rm_chislut 42F
1534 posts
6/28/2006 8:25 pm

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8/31/2006 9:13 am


I like when I find that someone has testimonials and reading them. They're nice. Of course, since you can dis-approve a testimonial given to you, there *wouldn't* be any negative ones.

Which makes me wonder a bit... I don't have any. Even though I've gone on dates (in my vernacular) with guys from here. So, does not having any indicate BAD testimonials?

On the other hand, I haven't *written* any testimonials directly on anyone's profiles. But, for the most part, that's not because I was unhappy. Even the few dates I've complained about, I could still find something nice to say about them. More than just nice. Every one of them had something special about them. Of course they did or else I wouldn't have engaged in sexual activity with them! I DO have some taste, you know.

The reason *I* haven't written testimonials is because I'm not sure they would want anyone to know that they'd had a "date" with me. That's not low self-esteem rearing its ugly head, btw. I've had multiple experiences where I've been with guys -- either dating or "just sex" -- where they didn't want anyone else to know. For various reasons. Anyway, so it *does* occur to me that someone *might* be embarrassed to have it known that they had any sort of relationship with me.

On the other hand, I suppose I could write testimonials anyway and just have them NOT approve them. Without their approval, the testimonial doesn't get posted. Sometmes this writing really triggers something in my brain. I actually hadn't thought of that until right now.

That still doesn't explain why I don't have any, though. Surely, guys, your experiences with me weren't ALL bad, were they??

Do other people (YOU people who are reading this!) write testimonials? Would you *want* someone you'd met to write one for you?

Oh, and for those of you playing along at home (i.e. you've read my past few posts at least), my eye is improving significantly each day. Still photophobic, but besides that no pain. And I think I may have lost a bit of distance vision, but I'm not positive about that yet. I'm just glad to be pain-free for now.

Satyr48 67M
1773 posts
6/28/2006 9:53 pm

I haven't gotten any teatimonials either - at least none in print, lol...
But what I don't get about some, is...
A "testimonial" is supposed to be an endorsement of someone or something you know about and have experience with. Many of the testimonials I read here are "So-and-so is hot... I wish I could meet her/him", which means they never met! So how can that be an endorsement?
A testimonial should be something like "I spent the weekend with _ _ _ and he/she was really nice and the best sex I've had in months!"

Pleasing women in unbelievable ways for 45 years...
You could be next...

2hard2betrue 42M

6/28/2006 10:21 pm

Satyr's right. I've seen a lot of "you're so hot, I hope we can meet in person" testimonials. Those aren't testimonials, they're just a way to weasel your way onto someone's profile page.
I haven't gotten any AdultFriendFinder testimonials either. I did offer to write one for someone, I guess I should write it and see if she approves it.

I hope there's no permanent damage to your vision, but I'm glad you're pain-free.
Most of the testimonials I get these days come from either text messages, or non-AdultFriendFinder emails.

I'm not totally sure some AdultFriendFinder hottie would want a testimonial from some goofy guy with a jack in the box head...lol

As for guys not wanting anyone else to know they've been with you... I don't get that at all. Everyone I know knows who I've "dated" and I'm damn happy to brag. I might even show 'em a picture or two... all my experiences with women on AdultFriendFinder have been memorable and great on many levels. Some women on AdultFriendFinder I've been with, I would consider almost friends, despite the limited interaction. Some people are just weird about things...

Wordsmith2004 36M
7233 posts
6/28/2006 10:25 pm

"Do other people (YOU people who are reading this!) write testimonials? Would you *want* someone you'd met to write one for you?"

YOU PEOPLE?? It's always the lil'preppy chicks that go on about us bein' YOU PEOPLE...so...so insensitive of you!

We prefer the term "gentile community of Blog Friends"

Personally, it doesn't matter to me...if they're feeling "giddy" enough to shout it from the A double F rooftoops, what kinda NARCboy would I be to spoil their fun?

Conserve Water and Prevent Global Warming: Shower With A MILF!

Wordsmith2004 36M
7233 posts
6/28/2006 10:27 pm

Gentle* bleh... I took a look at that last comment and just suddenly realized something just wasn't kosher about it!!

Conserve Water and Prevent Global Warming: Shower With A MILF!

cheddarguy60 56M
50 posts
6/29/2006 10:01 am

With such an adoring group of fans, you don't need testimonials.

jameson62 54M

6/29/2006 12:48 pm

I think you would like a testimonial or two for the sheer sensual pleasure it would produce. What could be more of a turn on than someone letting you and everyone else know how much fun your "date" was.
It is kind of like exhibition and praise all rolled up in a moist memory.

rm_mtnravyn 60M
890 posts
6/29/2006 1:00 pm

I agree with much of what has been said about the downsde of testimonials. How can one be written when a person hasn't spent time with that person. It almost seems as if they are more negative than serving a postive purpose. I believe it also speaks volumes about the credibility of the person posting such a testimonial and the one allowing it to be posted.

I do have one and it was earned and it was from someone who had become a friend.

I pay no attention whatever to anybody's praise or blame. I simply follow my own feelings.
Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart

rm_onlineparty 33M
23 posts
6/30/2006 8:16 am

I think that the main reason people dont write testimonials, is the fact that they are not sure if the other person would want to have it out there what they have done with them( Don't kiss and tell type thing). Anther reason they might not put those things out there is they never knew that the person would have a choice if it was going to be used or not. ( at least I know I did not know that untill you wrote it hehe .) So that would be my 2 guesses why people don't write them, and like everone else wrote aready, the ones you do read just say your hot lets get togather etc..

goodtimesman76 40M

6/30/2006 3:07 pm

I'd say go for it. Write a testimonial if you feel like it. You made the excellent point that if someone doesn't like what you write they can disapprove it or delete it. I myself am new to this, and haven't gotten further than trading a few emails with fake profiles (very frustrating). As for having someone give you a testimonial, would it be too much to ask? Now that I write it out, it would seem an uncomfortable and almost inapropriate thing to ask of someone, but you should know whether or not they would be comfortable with being asked to do so. Why not then? I'm sure you've earned a good testimonial or two...

lucky91011 36M

8/29/2006 1:01 am

I personaly think testimonials are a joke, because the person has to approve them first. the only time i have even wanted to write a testimonial was because i wanted to warn other people of this member but im sure she wouldn't have approved it

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