rm_cjcj9 41F
745 posts
8/16/2006 4:38 pm

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Since I have been looking at blogs and profiles, I am seeing little things that I have never thought about before. One of these is the friends section. It intrigues me that some people have thousands of friends. Some people have a couple of friends. What prompts you to ask someone to be your friend? What makes you accept an invite to be someone's friend? I noticed on some profiles I was turned off by friends. Do you accept all of the offers? Do other people's friends help/hurt your opinion of their profile? Just curious as always.


8/16/2006 5:09 pm

As far as invites go I only invite people to my network that I chat to in the Ireland room. Early on I accepted a few from people I didn't know suppose just flattered but don't do that anymore and am too lazy to go in and remove them As for other peoples friends nah don't pay much attention to it when I'm on a profile thats me I guess

tadpudgy 56M

8/16/2006 5:18 pm

Had one invitation from a nice lady who loves my sense of humor. We read each other and post/comment daily. It has indeed become a friendship. I am not comfortable in asking to be a part of a "friends" group, or doing invites. When people read blogs, post, comment, you sometimes get to see more of the 'real' side of them. I think that is what triggers the first step to the friendships out here. Blog on!! HUG=GASMS!!!!

Sulabula 45F
12659 posts
8/16/2006 5:22 pm

My network of friends is just friends on the site...some I have met and some I chat to in the room...If I don't see someone for a while...or they don't chat to me in the chat room...they get deleted...I reject a lot more people than I accept...

Sula xxx

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frassy_sass 54F

8/16/2006 6:11 pm

I don't accept all invites for friends. I do tell people up front that I don't have any pictures to share. When I get moved and settled I will have my scanner and then will start posting some.

2375 posts
8/16/2006 6:52 pm

Sounds like I'm the odd man (woman) out on this one. I usually accept all invitations, simply because it starts conversation back and forth and gives me a chance to get to know people. The blogs are a better way, but some people just don't like to blog. I never look at their friends network, because, like me, they may have accepted all. Good questions, all. Hope to see more posts from you!

cougarprey4play 41M

8/16/2006 7:51 pm

I send out friends invites to those I have interest in & have received invites from others who have interest in me.

Mainly I see the friends network as exactly that a "network" - you may find someone on another friends list that may peek curiosity or be someone you are looking for.

I don't have photos to share & not looking to collect, swap, etc. (I do have photos - all clean cut, nothing nude but usually send one out when I send a message).

Mainly it's great way to meet people who may share something (live nearby, something they posted you liked, the profile is of interest, etc.).

Seeing hundreds/thousands of friends is curious to me but usually I overlook it nothing important.

rm_talktame44 56M
63 posts
8/17/2006 7:31 am

Friends.....there are friends....and there are friends. If you are friend of mine....I don't need the world to know. I don't need to to show how popular I am. I don't need to keep track of either are...or you're not. The friends thing always makes me wonder.....but perhaps I think too much. I see a profile that tells me that people are more important than parts.....yet there's 100 friends and half em have that ol one eyed monster staring back at me.....a contradiction? Perhaps. Bottom line......I think friends are like testimonials.....I don't care for either. And though I've accepted invitations to be in a network.....I've never sent one out. I'm not sure the purpose. Being listed means nothing since actions speak louder than words.

rm_bluedog4791 42M
74 posts
8/20/2006 5:34 am

I think it's just another little gimic on the site that, as cougar says, allows you to maybe gain a glimmer into someone else and make a connection with them or someone in their network. On a larger scale I am curious if you use these networking sites outside of this, liked linked in, etc? I don't see the real appeal of these sites outside of trying to "brag" about who you know and be cyberspace form of name dropping. To me it's the same here and it seems AdultFriendFinder jumped on a fad here without really putting any further thought into it.

MillsShipsGayly 51M

8/25/2006 8:26 am

where ya been girl?

SirMounts 102M

8/30/2006 3:37 am

I guess there's really no downside to accepting many to a friends list. I used to keep it rather small, but now I generally keep everyone who is on there.
Good question, and I like your blog, cjcj9. *smiling*

rm_cysport11 55M
1013 posts
8/31/2006 8:35 pm

I asked the same question. What do you do with them all? You can't chat or reply regularly to them all. The only answer I got was it was for the pictures. I would rather only save those that I do have an interest in and yes, it does influence me if I will send a note greeting,200 friends posted would turn me away.

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