Do women initiate contact here?  

rm_connor696 60M
944 posts
8/5/2005 6:57 am

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7/10/2006 2:46 pm

Do women initiate contact here?

The extent to which traditional gender roles are or must be carried over to this site is an interesting question, and I'll try to say more about it when I've thought about it a bit more.

But right now I'm curious about one thing: how do the women here feel about initiating contact, sending either e-mail or winks?

Given the the gender ratio I suppose to be in effect here--something like one woman for every six billion men--game theory suggests that no woman would ever NEED to make a move. At the same time, many of the women here seem to know precisely what they want and have the chutzpah to go after it.

So how about it, you fabulous women? Do you just filter out the chaff that floods your inbox, or do you reach out and touch those who have piqued your interest?

1586 posts
8/5/2005 1:25 pm

You're definitely right about it being a girl's world on this site. I get enough email that I don't feel compelled to initiate contact.

Having said that, if someone interests me, I will definitely write them back.

I found that if someone "winked" at me and I winked back, that ended up being the extent of the contact. I don't even look at those anymore.

All of the invitations to network that I've received are from people that I'm not at all compatible with. Go figure. LOL

DirtyLilSecret61 55F

8/5/2005 2:34 pm

I initiate contact by either a quick little email or responding in a blog. Most of my email gets ignored because it's (for the most part) demanding and arrogant.


rm_qcao1 48F
197 posts
8/5/2005 4:15 pm

I do searches and initiate contacts.

Theflinkychick 105F

8/6/2005 10:21 am

I do as much as I am able being a standard member.

Not all who wander are lost.

Goldenhairgodess 63F
396 posts
8/6/2005 9:03 pm

I check the "Who's viewing me" on a regular bases. I check the profile and if there appears to be common ground I will send a wink. If I see no response then I figure there is no interest on their part.
For others who post, either in a group or in a blog, I feel a stonger connection and may send an email. How far things go really depends on how I am responded to. I try to respond to all emails though on occation some may get missed unintentionally.

rm_FreeLove999 46F
16127 posts
8/8/2005 3:42 am

Many SA guys are standard members and due to constraints of SA credit cards it is difficult to buy membership (I bought my membership b4 A F F changed it's credit card rules); therefore if someone winks at me and i like the look of their profile, i will send them an email.

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