rm_cobweb36 56F
76 posts
7/23/2006 4:14 pm

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10/28/2006 4:25 pm


Share the rules with me!!

Having been with one person for 15 years, separated now for 4 years and dating for one year (it took a while for the wounds to heal!!).

I am uncertain about the rules.

Dating has certainly changed from the last time I was single, but then I have also changed, and what I want has changed.

I have met 3 guys while out socialising with friends, a more recent thing, and about 5 guys on the internet.
Some of these guys I have had a coffee with and known instantly that there is no chemistry, and hats as far as it goes.
Others I have quite liked and met with on one or more than one occassion.
The majority of the men have made it quite clear that sex it is and nothing more or less will do....clear boundaries, others have tried to sweet talk, so when if you do have sex when do you have it. The first date, the second or does it matter? When you have been intimate, it changes everything, you can't go back,and the phone or txt message doesn't happen again.

I have chatted with my "single" friends about this and I have a theory on this, which is for another blog, not sure if its right or wrong .... but I would love to hear your comments on this...from both sexes...positive and negative...look forward to it .....

secondtimeluck00 46F

7/23/2006 4:52 pm

Very interesting blog.

I am not sure about why sometimes guys do not call after sex is because that's all that they want or simply because the sex was not as they had expected. I think sometimes it can be a bit of both.

And there is another thing which I read from some book. The author (male) says that women often use physical intimacy to get to emotional intimacy. For example, women will start talking about personal stuffs after sex and men find that a turn-off. I am not sure if this is true tho.

2375 posts
7/23/2006 4:59 pm

I guess it's all in what you're looking for. I WANT them to leave me alone after sex! But then, that's all I'm looking for. I think secondtime is right tho, men and women have different views of sex sometimes.

SingleWarrior 52M

7/23/2006 5:47 pm

Hi and welcome to the Blogs.

Might scout around to a few of the guys blogs to see what they think about it.

I myself just posted a article about dating

grouchy68 48M

7/29/2006 7:18 am

The rules are simple.

1. Play safe

2. Never accept less that what you want.

rm_bhcni 49M

8/4/2006 3:59 pm

Women can be just the same these days (or worse)! Even if I have sex with a woman on the first meet and never again I would stay in touch as friends if she is comfortable with that and most are and often it leads to a relaxed 'fuck-buddy' sort of relationship and these seem to have a lifespan of 1 or 2 years in my experience.


SingleWarrior 52M

8/6/2006 12:27 pm your blog...very interesting...can relate to some of it...keep scouting and come back to me...communication has got to be the key...why are we all so bad at it?...why say I'll phone or see u next week, when thanx that was great...take care byee would do?....clear boundaries...x
I'm back

Carrickmania 55M
1360 posts
8/24/2006 9:44 am

What happens when you don't even meet and they say they'll give you a shout after their Holiday....LOL

"My thoughts are my property as the air in my lungs is my property." Tak Kak.

rm_tripti333 58M
3 posts
10/8/2006 6:25 am

Hi cobweb36
I was once 'letstouchnow'. We were going to catch up. never did. Silence. No messages or e mails answered or acknowledged. OK no worries. then several months later you get in touch asking if I am still interested. I respond and say i am. I write several times, but again silence, blank wall. I gave up writing. I think the scourge of this site are the number of people, in my case, females, who just simply go silent. I think it is lacks etiquette, respect and shows the distinct quality of taking someone for granted. You talk about rules. How about the simplest of them all. Letting someone know in a clear and concise message, WHERE YOU STAND. In fairness I know you were going through some very difficult and taxing times, however, to ignore , well ...... take care Letstouch now

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