AFF - whatever  

rm_corbu62 46M
35 posts
10/18/2005 2:22 pm

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AFF - whatever


I've dabbled quite a bit with AdultFriendFinder, trying to find some strategy that works. There seems to be a number of ways to participate, but I don't know which is right for me.

Posting an ad: The obvious first step. I've revised my ad a number of times - portraying myself different ways (but never lying) - and tried a few different photos (but no cock pics). I don't think I have ever gotten a single response to my ad, despite what I believe are several very desirable qualities. I even filled out much of the extended profile stuff. I have to conclude that ads for Men Seeking Women are simply useless. If you've had a different experience, I'd like to know your secret!

Replying to ads: I've replied to dozens if not hundreds of ads over the past couple of years. I suspect most women who advertise here get swamped with replies, so reply only to good matches and try hard to come across as interesting and worthwhile, careful not to go on to long or be too brief and addressing specific points in the original ad. I've had one good bite (which fell through) and maybe 4 or 5 "no thanks." The rest are ignored.

I don't know what it takes to be heard above the din.

Chat: I've dropped into local chat rooms every now and then, but these are pretty unsatisfying. I check out the profiles of the (few) women in chat, and these are never my type. I guess I should keep trying, because in chat you can at least get some feedback.

Blog: So now it's time to try this. I'm really a quite sincere guy who happens to also be a good fuck, and I'm hoping that greater exposure via this blog will help me find a match. If not that, then maybe a little insight in what it takes to make a connection in AdultFriendFinder.

rm_bunny69782 38F

10/18/2005 3:12 pm

Well I feel for ya... I really do! My story is one of success, I met the love of my life in the B.C. chat room. After having a few "less than desirable" encounters that left me feeling used and unfulfilled I wandered into chat and was instantly at home. I think the trick is to be yourself and get involved with the people in the room. They are warm and very real. i guess what I'm trying to say in all this rambling is that A F F does work and you can meet someone here that is real (although I'm sure alot of them aren't!) Don't give up! xoxo bunny69782


truckerwidow 46F
35 posts
10/18/2005 3:14 pm

You know...I can hear how frustrated you are and I don't blame you. I think that some people do "hook up" here and are quite happy with the site. I have had about three interesting conversations with guys from here...one has titillated my mind so much that honestly I wouldn't care WHAT he looked like because he is just so funny and smart and interesting. I think it is a matter of just finding someone with that elusive "chemistry." That could be very hard to find with just looking at someone's profile and going from there. I have tried talking to few other guys and it just doesn't click somehow. I don't what it is.... Anyway...good luck and hope you find what it is you are looking for!


9inchesandthick3 45
2 posts
10/18/2005 3:40 pm

I dont know what you are doing wrong but I got laid twice in one week from this thing. Its works great


bondra76 40M

10/18/2005 3:53 pm

Hey man

I feel for ya - I'm the exact same way. I've only been on this site though for like 4 weeks and I'm pretty drained of it.

One of the things I've learned is that pretty much you should search for people that have at least 2 pics in their profile, have filled out a personality profile, or who you've actually seen in a detailed blog or a chat room. I think maybe 1/4 to 1/2 of the chicks on this thing are porno ads or bots.

As far as your male profile goes...you're so exactly right..a male profile is pretty much fucking useless that's for sure. I have never once had a female write to me saying my profile made her want to write me (with her initiating the contact). You pretty much have to look like a model for that to occur.

As for replying to other people's ads, I guess the picture is all that counts. I dunno what else to say more than that. And every woman on here in my experience wants to be friends first (which is ok with me)

Blogs though..haha...blogs are great I believe...at least you can actually see what someones feelings are before you actually talk to them...I saw a great girl the other day and thought she was just amazing and was going to write her until I found out that everyday in her blog she wrote about her boyfriend....so you kind of get an insight which I can totally appreciate!


rm_dentmagnet9 60M

10/18/2005 4:38 pm

The guys outnumber the gals about 7 to 1 I've been told, yes it is extremely difficult to hook up here. When you figure it out let me know OK?


rm_tankerbabe 47M/45F

10/18/2005 4:58 pm

AdultFriendFinder- Whatever,
Apparently your feelings have been hurt by your lack of responses on the site. I'm sorry to hear that. From a woman's point of view, though, most of us don't respond to people that have "Ask me for a photo" instead of being able to view it with the profile. I'm not saying that everyone is superficial, but it does help to know what someone looks like. I personally feel kind of scared of people who don't show photos. Just an opinion. Everybody has one. Tankerbabe


rm_corbu62 46M
64 posts
10/19/2005 11:51 am

Oh my!

I didn't expect anyone to even read this blog, let alone leave comments. Thank you all.

I was going to get around in future entries to dissecting my profile and my experiences here. Already, from the comments of the women here, I can see a (near) fatal flaw in my presentation - yet sadly one I cannot fix.

Stay tuned.


rm_corbu62 46M
64 posts
10/19/2005 12:06 pm

9" I'm inclined not to believe you, but who knows.

Perhaps I should try your approach.


rm_corbu62 46M
64 posts
10/19/2005 1:22 pm

bondra76 said "I think maybe 1/4 to 1/2 of the chicks on this thing are porno ads or bots."

I've heard that. Oddly, I've never received replies indicating this.


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