Marriage as Chemistry  

rm_dragonheat23 51M
977 posts
2/21/2006 7:53 am

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Marriage as Chemistry


First the boring part.

In chemistry there is something known as a limiting reagent. This is the component that limits how far a chemical reaction will proceed. In its simplest form:
(2)02 + (4)H = 4H20

If you have a thousand molecules of hydrogen, but only two oxygen, the reaction only produces the same four molecules of water. You need the right balance of chemical to produce the result you are looking for.

I think that marriage is a lot like chemistry. There are many components that make up a good marriage. Things like physical attraction, mutual respect, trust, communication and the ever elusive “love”.

When one of these things is not present in sufficient quantity, the reaction can only go so far. If you do not have enough of any one of these present, can the outcome be a good marriage? What if one of the key ingredients is not present at all? Is it really even a marriage at that point?

I knew that all those chemistry classes would pay off one day.

angelgrrl 48F

2/21/2006 11:49 am

I suppose it depends what you expect from a marriage. It is a marriage in the traditional sense of the word but . . . doesn't handfasting just make so much more sense?


moonfire2u 69F
2602 posts
2/21/2006 4:32 pm

You forgot one important component in your equation...committment...if two people aren't both trying to work at the relationship or marriage...what hope does it have to survive?

kind thoughts,
Moonfire


moonfire2u 69F
2602 posts
2/21/2006 4:34 pm

BTW...you are sexy and smart...yummy!!!

kind thoughts,
Moonfire


rm_dragonheat23 51M
1158 posts
2/22/2006 6:20 am

Angel, Your insight is amazing as usual. However all the ceremonies in the world no matter what the “religion” can only create the union, it is up to the two parties to maintain it. I have witnessed many unions that have dissolved long before the legal aspect of the break had taken place.


rm_dragonheat23 51M
1158 posts
2/22/2006 6:25 am

Moonfire, I agree that both parties have to invest the energy to make the commitment work. Emphasis on BOTH. One of the two can invest the energy, but without the partner giving also, it is likely a losing proposition.
BTW ‒ Thank you.


HOTNBOTHERED0414 46F

2/22/2006 12:25 pm

I had all the parts to make a good marriage. But when he broke the "trust" part, everything else crumbled with it. And no, it is not a marriage, we are just going through the motions. It is more like we are roomates. He knows I talk to men on here, I even talk to mrrdking on the phone with him sitting there. He says he loves me, but it all left for me, when I was giving my all, and he gave his all to someone else. Now my "all" is redirected. Don't get me wrong, I still do all my good wifey stuff. He has clean clothing, a clean house, and meals. But my heart and soul is not in it.


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