Yes, I'm real.  

rm_chislut 42F
1534 posts
5/10/2006 9:35 am

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Yes, I'm real.


I get some mean-spirited, bitter emails that start with "If you're even real..." or some variation of that.

Does this make sense to anyone? If I were just a bot, then I wouldn't be actually reading the email and hearing all the anger.

If I'm real, which I am, I'm reading a nasty email that just means I'm not going to respond to you. Or, if you're unlucky enough to be the third or fourth not-so-nice email in a row that I get, I may go off and rant like hell back at you. Either way, I'm certainly not going to fuck you.

It's a lose-lose situation. I don't understand why anyone would choose that strategy.

I *know* it doesn't make sense to be taking all of these emails I get personally. These people don't know me. They're probably not even really thinking of me as a real live individual person.

I can't help it, though. My feelings get hurt. And when I'm feeling hurt I'm like a little animal -- I get snappy and bite. At everyone.

Guys, (uhm, I don't know, maybe Ladies, too?) I'm sure I'm not the ONLY woman you're emailing. Don't expect that you're the ONLY man *I'm* emailing, okay? Don't decide that I'm a total bitch just because I don't answer your email as soon as you'd like me to. Or can't meet with you as soon as *you're* available to meet. Don't "punish" me with abusive emails just because I'm one of the few real live women who answers your email.

(I've STOPPED doing that. Answering each and every email I got. Too much stress.)

If the only thing you can think of to email me is mean, then just don't send an email at all, alright? If you're really pissed off at me, rant on your blog.

And the "me" above applies, I'd guess, to any woman on this site. There might be some who actually enjoy throwing insults back and forth via email with people they don't know, but I doubt there's many.

One thing I've really learned from being on this site is that the saying "There's more fish in the sea" is true. Even if you are the most fabulous dream guy, matching exactly the one I always fantasized about, I'm NOT going to be an "old shriveled up cunt in a rocking chair spending all my time wishing [I'd] gotten just a look or taste at least of [your] cock." Really. I'm not. There are others out there just as fabulous as you. Instead I'm just going to spend a little while being hurt and offended. And then hit delete and "block".

Ok, I'm starting to calm down now, I think. Thanks for letting me vent.

rm_1SweetBitch 55F
8575 posts
5/10/2006 9:48 am

I have also gotten e-mails like this...my profile states I am not looking for hookups and yet I get atleast one e-mail a day asking me for a hookup. The subject of my profile is Keep It Real People...this is why so many ask if I am for real. Just ignore them and don't let them ruin your stay on this site.

No Day Is So Bad It Can't Be Fixed With Great Sex!

1 SweetBitch


blondietickler 43F
295 posts
5/10/2006 9:56 am

vent on. i haven't got any mean ones yet. hope not too. feel better.


longhardy2 42M

5/10/2006 10:06 am

Hey Cool down, would love to sleep with you.


Wordsmith2004 36M
7233 posts
5/10/2006 2:42 pm

"If the only thing you can think of to email me is mean, then just don't send an email at all, alright? If you're really pissed off at me, rant on your blog."

I believe the best words to describe this type of behavior from emailers are "desperate" and "insecure"

I pity the poor lil'sots

Conserve Water and Prevent Global Warming: Shower With A MILF!


absolutelynormal 56F
6563 posts
5/10/2006 8:07 pm

You say things the way I'd like to be able to say them. I've gotten some of those too, mainly when I first got here. I changed my profile around and men started thinking I was definitely real. I don't know if you have a thing in your profile that says something like "read my blog" in the profile body itself. That may help men to know that you're real. I dunno, smack the really bad ones around, it's kinda satisfying in a beat a handcuffed man kinda way, to tell one off and then ban him from contacting you again! lol, Mac


wakemeup31 42M

5/10/2006 10:05 pm

Hey, if you're gettin' 400 emails in a matter of days, nobody should expect you to answer so quickly. I got 400 emails once, they were all for Viagra..


rollingrock61 55M

5/10/2006 10:05 pm

I was always told,(if you don't have anything nice to say don't say any thing at all). Your being honest about your thoughts, feelings and desires. People are joining this site to find partners, willing partners. Are you not the type of woman men are trying to meet. Are these people who are sending the offensive e-mails afraid of you because you are what they are not, open about their sexuality, their wanton desire or their inability to act on theirs. I go out with my friends to the local bar and i hear she's a slut, she's a whore or she's been picked up so many times she's starting to grow handles. Well i aplaude these girls they obviously like sex, seems like i have a lot in common with them. For those people that think sex is dirty, tell them it is- only if your doing it right.


rm_onlineparty 33M
23 posts
5/11/2006 6:10 pm

Alot of it I would say has to do with insecurities...you dont respond fast...some take it to thier pride(not sure why someone would seeing a women going to get alot more email then a guy. So it going to be a pain for most women to get to them all.) That to me just says the guy just ran out of thing to come up with to get you to talk to them and they should basicaly go out in the real world and learn how to talk with people.


goodguysneedit2 56M

5/13/2006 12:55 pm

I know many men face an avalanche of fake profiles here...so "real" may be questioned there.
Yet if they took the time to see you had a blog section, they should know you are real!..lol

"Real" could also be the suggestion that you sound too good to be true....ie... they are dying for you, but they've confronted a lot of fakes on here and have become suspicious as a result.

But there's another form of "real"... and it's based on actually really being with you, rather than the fantasy of you.

As for the rest.. you sound right on the money.


scooter4u1976 40M

5/14/2006 3:24 pm

if a guy actually has some kind of knowlege when they are looking they can spot a fake ad when they see it.most fake ads are standard members,pics look professional or if you read porn mags you may have seen the same pics before,and profile desciptions say the same thing, and as for me,my matches in distance are all 13 miles from me with no variation..i have done some experimenting and it comes up the same..probably a main company in downtown chicago loop area.by the way..i live in the sw burbs and work in park ridge..we may have seen each other before and not realized it...to all the guys reading this response..BE MORE OPEN TO ACTUALLY PAYING ATTENTION TO THE ADS IN DETAIL before you waste your time emailing a bot.


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