Another Son's Friend Story  

rm_dragonheat23 51M
977 posts
4/8/2006 7:51 am

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Another Son's Friend Story

My ten year old son had a friend over yesterday. He was dropped off by his mom, who barely stopped the car long enough for him to jump out and she was away again before he ever reached our door. He had been over once before and I recalled that he was not a very polite child.
Yesterday, he hit heights of rude that I never thought imaginable. He walked in and said “I want to play my video game, can I use your TV?” I said ok and he plugged the game in and proceeded to play a single player game. My son was sitting there watching. I suggested that they play something that both could play and he said that this was the game he wanted to play. Whatever
About a half hour later he told me “I’m hungry, aren’t you going to feed us?” I wound up ordering a couple of pizzas. When the pizzas arrived he told me that he had pizza yesterday, what else did I have to eat? I told him nothing and if he was hungry he could eat the pizza. (I had asked everybody if pizza was ok before I ordered it)
They put in a multiplayer game and played that for a while when I heard him say to my seven year old. “You are supposed to shoot the other guys, not me you asshole”
Whoa !! I went flying into the living room and said turn the game off, I do not tolerate that kind of behavior here. My son begged me to let them keep playing and apologized for his friend. I asked his friend if his parents knew that he used that kind of language. His response was “my parents are jerks, they don’t care what I do”
That kid doesn’t realize how close to death he came in that moment.
I don’t think that he will be invited over our house anymore. My son does not need to hang out with a kid like that.

sassybelle21 32F
13313 posts
4/8/2006 9:20 am

That made me go WOW Kids these days are worse than adults. But then again, it's the irresposible parents' fault for not teaching their kids mannerism. Blah. Stupid and irresponsible people should stop breeding and then we won't have more of their breeds. Geez but if I was you and lost my patience, I'd have bitch slapped him

rm_dragonheat23 replies on 4/10/2006 5:56 am:
Sassy, I really came close to killing that kid. But his parents obviously never taught him respect. Maybe I should bitch slap them instead.

EroticaXTC 50F

4/8/2006 11:12 am

yes, that kid is definitely lacking in parental guidance,...his mom dropping him out of the car like that spells out she's glad he's out of her hair...
I'm curious as to how he behaved afterwards to you....sometimes a child like that will take a special liking to those that correct their behavior and act like their own parents should....
I don't blame you for not wanting that example for your son...

rm_dragonheat23 replies on 4/10/2006 5:59 am:
Erotica, after I had scolding him, he still acted like a spoiled brat. There was no lesson learned on his part.

julie4daddy34 45F
599 posts
4/8/2006 11:34 am

I have to agree with what everyone else has said. As the mother of 2 teenage girls, I'd have to say..the parents take the blame. I wouldnt have tolerated that type of behavior in my home, and would have picked up the phone and requested the parents come and retrieve their child. Most of us teach our children respect and manners. Sounds like the parents of the boy..havent. Unfortunate, but it happens more than most of us know.

rm_dragonheat23 replies on 4/10/2006 6:02 am:
julie, when we did call his parents later for the pick up, they asked if he could spend the night as they were both working late and wouldn't be able to pick him up until around midnight. (They own a bar). We agreed to let him spend the night, but shipped him off at the crack of dawn.

rm_BigDnLady 43M/41F
1140 posts
4/8/2006 12:14 pm

oh u did the right thing!! No way would that be tolerated in Our house either!! Did you inform his parents of what occurred??


rm_dragonheat23 replies on 4/10/2006 6:04 am:
BigDn, We told his mom when she picked him up. He was right, they don't care. She just smiled and said that sometimes he "gets like that"

pet_humility 48F

4/8/2006 12:36 pm

Oh oh oh... my feathers got ruffled and I didn't even
have to be there.. growls loudly!

rm_dragonheat23 replies on 4/10/2006 6:06 am:
Pet, I did a lot of growling while he was there. Some shouting and screaming too. A lot of head shaking also.

MoutnainGirl 37F

4/8/2006 1:11 pm

Its a shame because he probably won't ever know any better because he doesn't have a father like you or many of the parents out there to show them curtisy, kindness, and responsibility. Oh well..

Moutnain Girl

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rm_dragonheat23 replies on 4/10/2006 6:07 am:
MountainGirl, His parents let him get this way because of their lack of disipline and now they don't have a clue how to deal with the fact that their some is an obnoxious, ill mannered brat.

HBowt2 59F

4/8/2006 3:12 pm

Funny but I feel sorry for the kid....He's the product of bad parenting and he's going to suffer for their inability to parent.....I'd tell him he was welcome back but that while he was in my house he lived by my would be good for him to see that bounderies are put in place by parents who love their kids....

rm_dragonheat23 replies on 4/10/2006 6:10 am:
HBowt, I feel sorry for him too. He is going to grow into the same type of adult as he is a kid. A potential abuser in the making.
I realy hope that his parents wake up to that and put the brakes on his behavior.

kelly402005 52F

4/8/2006 7:42 pm

......{i]I got goosebumps when I read this.
I know that parents have slacked off on the guidance of their children now days.
~~ I don't know what I would have done. In raising my kids by myself, I've never been through something like that. Thank goodness. If the child did have tendancies to act that was, my kids probably warned them!!! My kids always had me there still do! My youngest is almost 16 yrs. old and I race to be home before her. I hate leaving her, when I do get the chance to go out. Then I bust my ass, trying to get home.
~~~ Now that I think about it, they always "seemed scared" of me, till they got to know me...... LOL!
My son had his wife scared to death of me, till we started talking.

Maybe what I'm trying to say is, "It's your house, you make the rules"! Do what you feel you should.

~~ hugs

rm_dragonheat23 replies on 4/10/2006 6:14 am:
kel, my kids know that I am strict, but they also know that I am fair. I hope that my kids turn out to be well adjusted responsible adults.
I was raised in a house that was strict, but fair. I think that I turned out ok and want the same for my children.

moonfire2u 69F
2602 posts
4/9/2006 9:34 am

When my kids were little my house was the house everyone came to play...whenever a child acted inappropriately I would send them home...with I'm sorry but I won't tolerate that behavior in my this case...I would have had the little bugger call mom to come get him....that would have not only sent a message to the kid but also to his are absolutely correct...I wouldn't put up with it again...

kind thoughts,

rm_dragonheat23 replies on 4/10/2006 6:18 am:
Moonfire, In today's society, parents often use their child's friend's parents as babysitters. Unfortunatly this was the case with this child. His parents dropped him off and were not going to be home till late. As much as I wanted his punk ass out of my house, the responsible parent in me let him stay, given the alternative.

aascrompn 42M
6444 posts
4/9/2006 10:25 am

I think you did the right thing! I would've put him in the corner!

rm_dragonheat23 replies on 4/10/2006 6:19 am:
In the corner, with a gag and leg shackles. That's what I should have done. Thanks for the idea.

southrnpeach333 50F

4/9/2006 5:13 pm

Ditto that. Roger. You are so right. And the only way I would let him back over is if you explained the rules at your house with Mom present and he agreed to follow them. And good to see you setting a great example for your son on the expectations you have for how he is to be treated.

rm_dragonheat23 replies on 4/10/2006 6:22 am:
I do think that we will have a heart to heart with his parents.
They are the "flower child" type of people who do not believe in disipline. That is a great approach when it works. In that case it certainly is not working.
This kids needs a healthy dose of Whoop-ass.

julie4daddy34 45F
599 posts
4/11/2006 4:33 am

You are so kidding me right? They drop him off, take off before making sure he even gets in the door alright, you call..ask for them to pick him up, and they tell you they cant until midnight? Um..I hear "be my babysitter for free" in there. OK..I'm gonna shut up now.

absolutelynormal 56F
6563 posts
4/13/2006 9:06 pm

How terrible to be that child and feel no one cares. Kids like that will often act out in order to get any attention, good or bad. Makes me very sad for him, however your job is taking care of your kids and I wouldn't want that child setting any examples for my own. Nice blog btw mac

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