More than 2 dates and other ephemera  

rm_chislut 42F
1534 posts
9/6/2006 6:21 pm

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9/8/2006 10:32 pm

More than 2 dates and other ephemera

Yeah, I don't know what that title means either.

I've changed my profile to indicate that now I'm looking for... well... I still don't know what to call it. Not a one-nighter. Not Friends with benefits -- because, personally, I've found the benefits part of that not to be so evenly distributed among the friends involved. Not a committed Long Term Relationship, though, either. Something between the one-nighter and the LTR. A Friends with Benefits with Potential. Which means more than two dates, I guess, so I have to nix that policy.

Other random thoughts:

I like the new movey smileys. I feel like thinking up things to say just to be able to use them.

I just got back from my ex-boyfriend's place. We talked. Had a beer. Gave him a blowjob. Then I left. I didn't really get anything obvious out of it, but I still had fun. Does that make me weird or what? I say I didn't get anything "obvious", because I did get *something* out of it, otherwise I wouldn't have done it and wouldn't have left with a smile on my face. Ok, first I really *like* giving head. And he tastes particularly good. And, damn, he just *appreciates* it so much! It's nice. Hmmm... I can't help but think of the people who criticized my earlier adventures and are soooo sure that I'm disturbed in some way. I'm pretty sure they'd see this post as more evidence for their theory, but hey, if I'm crazy and *happy* then who the hell cares if I'm crazy?

That's it. I have nothing else for now. I thought I had more random thoughts chasing around in my head, but they're hiding and I can't find them at the moment.


frassy_sass 54F

9/6/2006 6:58 pm

Hey GF....I getcha. I know what you mean when you say,"I didn't really get anything obvious out of it, but I still had fun."
You like doing it and hope he would return the favor and enjoy it.

Screw those who are critical of your choices. Live it to the fullest and one day you might have some stories to tell your grandchildren. Of course, they will never believe their granny EVER was so hot!


rm_chislut replies on 9/7/2006 6:03 pm:
LOL! Yeah, some stories!

Glad to hear that someone else gets what I mean, though. Thanks.

rm_jps116 37M
2 posts
9/6/2006 7:20 pm

Hey sexy! Long time no chat! Great to read your blog. Screw those who criticize your choices. After all, they are YOUR choices and no one elses. As long as you "own" the decisions you have/will made/make, then that is all that matters. One of my biggest complaints about people in this world is that they cannot "own" up to a decision or choice they have made. Life is full of choices and we all make them. The "real" people make them, accept that they have the decisions they have made, and go through life being more comfortable with themselves. Good for you for being on of those people and owning up to it. You loved it, he loved, so who the hell cares!

Hope we can chat again sometime soon sexy! It has been awhile! Ill be in the Stack


rm_chislut replies on 9/7/2006 6:07 pm:
Hey there. Yeah, I fell of the face of the Planet AdultFriendFinder for a while.

I may have trouble owning up to *some* decisions I've made in life, but I'm pretty open about and comfortable with any I've made in this particular arena.

(Sometimes TOO open... but it's so much fun to see my sister and/or friends turn red and go "AGH! TMI!!!")

XJackinyourBoxX 42M

9/6/2006 8:22 pm

The people that question your choices just don't understand. It's only the silly self-righteous that judge. Besides, nobody gets hurt and everyone seems to have a smile on their faces. I've got one on mine, but that's a different story

rm_chislut replies on 9/7/2006 6:08 pm:
Well, who *wouldn't* have a smile on their face if they had such a lovely hat atop their head?

rm_jon4u6940 47M
1 post
9/6/2006 10:50 pm

Hello chislut, I haven't had the pleasure of meeting you yet, but I hope that will change. I am sorta new here and haven't read any of your other blogs, but I don't think you're crazy at all. I don't see anything wrong in your actions the other night. Besides, who gives a damn what other people think anyways, right? If they don't like you for being who you are, then they can screw off! ;!; (like the use of my smilies?) Like you stated..."if I'm crazy and *happy* then who the hell cares if I'm crazy?"... I think is a good motto! So take care, and hope to talk to you sometime soon!
Ohhh yeah.... oral sex rules!!

rm_chislut replies on 9/7/2006 6:23 pm:
Well, welcome to this odd little piece of the world. AdultFriendFinder, that is, not my blog. Which you're also welcome to.

Now, go read the rest of my blog! The rest of us will wait for you here.

(See how much fun those smilies are?)

rm_zhadeey 42M
1 post
9/7/2006 1:59 am

Hell, I commend you too, CHISLUT... but if this begins to be a habit, relying on the ex's rod as a substitute for new experiences/moving on, well, maybe that's worth examining/mulling over a bit...

If only it were so easy to get some "chin music"from NEW folks in our lives or those parties we'd LIKE to get with but never were able... THAT would be a ding-dong-dilly-of-a-DINGER!!!

rm_chislut replies on 9/7/2006 6:26 pm:
If anything, my ex is relying on me more than I am on him! I certainly don't shy away from new experiences, but it's nice to take a break from that once in a while with someone (or something) more familiar.

"Chin music" -- that's a new one to me.

Kristofer32 46M

9/7/2006 3:51 am

Hey Chi,

Glad to see you are still here and there is hope, now, for more than one date for the guys in the world who would appreciate you. I have to tell you, I wish I had an ex that would just show up, have a beer and, oh by the way, "I sure would like to give you a BJ." Anybody who looks down needs to go self-copulate.


rm_chislut replies on 9/7/2006 6:30 pm:
LOL! I didn't say a second date was *guaranteed*, though!

And, just to clarify, we DID talk/have a normal catching up conversation *before* the oral sex, too.

cheddarguy60 56M
50 posts
9/7/2006 4:06 am

Yes indeed, it is good to have you back in bloggerdom.

And yes, it is amazing that some people can't just keep their cyber mouths shut about what makes other people happy.

BTW, I got a new book by Liz Williams ("The Demon and the City"). On the back cover there are the usual publisher review quotes. The citation on one quote is credited as "Beth Dugan, Bookslut." Now you haven't been holding out on us and running another blog somewhere out there in cyberspace, have you?

rm_chislut replies on 9/7/2006 6:35 pm:
Well, *of course* I have. But that's another story altogether.

Yeah, Bookslut is awesome. She's here in Chicago, too! I wish I could claim to be her, but alas, I'm not.

rm_time1665 51M
1 post
9/7/2006 9:48 am

No it does not make you weird or anything .Just make's you who you are .

TurnLock 59M
577 posts
9/8/2006 3:09 am

You're crazy only if you do harm. Since that's not the case, do what you want. It does my heart and hard on good to hear of a woman who just likes giving head. Maybe one day, I'll find my woman. But to your problem, maybe you should save the blow job until after the sex. It'll help to get him back up and he might be good for another round.

kubbie1 38M

9/8/2006 2:11 pm

I think the term could be a "tweener" for between a LTR and a one nighter.

I encourage you to write more. Ramblings with a purpose.


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