Identity and Anonymity  

rm_chislut 42F
1534 posts
5/19/2006 7:42 pm

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Identity and Anonymity

I'm considering whether or not to put a "face photo" on my profile.

As I become more comfortable here, I, well... I feel more comfortable here. When I decided to put a photo on here at all, I took the one I have now and I sent it to an ex-boyfriend whom I'm still friends with to see if I was identifiable. He said that because he already knew me he could recognize that it was me, but if he had never met me before he wouldn't recognize me in real life just from having seen the picture. (And no mention whatsoever about whether or not my tits looked good. Bastard.)

When someone emails me and I'm interested, I send them "regular" pictures if they ask.

I know I want to see face pictures of guys to see if I'm attracted to them or not.

Any opinions from those few people who read and comment here? Does having a face photo matter? I'm not planning on running for office. Ever. Would it be imprudent to be able to be identified?
What if I'm planning on having more non-G-rated photos here in the future, too?

honeypot7473 43F

5/19/2006 8:42 pm

Personally I think the picture you have on there is very attractive, if someone wants to see your face and you don't mind showing it then you can always send one upon request. Btw...your breasts are beautiful.

SexyRycheBabe 45F
820 posts
5/19/2006 8:43 pm

I just recently changed from a boob pic to a face pic and haven't at all regretted it. I've even received some posts/emails complimenting me on it. Try it and see how you like it.

49AK 55M
1823 posts
5/19/2006 8:51 pm

Having a photo doesn't matter at all, as long as you respond to people that email you and have at least a half-way intelligent profile. I like looking at tits and other things, but it makes no difference to me in terms of convincing me to initiate contact or not. In fact, there is a certain group of profiles I don't respond to because of the picture.

In short, having no picture doesn't dissuade me from initiating contact, while having a picture might.

angelofmercy5 59F
17881 posts
5/19/2006 8:53 pm

I'm with you.....once I have more contact with someone....I like to see their face. I will only caution you that posting a face picture on your profile and blog is a personal decision. We live in a large Navy town....and my husband was recognized from a picture he posted blurring his face.....and from a very unlikely source too. It caused some big problems....and because of that...I am more cautious about it myself. But there are others here who post a complete picture of themselves and seem to have no problems with it.

absolutelynormal 56F
6563 posts
5/19/2006 8:54 pm

I know you and I share a love of books. I don't chose books by their cover. I know you know where I am going with this....

You could do a little experiment....

1) Leave your picture up like it is

2) Take it down and put up G rated

3) Do both.

4) No pic at all.

Try them all and see what happens

rm_verygood269 42M

5/19/2006 9:07 pm

pics are overrated. I'd rather read a great profile than see a pic. Except your pic of course. Your ex-boyfriend should have told you your breasts are lovely. But I guess that's why he's your ex. So I'll do it for him.

BTW... Your description was great as well.

NSCR99 44M

5/20/2006 4:11 am

No need to post a face pic, although it would be nice to see your eyes. The pic you do have posted is fabulous. You have an awesome body. Where at in the Chicago area are you? email me if interested. Nscr99....

rm_kid909 40M

5/20/2006 1:50 pm

Your pic is great and your breasts are fantastic! My feeling is that you can post a general, not highly-recognizable photo at first and then send more identifiable pics to someone upon request.

rm_expect_humor 44M

5/20/2006 3:52 pm

First off, there is nothing wrong with the present photo and it hasn't hurt your options here has it?
Second, if you do choose a face pic, please be smiling...
Lastly, nice breasticals.

rm_onlineparty 33M
23 posts
5/21/2006 9:34 am

I would say it is up to if you mind someone that you knows seeing you on here? and can this effect you anyway outside of this website. I know if some people saw that I was on here I would never hear the end of it...But you got to think too, if they saw you on here that mean they are a member on here to . For a face pic or the one you have now I think the one you got now is beutful, you can see what you basical look like but still does not show it all. I think for most people it is easyer to send a pic after you get to know someone or chat for alittle bit. If I had to choose, I would like to see a pic with no face, that way thier still something to look foward to when meeting someone, but that me .

rm_shaveclean2 56M/43F
691 posts
5/22/2006 7:49 am


We don't do face pics!! We show face pics only after some interaction!! That's just our preference. However, I much rather see someones face than a Dick or Clit Pic!!!

G the female 1/2 of Shaveclean2


AGNJoe1 47M

5/22/2006 9:30 pm


While your breasts are lovely, a face pic would be very nice as well. However, you can keep the face pic to be put inside your profile as a secondary pic while your main pic can be what you have now.

Personally for me, I prefer a face pic however. Face pics for me...let me say that for me, the eyes are the windows to the soul for me. If you have that look and those eyes are looking at me...yeow!

Instant boner!

Some women like that, and some guys like that. Of course there are people that just like the body pics or prefer the up close genitalia pics, which if they are good, eh...if they are bad...whoa, are they bad. And I mean bad in a bad way.

It's all personal preference, hon, and it's totally up to you.

Ok, so I just added to your post count there, so now I need to go back to my blog and pimp it out somehow.

And I'm still waiting to hear from you!

cheddarguy60 56M
50 posts
5/24/2006 5:09 pm

While your photo is compelling, what catches my eye (and mind) is the personality. So nude, full face, or dressed up wearing the Lone Ranger's mask works.

I actually had a lady chew me out - in a very nice way - because I was ga-ga over her fully clothed standing-in-front-of-a-tourist-marker photo (hey, it was a great shot with a riot of greens, blues, and whites), while not commenting at all on her topless shots (which were also nice, but not as well staged and photographed as the lead pic).

Like Rick Nelson sang, you can't please everyone, so please yourself.

goodguysneedit2 56M

5/25/2006 10:49 pm

Chi... you know your photo cranked me right up from the start.
About face pics... think security.
There are blogs being written as I type this about people finding their face pics all over the internet being used on phone-sex ads and everything else.
ALSO... you can easily lose your's grounds for being fired if you are identified here and effect the repute of your employer.


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