The sound and the fury  

rm_connor696 60M
944 posts
7/8/2006 9:31 pm

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The sound and the fury

I'm noisy when I make love. I gasp, and moan, and cry out. But there's more. I move. I writhe and toss and buck. And my face opens up; past lovers have said that they see waves of emotion rushing across it.

All of which is to say, I guess, that I make love like a woman. And I'm fine with that.

I wasn't always like this. Like many people, and especially many men, I stayed quiet in my early erotic life, allowing myself only the movements necessary to get the job done. Hell, I would have felt totally awkward and discomfited had I tried to be more expressive.

Little by little, though, I shed those inhibitions. It took time; like all others, this language--of arousal and fulfillment--took practice. At first it felt a little artificial, and I had to think about it, which could take me out of the moment a bit. But after awhile, as I became more fluent, I discovered that I had a new way of expressing my passion. Maybe more important, I discovered that the expression itself teased up that passion, each increasing the other. And the most ecstatic experiences have been with partners for whom that expression increased their own passion, and thus their own expression, even as their expressed passion increased my own . . . till the result became both Dionysian and divine.

On the down side, however, lovers have more than once stopped to ask me if I was all right. And that definitely took me out of the moment. Worse yet, it left me with the impression that they thought I was, well, weird, that the very things showing how much they were turning me on were turning them off. That my behavior was a little off-putting. And that's kinda yucky.

All because I sometimes fuck like a girl.

So I wonder. Do obvious, demonstrative, noisy, and shuddering partners turn you on, or do they take you out of the moment? Do you view it as an expression or an affliction? Not, I think, that I can put the cork back in this particular bottle, but I am curious.

florallei 99F

7/9/2006 11:44 am

Hello Connor,

Give me a man who can fuck like a girl and I shall feel what heaven is like. My past lovers all have been quiet like a mouse...sometimes I wonder if they are even in the that is disconcerting and off putting...
Men should express themselves verbally and would help heighten the ecstacy...bloody turns me on but alas no one has been that way with me.
I am a true woman who moans...slutty passion overflows...perhaps I have scared them? Yet they tell me I have been the best...."you know what" of their lives. Sigh...can one not have everything?
I say to you fuck like a girl...there are many women who love and adore such passion and wildness. Cheers!

rm_connor696 replies on 7/10/2006 12:27 pm:
Thanks--I mean really, why should girls get all the fun?

song2262 54F
643 posts
7/9/2006 1:40 pm

LOL. This blog tickles me, for I have recently asked the "are you alright" question. I've occasionally been afraid for my head with the sight of his head falling toward mine like a speeding bullet and then back ...
(I'm going to be in trouble now )
Seriously though men may not realize how much their vocally expressed enjoyment spurns on their partners enjoyment. It's all about response, no? I make a lot of noise when I really let go and I love to hear a man groan and gasp and hollar. So please, enjoy's being you NOT fucking like a girl!

rm_connor696 replies on 7/10/2006 12:29 pm:
Yeah . . . it's all good until someone loses an eye. But I'm guessing that if you are inclined to ask your lover whether he is all right, what's really going on is that you are more than all right.

qyxx 60F
3267 posts
7/9/2006 3:30 pm

Please, please, continue to enjoy yourself. I feel sex is the ultimate in self-expression and if you are that comfortable with yourself, it is a good thing. A very good thing, indeed.


rm_connor696 replies on 7/10/2006 12:31 pm:
Sex is the ultimate self-expression? I thought finger painting was. Oh, wait . . . I forgot. The two aren't mutually exclusive.

rm_rsp54 58F
531 posts
7/10/2006 10:40 am

The actual occurence of my partner being loud and crazy dose not turn me on or off at that moment. But, just the fact that a man is unafraid to express what he is feeling, is a turn on in the big scheme of things. I know, this answer sounds odd, but it's just the way that I feel.

rm_connor696 replies on 7/10/2006 12:32 pm:
Hmmm. The abstract turn on. It is a bit curious. So just what expression of arousal does turn you on? (It's a selfish question. I want to add it to my repertpoire.)

PrincessKarma 43F
6188 posts
7/12/2006 7:59 am

Oh, if only we could get more men to do this... perhaps girly-man could then be taken as a compliment

I prefer the vocal trembling lover to the macho silent type any day. At least then I know he's enjoying himself as much as I am!

The Big Bang was the mother of all orgasms.PrincessKarma

SensuousWoman3 55F
3106 posts
7/21/2006 3:23 pm

Oh,my goodness! I know I am arriving a bit late on this post, but I just have to say, if that is what it means to fuck like a girl---being obvious, demonstrative, noisy, writhing and shuddering, then by all means, fuck like a girl! Please!

rm_connor696 replies on 7/21/2006 4:09 pm:
I don't think I have much choice at this point. Anything else just wouldn't be much fun.

So if you hear noises or feel the floor vibrating, at least you'll know who it is.

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