about meeting people  

rm_chitown615 34M
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10/5/2005 3:01 pm

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about meeting people

I have been on the site for about a week. Already I have seen a number of men, and some couples, complain that they are not meeting people though they have been on the site for years. I will direct my comments to men, since I know there situation better.
Playa have you ever thought that the problem is you? Have you ever wondered why you keep falling for the same routine with regards to emails? How many times a day do you log on hoping someone, anyone has viewed you and sent you a message? How many messages do you send a day hoping that you get one response? What is the tone/attitude of your message? You may be sending the signal that you are desperate. Chances are you are making the same mistake in your personal life which is why you probably turned to this site, failing to realize that the same rules apply. Here is some advice for site and that cute girl you are too scared to ask out.
Rejection is an unavoidable part of the game. Personal rejection hurts, and yes I am speaking from experience. Why expect and anticipate the worst before you even make your first move? If you think she is coming over to you forget it, asking a girl out displays the bare minimum of confidence that all women want. Forget about this out of my league crap. Everyone reaches a point when they realize that good looks keep the bedroom hot, but a cold heart leaves the relationship in the gutter.
Stop trying to fuck as soon as you meet. Ask your friends how long they knew a girl before they got some ass, you will be surprised. Some men can get it at the snap of their fingers, but for the rest of us it takes about a week or two of work. Time is your friend. An average looking man with some extra pounds, looks better if he can keep a job, so let her get to know everything about you. There is nothing wrong with being friends. She may actually point out what you keep doing wrong.
Everyone wants to feel needed but desperation is a turn off. Desperation implies that you have a need that you are incapable of filling yourself, thus coming across as incomplete with serious issues. This is not going to make the eyes of anyone looking at you light up, mainly because she would feel like she has to put in a lot of work before she knows what if you are what she is looking for. Stop sending email after email. People do have a life outside of the site!! Give her a chance to respond and if she does not move on she is probably not interested.
Lastly remember this is a website, there is no guarantee that you are talking to a real person. They are many people on the site playing games. Some may be infatuated with the idea of having sex with a stranger, but find the actual experience much less appealing. This is not an excuse for their behavior but try to understand their situation. Many use this site to experiment with their sexuality situations like this are bound to happen. If this makes you angry, you are taking this site too seriously, make sure you read and understand the above statement. That’s a word.

ThikAzButta923 45F

11/28/2005 4:36 pm

Men, listen up. Everyone, listen up. Very good message. Period.

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