellent, there are some really good writers. Yet the drama makers, the courtiers of controversy, I do ponder about their mental faculties, not for too long mind you, still it is a wonder.

Its simple, if you make something public on this site, you have to accept praise and criticism equally.

Comment if you like or not, this is an inclusive mature zone, no banishments hereabouts.


angelgrrl 48F

3/22/2006 1:20 pm

It's easy to get drawn into drama everywhere. When I realize I'm a part of it, I just do my best to get out as quickly as possible, apologize where appropriate, and leave it alone. Things do blow over, so the less that is said, the less chances there are for hurt feelings.

Blogging is a community though, and wherever people interact, people are bound to occasionally react as well.


__Huntress__ 55M/58F

3/22/2006 2:31 pm

There's a reason why I tend to stay in my little corner of the world here !!!

{=}


saddletrampsk 54F

3/22/2006 3:12 pm

We all take critisism in different ways I suppose..


rm_gata11459 58F
10597 posts
3/22/2006 5:16 pm

emerald.. it is laughable.. but in a sad way.. they make out the the benifit of free speach to say and do as they please, but when faced with the responsibility free speech brings, and taking into account what they have to say, they accuse those that question of being childish and narrowminded.. not having a sence of humour, and being self important.. blogs are for opinions.. the purpose is to entertain and to raise thought, controversy and response. I'm not understanding here what the problem is really, why they are so afraid of intelligent debate. Of course when dealing with heritage and pride, it will become emotional, but what is this world without ferver and conviction of ideals and beliefs? This is a sex site, true, but we are all adults, and some of us even intelligent ones. Why can't we disagree and discuss our differences, get angry and call each other on the carpet for what we percieve as an injustice, and then discuss why we see it that way, and why they don't.. I may never understand, but if that is the way of it here, I guess I don't really want to. But for what it is worth Emerald, I admire your courage and conviction to stand, even when you are being battered and beaten about, you still hold tight to your convictions, no matter what they are, or who else believes in them. xoxo gata

Peace xxx K


mm0206 69F
7767 posts
3/22/2006 9:22 pm

Well I admit I need therapy....
so dont count me with the more sane bunch.
They are all a bunch of fanatics anyway.

...m.


roger_the_hound 57M

3/23/2006 4:05 am

I write what I wish veiled in verse
And try very hard to coerce
Some light-hearted laughter
'Bout what I lech after
While keeping the content quite terse.

I, too, have observed what you've described. A blog is a monologue, but if you invite replies, you ought to be able to accept that not everyone shares your point-of-view. Those predisposed to high drama ought to just disallow replies in the first place and happily sit in their high perch...

This is my first visit to your blog. I enjoyed what I read.

Ars longa, vita brevis.


Sulabula 45F
12659 posts
3/23/2006 5:26 am

We should be responsible for what we write...if it incites or causes upset then people should be asking why this has happened...Some people may prefer not to get involved and that is fair enough but it should be left at that.

Sula xxx

come visit my blog


rm_FreeLove999 46F
16127 posts
3/24/2006 3:54 am

sure we should maybe be able to accept criticism on our blogs, but frankly, i am not blogging to get into debates but to find like-minded people. if i don't like what someone has to say, i am perfectly entitled to delete it. i exercise that privelege rarely, but i do exercise it... i also don't comment on posts that i strongly disagree with, because i am not keen on debating...

however, i do tend to avoid all the dramas around here. i form my own opinions about fellow bloggers and tend to keep my negative opinions to myself.

i wish more people would take that attitude -- if you don't like someone or their blog, well just don't go there! some seem to get a perverse pleasure in visiting the blogs of people they dislike and then making nasty remarks about them. i also wonder about their intelligence, and their self-respect!



[blog freelove999]


rm_emerald6912 49M
545 posts
3/24/2006 10:11 am

    Quoting angelgrrl:
    It's easy to get drawn into drama everywhere. When I realize I'm a part of it, I just do my best to get out as quickly as possible, apologize where appropriate, and leave it alone. Things do blow over, so the less that is said, the less chances there are for hurt feelings.

    Blogging is a community though, and wherever people interact, people are bound to occasionally react as well.
angel, very true it is so easy to fall into the drama traps that inevitably others will lay. I tend to stand my ground and fight, a typically stubborn Irishman. Still it does bring about some interesting and englightening scenarios.


rm_emerald6912 49M
545 posts
3/24/2006 10:12 am

    Quoting __Huntress__:
    There's a reason why I tend to stay in my little corner of the world here !!!

    {=}
Huntress, wise words from a fine wordsmith, thank you.


rm_mockeen 62M
71 posts
3/24/2006 10:33 am

emerald
good blog mate, when someone puts their thoughts on paper or on sites like this for everyone to see, then they are courting controversy and if they have the conviction of their words then good honest debate is healthy.

how anyone can tell another to keep their opinions to themselves is off the wall.

i see it every week in the local rag "letters to the editor" those self opinionated individuals who cant debate


rm_emerald6912 49M
545 posts
3/24/2006 10:59 am

    Quoting saddletrampsk:
    We all take critisism in different ways I suppose..
saddle, thats is so true, and i wouldnt wish it any otherway. Aslong as we take it, and if we choose to respond do so in a way that is not belittling or offensive. Naturally if the criticism is disrespectful then the best is to ignore it, it the criticism is meant thoughtfully and not for any malicious reason then it is healthy.

All about adult communication.


rm_emerald6912 49M
545 posts
3/25/2006 1:35 pm

    Quoting rm_gata11459:
    emerald.. it is laughable.. but in a sad way.. they make out the the benifit of free speach to say and do as they please, but when faced with the responsibility free speech brings, and taking into account what they have to say, they accuse those that question of being childish and narrowminded.. not having a sence of humour, and being self important.. blogs are for opinions.. the purpose is to entertain and to raise thought, controversy and response. I'm not understanding here what the problem is really, why they are so afraid of intelligent debate. Of course when dealing with heritage and pride, it will become emotional, but what is this world without ferver and conviction of ideals and beliefs? This is a sex site, true, but we are all adults, and some of us even intelligent ones. Why can't we disagree and discuss our differences, get angry and call each other on the carpet for what we percieve as an injustice, and then discuss why we see it that way, and why they don't.. I may never understand, but if that is the way of it here, I guess I don't really want to. But for what it is worth Emerald, I admire your courage and conviction to stand, even when you are being battered and beaten about, you still hold tight to your convictions, no matter what they are, or who else believes in them. xoxo gata
gata, its the comfort zone that these people perceive in here, which deludes them into thinking that it is not the same here as in the real world.


rm_emerald6912 49M
545 posts
3/25/2006 1:36 pm

    Quoting funsassy:
    Agreed to the cord!!! ALthough we can write whatever we want in the blog but we have to be responsible too for what was written. That's solely my opinion.

    At the end of the day, it is the bloggers free choice of blogging so, so long there's no one being hurt in the process, we as the reader of others blog will just have to take it with a pinch of salt.

    Cool ok!
Fun, that is exactly is, we have to be responsible for what we write, and not abdicate that to the realms of mere humour.


rm_emerald6912 49M
545 posts
3/25/2006 1:38 pm

    Quoting mm0206:
    Well I admit I need therapy....
    so dont count me with the more sane bunch.
    They are all a bunch of fanatics anyway.

    ...m.
mm, there is certainly a fanatacism about some of the posters in here, its somewhat amusing at first, but tedious ultimately.


rm_emerald6912 49M
545 posts
3/25/2006 1:40 pm

    Quoting roger_the_hound:
    I write what I wish veiled in verse
    And try very hard to coerce
    Some light-hearted laughter
    'Bout what I lech after
    While keeping the content quite terse.

    I, too, have observed what you've described. A blog is a monologue, but if you invite replies, you ought to be able to accept that not everyone shares your point-of-view. Those predisposed to high drama ought to just disallow replies in the first place and happily sit in their high perch...

    This is my first visit to your blog. I enjoyed what I read.
roger, yes it would be better if they seek no comments. Thanks for you compliment, i think the writers of verse are the best thing about this site.


rm_emerald6912 49M
545 posts
3/25/2006 1:42 pm

    Quoting Sulabula:
    We should be responsible for what we write...if it incites or causes upset then people should be asking why this has happened...Some people may prefer not to get involved and that is fair enough but it should be left at that.
Sula, we definetely should ask why certain people choose to propagate or instigate controversy. And it should be made know wherever possible.


rm_emerald6912 49M
545 posts
3/25/2006 1:46 pm

    Quoting rm_FreeLove999:
    sure we should maybe be able to accept criticism on our blogs, but frankly, i am not blogging to get into debates but to find like-minded people. if i don't like what someone has to say, i am perfectly entitled to delete it. i exercise that privelege rarely, but i do exercise it... i also don't comment on posts that i strongly disagree with, because i am not keen on debating...

    however, i do tend to avoid all the dramas around here. i form my own opinions about fellow bloggers and tend to keep my negative opinions to myself.

    i wish more people would take that attitude -- if you don't like someone or their blog, well just don't go there! some seem to get a perverse pleasure in visiting the blogs of people they dislike and then making nasty remarks about them. i also wonder about their intelligence, and their self-respect!
Free, i am not sure i get what you are saying. If i see posts that incite intolerance based on ignorance, im sorry i am not going to sit back and keep any negative thoughts i have about that to myself. Its a public forum, it we choose to say that everything goes without any other opinion being portraye, well then we dont get much further along the knowledge path.

If we all keep quiet, then it just allows the type of people who are cynical about issues to propagate their jaundiced views.


rm_emerald6912 49M
545 posts
3/25/2006 1:48 pm

    Quoting rm_mockeen:
    emerald
    good blog mate, when someone puts their thoughts on paper or on sites like this for everyone to see, then they are courting controversy and if they have the conviction of their words then good honest debate is healthy.

    how anyone can tell another to keep their opinions to themselves is off the wall.

    i see it every week in the local rag "letters to the editor" those self opinionated individuals who cant debate
mockeen, this underlying notion, that if you dont like dont read, its ridiculous. If as if we are in school and the teacher has said this is the way, not very adult in my view.


rm_FreeLove999 46F
16127 posts
3/26/2006 10:59 am

do you really think you stop them by fighting??? as far as i can tell, the ignorant go on regardless, and get a kick out of the controversy they've created and think it proves they are the injured party.

i am most certainly not prepared to boost the ratings of morons by commenting... and believe me i've seen some really offensive shit about africans all over blogland, not to mention some highly insulting things about women. if it was really bad, i don't give anyone the benefit of my comments, but make a post on my blog countering that, but making no link.

i would rather put my energy into building positive relationships, in supporting those i consider deserving and fuck the words of the rest.

... if i see wrong actions tho, i will step in to impede those actions to the best of my ability, such as someone making harrassing comments leading some friends to shut their blog last year.... i got them to reopen their blog, and said person to apologise (tho i still think him despicable)... still i do it all on my own blog, not on the blog of the offensive person.



[blog freelove999]


rm_emerald6912 49M
545 posts
3/26/2006 11:30 am

    Quoting rm_FreeLove999:
    do you really think you stop them by fighting??? as far as i can tell, the ignorant go on regardless, and get a kick out of the controversy they've created and think it proves they are the injured party.

    i am most certainly not prepared to boost the ratings of morons by commenting... and believe me i've seen some really offensive shit about africans all over blogland, not to mention some highly insulting things about women. if it was really bad, i don't give anyone the benefit of my comments, but make a post on my blog countering that, but making no link.

    i would rather put my energy into building positive relationships, in supporting those i consider deserving and fuck the words of the rest.

    ... if i see wrong actions tho, i will step in to impede those actions to the best of my ability, such as someone making harrassing comments leading some friends to shut their blog last year.... i got them to reopen their blog, and said person to apologise (tho i still think him despicable)... still i do it all on my own blog, not on the blog of the offensive person.
Free, fair play to you.

We all choose to object in different ways. I choose to take my objection to the place where the offence was initiated.


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