How to talk to my wife about group sex parties  

rm_conflag 48M
23 posts
1/26/2006 11:36 am

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How to talk to my wife about group sex parties

I would love to explore this with my wife. I have even gone so far as to find a few places in town where parties are regularely held. The problem is I have NO IDEA how to open a conversation with my wife about it. My brain tells me that it's not something she'd be into, but she has surprised me before. Another part of my body is urging me to go for it, but my brain is still winning (lol).

Can anybody offer me some advice on how to open up to my wife?


rm_elfandmaiden 50M/56F
59 posts
1/26/2006 2:03 pm

Question, does your wife know about your activities on this site, and does she approve?

If the answer is yes, first talk to her about her views of this site service ask if she would to join herself, and join as a couple. The maiden I talked about this for a while before doing anything. Talk to about the possiblities of bringing in additional sex partners. If she is open to that subject, than you tell her how you feel about the parties and get her view on that before telling her you have already researched it. If and when she decides that she ready for that, then you give her all the onfo.

It may take time, but anything worth having is worth both working for and waiting for.

If the answer is no, well than you need to start with that and move up.

I hope you find this at least some what helpful.

Maiden's Elf


rm_conflag 48M
9 posts
1/27/2006 8:49 am

Elf - Thanks for the suggestions. This leads me to another question. How do I tell her I'm on this site? She has chronic pain from a car wreck she was in 16 years ago and knows she can't keep up with me. She has told me that she doesn't care what I do as long as she doesn't find out. I don't think there's any way I can tell her that I'm on AdultFriendFinder.

Maybe there's nothing I can do. I don't like living this part of my life without her, but this is the only option I can come up with.


rm_elfandmaiden 50M/56F
59 posts
2/1/2006 12:31 pm

Wow, That's a tough one, she has said she doesn't care what do you but doesn't want to find out what it is.

The only thing I can suggest is that you tell her how you fell about her not being a part of something important to you. Must first emphasize how much you want her share it with you and hope she understands when you tell her about your activity on this site. Don't tell her any details about any contacts you have already made, but she might just enjoy the open communication that can take place on this site, from the advice to the ability to discuss any subject without embarassment.

I'm sorry I cannot give you any better advice then this.

Maiden's elf

PS and sorry I didn't get back to you question sooner.


rm_VBHAPPY 47F
1 post
8/30/2006 11:47 am

There is a wonderful local group called Lovetribe.org which is devoted to the idea that humans are all craving touch and has different kinds of gatherings to support this idea. Maybe your wife would join you in attending one of the monthly YUMs which is the intro gathering - totally non-sexual cuddling - and she could hear about the other gatherings there which would provide an opportunity for dialog.
The other types of gatherings are Cuddles - also non-sexual, to Raptures, Bliss, contact improve dancing, Pujas, etc.

I encourage you to go to the home page of this site and look around.
Good Luck! !~Vinka


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