the curse of the "attached" individual  

JadedJewelMacho 56M
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8/5/2006 11:36 am

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5/23/2007 9:24 am

the curse of the "attached" individual

It is interesting how everyday morality permeates the swinging scene. Why is it that attached individuals looking to add some excitment to their lifes, or look for something that is missing sexualy in their attached relationships have to deal with the discriminatory comments of those that, after all, are looking to add some sexual fun to their lives?

It is understood that those looking for relationship are willing to exclude the "attached" person. Their quest transcends sex and it is, for the most part, a desperate attempt to find their souldmate in a SEX web site...

There is wide evidence that "extra-curricular' sexual satisfaction may indeed contribute to the permanance of what would otherwise be a failing relationship due to sexual dis-satisfaction.

Intersting, the way we view people's relationships in everyday life seems to bias our responses when sexual activity is concerned. Just like in the vamilla world out there.
Moreover, it seems that women have a harder time "accepting" attached males than otherwise. Perhaps, this could be construed as self-preservation or a form of gender censorship.

Another petpeeve of mine is women that suggest that sponteaneous, wild, off-the-wall one night stand, on-the-spot wild sex is conducive to making them lose their self-respect...
Self-respect has nothing to do with the ability to enjoy the hedonistic side of sex and life...even if for only one moment...
Actually, a spontaneous sex fling shows that the individual has high self-esteem, self-respect, and control of their the point that they can make a choice and not be bound by what everyone else might think of them..

The name of the game is SEX..pure and simple truth...

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So, any couples or singles want to play?


8/7/2006 7:57 pm

In the world of blogging we will find a controversial point of study that some will agree with and some will disagree with.I think its rather enjoyable to hear the comments of others and be able to post to each comment based on their thoughts of trying to disect something you said and wrote.Some people however do tend to read between the lines and can find the concept of most matters while others just read the words in front of them and will always have an issue with everything everyone says except them.Welcome to blogland.Enjoy and have fun.It will be a blast!

JadedJewelMacho replies on 8/8/2006 7:36 am:
Blogging ( a new concept to me..) has created an opportunity for individuals to present, and discuss ideas, viewpoints, attitudes, beliefs, etc.
As a social scientist my main goal here is to present topics that may "push the envelope" as it were addressing current issues in sex, sexuality, relationships, etc...
You are correct when you suggest that some people will read in-between the lines (or forego reading alltogether) or merely look at the words without a sense of complete understanding. These individuals will zero in on those aspects of the posting that they either agree, or disagree with, ignoring the rest.
I find most blogs tend to use "buzz" word as to shortent the message...albeit often adulterating the ideas...much like the media nowadays.
I thought the bringing a more "scientific" perspective may frustrate some people since I'll present cincepts based not only on a personal,biased interpretation, but also on up-to-date research on the subject..

My first post was meant to address that process..and I already have had some interesting responses, albeit not directly in here...
A sense of psychopathology is begining to unfold I think...

JadedJewelMacho 56M

8/8/2006 7:45 am

Food for thought.....
Do you think we are naturally monogamous or, on the contrary, we are predisposed to mate with as many individuals as our sexual fancy determines?
Sex, love, and relationships...three completely different things or is there a connection between all three of them? Can they exist independent of each other or is there a necessary connection?
Anyone ever had great sex with someone they disliked otherwise (not physically..)?
Just some ramblings thoughts for the day.....

2daycowboywanted 45F

8/15/2006 1:59 pm

First all I must commend you - you seem to know the difference between sex and love and lust. Few and far people now a days do. Second - you seem to be a very simple man who just wants what he wants. No reason to lie or hide from anyone, which is a good thing. I appreciate you stopping by the blog and leaving you comments. I look forward to hearing more of what you have to say!

As for your blog today - I dont have sex with just anyone. The desire, the desperation (lol) has to be there not just with me but with the other person as well. Things have to be equal.

Until later

JadedJewelMacho replies on 8/15/2006 2:37 pm:
Thank you for your comments. I do agree totally that to have sex with someone is predicated on attraction most often, need at times....
we don't accept our sexuality as we should...we always have to give it some other"meaning"...
thanks for stopping by.

brightstar2nite 57F

8/17/2006 4:32 pm

My first thought when reading this is, if people come to this porn site with the intent of meeting a soul mate I am afraid it may be an up hill battle. Sure some may find a lasting relationship and more power to those individuals.

The reality is most are here looking for what they cannot get out of their full time relationship.

Sex, lust and love are three total different levels in any relationship!
I love to be loved, I enjoy sex and I lust after new and exciting feelings and with not just anyone, but with people I am comfortable with. Perhaps these blend as time goes on in a long lasting relationship, like steps up a ladder.

Mostly I love lust, and sex with someone who can appreciate my talents and personality.
Oh.. the nymphos may hook up with anyone that suits their mood.

Couples are the lucky ones to share their intimate moments with others and then go back to normal everyday life, only with a little more spice in it.

More often than not, I don't think females can separate these feelings.

Those that preach about the morality of it all, have no business on a porn site , if they feel that uncomfortable with the subject.

No, I personally do not believe we are innately monogamous, that is something taught in Sunday school. Nature is all about the survival of the fittest and the natural selection is to whom your senses and desires crave. It may be one or 40, whatever one is comfortable experiencing.

JadedJewelMacho replies on 8/18/2006 2:26 am:
Well said...I have nothing to add!

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